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Ask A Very Smart Brotha: My Man Still Sleeps At One Of His Baby Mommas’ House, Help!

July 23rd, 2014 - By Madame Noire
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Dear Damon,

I met this man at a club about a year ago. Already this was probably a seedy situation but shortly after that night when we met up with each other I realized he’s a pretty decent guy. As we got to know each other he started to reveal more and more about himself. I knew early on in the relationship that he had children but with each month, he seemed to add another. By the sixth month we were exclusive and he dropped the bomb, telling me he had 9 children with 7 different women.

By this point I really liked him and had so much invested, I figured I shouldn’t judge him too harshly for this. It was all in the past.

The problem came in when I learned that sometimes he sleeps at one of the mothers’ home. He told me that after he spends time with his child over there, he feels that if he travels all the way back to his house, he’ll fall asleep at the wheel.

Obviously, I have a problem with this and I’m wondering one, do you think I’ve made a mistake off top dating a man with seven baby moms and secondly, how should I ask him to stop sleeping over at his ex’s house?

- Dating A Straight Shooter

Dear Dating A Straight Shooter,

Every once in a while, I’ll get a question that requires some very deep thought and a nuanced, multi-layered response. And sometimes, I’ll get a question involving a situation so complex and/or serious that I’ll admit I have no answers; no clue about what the person needs to do.

This is not one of those situations.
So look. I’m not going to judge you for sleeping with the neighborhood seed spreader. And, I won’t judge him either. On the bright side, his semen philanthropy is helping to populate the community. Good for him!
But, if this relationship continues, I’m 99.999999% sure at least one of following will happen:
1. You will be baby momma number eight.
2. You will catch an STD.
3. He will continue sleeping with other women.
4. He will do prison time, because there’s no way he’ll be able to pay all that child support.
5. You will likely get into some type of altercation with either a woman he slept with or a woman he’s currently sleeping with.
6. When people in your neighborhood play “Who are these silly women who keep sleeping with this irresponsible and unemployable man???” trivia, you will be one of the answers.
7. You will regret your decision.
Sincerely,
Damon Young
Pittsburgh native Damon Young (aka “The Champ”) is the co-founder of the ridiculously popular VerySmartBrothas.com Their first book “Your Degrees Won’t Keep You Warm At Night: The Very Smart Brothas Guide To Dating, Mating and Fighting Crime” is available at Amazon.com.

Ask a Very Smart Brotha Live: Textaholics & Down Low Dudes

February 23rd, 2012 - By MN Editor
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 Catisha: How does a woman become more approachable for a man? LOL! I have been told I am not approachable, but I speak, make sure I give eye contact. I would like a male’s perspective. :-)

D.Y.: You’re on the right path. Making eye contact and speaking definitely do help. Really though, the best advice I can give for a woman trying to be more approachable is to just look like you’re enjoying yourself and your life. Genuinely positive energy attracts people.

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