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If you watched “Basketball Wives last night”—and kudos if you didn’t—there were a couple of romantic scenes with Royce and her boyfriend, NFL player Dezmond Briscoe. In one scene, Royce talked about what it meant for Dez to meet her father and they both declared they were in love with each other and marriage was likely in the future. In the other, Dezmond planned a romantic dinner for Royce and then she surprised him wearing nothing but lingerie and a bath robe and they both almost forgot the cameras were there. It was sweet—and almost raunchy—but they kept it on the right side of romantic.

If you’re single, you probably thought, aww I want a man like that; if you’re in a relationship, you probably felt grateful for the man you have; if you were Dezmond’s baby mama, you would have thought, I got something to kill all of that.

Last night, out of nowhere, Christina Nero, the mother of Dezmond’s son, Dezmond Briscoe, Jr., initiated a Twitter war with Royce that she claimed stems from “hearing” Royce said some nasty things about her. After saying what she heard she dropped a little FYI that Dez had been sending her “freaky tweets.”

Not wanting to engage, and being slick at the same time, Royce ignored it, and responded, “…Hows Jr? Cant wait to meet him! ) He’s getting so big!”

That only added fuel to the fire, and after a few more exchanges, Christina posted a host of messages, allegedly from Dez, proclaiming all of the sexually explicit things he wants to do her. From the responses Christina was giving, it was clear she wasn’t on it, and since the messages were supposedly sent a month ago—although the validity of the texts is completely in question considering different font colors and the potential for fabrication—I have to ask, what’s the motivation? I can only conclude she couldn’t stand to see her ex happy and in love with someone else, especially on national TV.

From the responses she was sending to these alleged texts, I don’t think she would touch Dez with a 10-foot pole, especially if she’s the deadbeat daddy she claims he is. But something about seeing him happy and deeply in love as he proclaimed to be on last night’s show brought the hater out of her, and either she exposed suggestive texts Dez sent her or she fabricated them altogether. Either way she put the business out there publicly and on purpose to be spiteful. This situation is why I wrote a long time ago that I don’t think mistresses should confess that they’ve been sleeping with someone’s man—it always has the wrong motive, which means they always do it in the worst way. Even if Dez did send these texts, putting them on Twitter for everybody to see says I’m still bitter and I’m not over you, or if I’m not happy with someone else, I don’t want you to be either.

This stunt is hardly unique to the BBW crew. Though some women are more than happy to see an old boyfriend move on, I’ve seen my own friends engage in Facebook battles, putting up old profile pictures with their exes to upset the next girl, knowing they didn’t want anything else to do with that man, but they didn’t want him to be happy either. In the end, they just looked silly because they were putting in a lot of energy on a ship that had already sailed, sunk, and was lying at the bottom of the ocean. It’s the classic, if I can’t have you, nobody else can syndrome, and it’s completely embarrassing on a social media level.

Breakups are never easy and when there’s a child involved and you have to deal with that other person for at least another 18 years of your life, there will definitely be situations that bring up particular emotions or ill feelings that stunt your ability to move on when you may still be wishing things were different. Regardless, Internet battles are definitely not the place to hash it out. In fact, there really isn’t anything to hash out at all. If he’s moved on, let him be. And even if he’s still trying to get on when he has another girl, don’t try to throw her under the bus for choosing a bad dude just like you did. Women have enough problems to deal with without beefing over some man for no reason. If he’s the one you have a problem with, take the anger out on him, Facebook and Twitter stalk all you need to until you get it out of your system, but don’t be careless with her feelings. In all honesty, if things don’t work out with you and a guy the best thing you can do is move on and be happy that you no longer have to deal with him because the reality is, he’s somebody else’s problem now.

Have you ever had to deal with an ex who couldn’t let your man go? Have you ever been that girl trying to stir up beef in your ex’s new relationship?

Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.

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A Lawrenceville, Georgia, man took revenge to a whole new level in an effort to get back at his ex after she dumped him. Clearly scorned, the bitter brother plastered a semi-nude photo of his ex-girlfriend bent over and exposing her lady business all across shops and restaurants in their small city. And since the photo doesn’t show the woman’s face, he also decided to write her name, number, and address on the flyers in order to solicit “business” for her. Any wonder why she broke up with this fool?

The victimized ex spoke to wsbtv.com on condition of anonymity, and said she first found out about the flyer when a man called her and said he was “responding to the ad.” Confused, she asked what he was talking about, and the caller said he found her info in the bathroom of Lowe’s Home Improvement Warehouse in Gwinnett County. Since then, other men have called her saying they found flyers inside of a Red Lobster restaurant and even a barbershop. The woman says her phone constantly rings now and she gets text messages from unknown people all the time.

“I am living in hell. I don’t go outside. I don’t go outside, because I’m afraid,” she told the news station.

So far, the woman has filed for a temporary protective order against her former partner and police in Lawrenceville confirmed they are investigating the situation, but in the meantime there’s not a whole lot that can be done.

As far as I’m concerned, it’s time for her to pay her ex a little visit. This is exactly why I don’t sext.

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Has anyone else ever seen the film, War of the Roses, starring Michael Douglas and Kathleen Turner? If you haven’t, here is the quick summary: it’s about a couple caught up in a bitter divorce who refuse to give up the house they both once lived in while happily married. To get the other person out, they do the most ratchet of things, and in the end [SPOILER ALERT], they wind up destroying the house because of all their beefing. Well, it looks like we might have a real life War of the Roses on our hands, folks.

According to the folks over at TMZ, Deion and Pilar Sanders will continue to share the same residence, even as they go through their divorce proceedings. Even worse, they will continue to live together after Deion’s oldest daughter publicly called Pilar out for allegedly cheating and being a bad mother (again, come get your kids!), embarrassing her stepmother. However, they might be able to stay out of each other’s way, and the kids can even keep their distance too, as the house that the soon-to-be ex-couple resides in is a whopping 29,122 square feet. The home has 10 bedrooms and 13 bathrooms on 109 acres. As crappy as this setup does indeed sound, Pilar has no plans to gather up those boxes of clothing she packed (that her angry stepdaughter tweet pic’ed) and leave, so let the battle continue!

I’m sorry folks, but I couldn’t go through with a hot mess agreement like this, especially if my husband’s children are attacking me and not being set straight. But then again, I’m not sure what they both should do. I’m so used to hearing about men manning up in these situations and moving out and letting their soon-to-be ex and kids stay in the home, but like Pilar, Deion doesn’t seem to be going anywhere anytime soon. So what do you think? Who should go?

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