By Ashley I. Pettway

We’ve all been out with somebody that we liked and wondered if it was considered a date or a just friends hanging out. Ambiguous invitations like “Want to get some coffee?” or “Going to happy hour?” can leave you grasping for clarity but afraid to ask. Some people call these “almost dates” — those in-between meetings that seem romantic, but you just can’t tell. This can be torture if you really like someone. But don’t fret! Look for the following eight clues that you’re on a REAL date — and not an “almost date.” If you can’t check off a few of these items, it’s not the real thing.

First dates are awkward. There is so much you want to know about the person across the table from you.  They are an opportunity to show the best version of yourself and leave your bad day at work, or current fight with a friend, at the door.  Although it’s a time to really get to know someone, it’s important to stay away from a few behaviors that will leave you dateless in the future, at least with this particular man. Here are some tips for what not to do on a first date.