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The “new black” doesn’t blame other races for our issues. The “new black” dreams and realizes that it’s not a pigmentation; it’s a mentality. And it’s either going to work for you, or it’s going to work against you. And you’ve got to pick the side you’re gonna be on.He’s since been dragged for that statement by a number of black writers and thinkers across the blogosphere. They’ve likened his comments to Bill Cosby’s rants, which we all know were more problematic than a little bit. I’m sure I’m in the minority here, but I understand what Pharrell meant with his “new black” concept. People were upset with Pharrell, suggesting that he should stick to singing because they felt this “new black” mentality dismisses the very real challenges black people in the real world are facing. And I get that. I don’t think Pharrell was pretending as if these challenges don’t exist I think he was saying, we know they exist and we have to decide what to do with it, how to make them work in our favor or at least maneuver around them. Chris Rock said something similar when he was featured in the Venus and Serena documentary. I don’t have the exact quote but the sentiment was that being black is like training with weights on. You have to work harder than someone who doesn’t have that added burden, but in the end, it makes you stronger and more equipped to take on life’s hurdles. Another man, Bernard Kinsey, who started the Kinsey Collection, says that “Racism is like rain, you either get wet or grab an umbrella.” We could accuse all of these rich black men of being disconnected from the community, but then that would ignore the fact that their journey didn’t begin at the top. And since all of these men are over forty, we might even assume that the racism they faced was more blatant and flagrant than what we’re dealing with today. They’re not saying racism doesn’t exist. They’re saying racism doesn’t have the power to hold you back forever. Most black people in this country have indeed been victimized by racism and I’ll be the first one to say that it’s not going anywhere for a while, a long while. But I can’t wait racist white folks to sort things out and come to the realization that non-white people are, in fact, people too and deserve to be treated accordingly. Life is too short and they have far too much catching up to do. I’ll be sure to help encourage them when I can but I can’t wait for them, continually looking over my shoulder to see if they’ve accepted me yet. I’ve accepted myself and I have my own battles to overcome, my own goals to achieve. To be clear, I’m not suggesting that we turn a blind eye, shut our brains down in favor of living in a utopia that exists only in our mind. I’m saying we stop living our lives for white people’s approval and validation. It might not come when we want it and we don’t have time to sit around expecting it. Like the woman on the Twitter said, we have to celebrate ourselves, love ourselves and hope our white brothers and sisters catch up sooner or later. I mean, equal representation would be just and fair. But if they never do, we never needed them anyway.
This week, female members of the Congressional Black Caucus (CBC) sent a letter to U.S. Department of Defense Secretary Chuck Hagel, asking him to revise the recently released Army Regulation 670-1, which featured updated standards for female grooming. AR 670-1 went into effect on March 31, and included a ban on certain hairstyles, such as two-strand twists and dreadlocks. Other styles, like cornrows and braids are permitted if they’re under 1/4-inch in diameter.
In their letter, the 16 congresswomen say that the regulations are “discriminatory” and “[target] soldiers who are women of color with little regard to what is needed to maintain their natural hair.” The letter comes at the tail end of a wave of criticism by soldiers and civilians who’ve voiced concern about the new standards. A petition on the White House’s wethepeople.org has garnered more than 15,000 signatures from people who want the regulations retracted. Sgt. Jasmine Jacobs, a Black woman who wears her hair in twists, created the petition on March 20 in order to protest the changes. She told the Army Times that she’s “kind of at a loss now with what to do with [her] hair.”
You can read the rest of the story at Essence.com.
From Single Black Male
I came across an article over on Thought Catalog titled “13 Ways You Know You’re Dating a High-Quality Woman.” Here are some of my favorites or most cosign-able items from the list, and a few thoughts to go along with them:
4. She has a part of her life that doesn’t involve you. Friends, hobbies, career — whatever. She’s confident and independent enough to not need your involvement in everything she does.
You really don’t need to do everything and be everywhere together. In fact, I don’t even think that’s healthy. Men still like to hang with the fellas, and we’d like to hope that our sig others would still want to see their girls. Besides, what else is there to talk about when you know everything because you’re always there?
5. You wouldn’t think twice about inviting her into different parts of your life: a barbecue with your college friends, a dinner with your parents, a fancy work party — she knows how to handle herself in different settings. She’s mature enough to make a good impression with your colleagues and wise enough to know letting loose with your friends and having fun doesn’t mean she’s immature.
7. When she is in a situation where she doesn’t know people, she introduces herself confidently. She doesn’t cling meekly to your side waiting for you to facilitate every social interaction.
These two go together. A high-quality woman makes our lives easier. If even for a few minutes at a time. It can be difficult when you’re out at an event and trying to network or catch up with people, but you can’t focus on the conversations because you’re worried about her in the corner, or you’re constantly trying to weave her into chats. Don’t get it twisted; it’s polite and we should be proud to introduce her to people. However, it shouldn’t feel like a chore. This is another time where independence comes in handy.
Read more about dating at SingleBlackMale.org
Every day, black women struggle with various issues from inadequate health care to inequality in pay. The Black Women’s Roundtable has issued a landmark report that examines all the major concerns of African-American women today. “Black Women in the United States, 2014″ was created to assess the overall conditions of black women in the U.S.
“Here we examine virtually the full spectrum of the black woman’s contemporary experience in America. And though, we find that on many accounts, significant progress has been made since key historical markers such as the 1964 Civil Rights Act, Brown v. Board of Education, and the onset of the War on Poverty, there are many areas that remain in need of dire national attention and urgent action,” states the report.
Here are some of the key findings.
From Hello Beautiful
Hello Beautiful: When did you first fall in love with your hair?
Tamara of Natural Hair Rules: It was a Sunday afternoon…just joking! I don’t know the exact day and time. But I do remember feeling this sense of accomplishment because I had a natural hair breakthrough. I had just discovered the Denman Brush and Giovanni Direct Leave-In Conditioner. With that duo I had achieved my first perfect wash and go. “This is what I went natural for…”, I thought to myself. I probably even screamed it out loud.
HB: What’s some hair advice you’d give to your 14-year-old self?
Tamara: My 14-year-old self had a professional stylist that she called mom. So I don’t really have any hair advice for 14-year old me but I do have self-esteem advice. “It’s ok to be…” At that time I believe my ‘be’ was to be unique. I tried so hard to fit in but I still stood out. Tried to be what I thought everyone else wanted me to be. I was the girl with long, pretty hair. I put a lot of pressure on myself and began to identify with my hair. It wasn’t until I decide to go natural, did I shred everyone’s perception of me. I also found myself delivered from other people’s opinions. (Or so I thought. You know, it’s a daily battle I believe all women fight.)
Read more about natural hair at HelloBeautiful.com
There is an array of black female characters in fiction that are great topics of discussion — some for good reasons, others not so much. Here are some of the most controversial leading ladies from our favorite novels that we love and hate.
Rue, The Hunger Games
Though Rue was little and often seen as no competition, she proved herself to be agile and full of surprises. It was her small stature that allowed her the ability to get close to the competition to find out their strengths and weaknesses. Those who read the book before seeing the movie were well aware of Rue’s fate, but we still rooted for her until the end. She was a character that helped us learn about trust, love and sacrifice.