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A funny thing happens to you when you’re pregnant with you’re first child and you only have a few weeks left in your third trimester–all patience goes out the window.
You think anything that happens to your body means you’re in labor. If you sneeze, that might mean you’ll go to the hospital that night. If you have gas, that means you’re having a contraction. If you fart, you look down to see if you have a baby.
The truth is – with the exception of a planned C-section – you never know when it may happen. Your grandmother will tell you that you’ll be early because all six of her kids were early, while your mom swears up and down you’ll be late like she was with you. No one knows. If they did, they’d be millionaires who’d travel the world to tell pregnant women exactly when they would have their babies.
Take me for instance: I was due September 19. Which was really special for us. Not only was it my father’s birthday, but it was also our fifth wedding anniversary. So we were really rooting for #Babyologie to get here ON TIME. You know how they say, “We make plans and God laughs”? Babies laugh at our plans, too. At least mine did. She laughed six days later when she decided to finally get here.
Oh, another thing: you know how in the movies when the pregnant lady goes into labor her water breaks and gushes everywhere and she + her posse frantically make their way to the hospital and she has her baby what seems like immediately? Totally doesn’t happen like that in real life.
My contractions lasted all day but finally became five minutes apart around 11:00 at night. When I arrived to the hospital, I didn’t see the doctor until an hour later because my contractions hadn’t gotten closer together. Finally when I did see her, my ultrasound revealed that my child was transverse. TRANSVERSE?! Yep. Instead of head down, she was laying sideways. Then my water finally broke. Only to find out that there was meconium leaking out with it, too. Long story short, my delivery had now become an emergency C-section.
Like any first mother who hopes for the best, I had skimmed over all the C-section parts in all the pregnancy books and blogs I read. Because I wasn’t gonna need a C-section. Nope. Not me. But actually, yes me. And I was terrified. I had never had any type of surgery or even broken a bone for that matter. So as I was in the most excruciating pain in my life, I was also scared like never before having to get prepped and pep talked by the doctor about what was going to occur during this C-section. But once I wiped away the tears and put my fears aside (thank goodness for morphine!) I had to put on my game face because I was leaving this hospital with my baby.
Twenty-two minutes into surgery, my baby girl was born. Her daddy saw her first because I was laying down and couldn’t see past the surgery curtain. But once I heard her cry, I cried, because my fear of having a C-section wilted in comparison to the love I have for her. Just hearing her paralyzed me with overwhelming emotion. And just like that, 41 weeks of pregnancy became more than worth it.
Because I had thee rather large fibroids, putting me “back together” took about 90 minutes. But I must say: I didn’t feel a thing – not even pressure – and my incision was non invasive and beautiful. (Thumbs up for Dermabond!)
As a first time mom, your delivery will never be what you expect. There’s no amount of reading or listening you can do to prepare you. Expect the unexpected and remember that the overall goal of your delivery – be it 37 weeks or 41 weeks – is that you’re healthy and more importantly, you get a healthy baby to take home with you.
Last season of Love And Hip Hop New York, left us with tons of drama we were glad we didn’t have in our personal lives. The main story line and love triangle of LHHNY’s season 4 revolved around Peter Gunz, Amina Buddafly and Tara Wallace and during the reunion show, Amina Buddafly announced she was pregnant with Gunz’ child after he told viewers his relationship with Buddafly was a mistake. Despite these circumstances and Gunz continuously denying their relationship the two have remained together and it actually looks like Gunz might have the potential to be a decent father based on his Instagram posts.
Today he posted a sonogram picture of his and Amina’s new bundle of joy, allowing fans to pour in their love and support. In the caption for the photo he simply wrote: “My wcw… its a girl!” which is breaking news for fans who were curious about the gender of the couple’s first child together. Though we still don’t have a due date, we can’t help but wonder if their might be a premiere date in the works for some sort of Peter + Amina + baby reality show. You know Mona and VH1 love a spin-off…Either way, congrats to the happy family!
Dear Dr. Sherry,
My father is very excited because I’m eight months pregnant with his first grandchild, a baby girl. He’s already making plans to babysit and spend time with her. While I appreciate his enthusiasm, my issue is that I don’t have a relationship with my stepmother—it doesn’t go beyond pleasantries whenever were see each other. My dad cheated on my mom with her and subsequently married her years later when I was a teenager. My mom passed away last year. I know of many paternal relatives who would expect me to see my stepmother as my child’s grandmother, but I just don’t feel it’s right. After all, they always told me to accept her as my own mother even when my own was alive. I don’t trust her because she and my dad caused my family so much pain. My dad will always be my dad so I must strive to maintain a relationship with him. I’d prefer my dad to interact with my child in my territory because I don’t want a bond to form between my child and his wife. If anyone will be called “grandma” on my side, it will be my maternal aunts. I don’t know how to explain this to my dad, and my husband thinks I’m being too strict. If we happen to visit my dad, his wife may interact with the child some, but I’d never want to leave my daughter with both of them because knowing their dynamic, she would provide most of the care and have influence over her. If it’s just my dad, it’s a different case.
Am I overreacting?
Protective Mother, Cautious Daughter
Read Dr.Sherry’s response at Essence.com
Everybody loves a cute kid and there’s no shortage of those on the Internet. Check out a roundup of our favorites!
“Oh That’s Vine!”
Like this little girl who is super excited to be on social media.
Raising children isn’t child’s play but being one is. Children experience their world through play. Play is the basis of learning in the primary years of life. Play stimulates healthy brain development, language skills, emotional expression, physical and cognitive ability. Cognitive development is the brain’s ability to process new information, think reasonably, problem solve, remember and relate what you learned to what you know about the world.
Letting our children go wild with playing can mean a messier home, spills, more dirty clothes to clean and sometimes even cut knees and scraped chins we need to tend to. All of that sounds like more work for moms and it is. But it is essential to allow our children to play and to join them in their play sometimes. If your child is not naturally motivated to play or you find yourself constantly discouraging playtime, you have a problem. When parents understand what play means to children and what it looks like, they become more inclined to support the playing process. So, here is a guide to help you help them.
Newborns and Infants: The youngest of babies experience everything as play. Changing diapers, smiling at family, being fed and carried, holding a small toy, being sung to, watching mom move around the room–it’s all play to them. When you see your baby staring at you or grabbing or throwing an object, that’s play too! Join in the fun, follow their lead and copy their actions. Be sure to offer sound, space (to lay, roll, kick and throw), diverse environments (home, park, bus, store, sunshine) and varied texture (carpet vs. wood floors, hard vs. plush toys, bath water vs. raindrops).
Crawling and Cruising Toddlers: These almost-walking children are mastering physical control as they learn balance, coordination and muscle control. It is a very exciting time because they are becoming confident explorers! They are now interested in toys that have many possibilities like big chunky stacking toys, wooden blocks, nesting cups, shape sorters and toys for water and sand play. These are all toys that will keep your toddler engaged in creative imaginative play for hours a day.
Walking and Talking Toddlers: Items that promote imagination and imitation like cellphones, TV remotes, keys and your high-heeled shoes become their toys of choice. Now is the time to put all important items in the house away and turn your home into one big child’s playroom. Let them play themselves into exhaustion. This is the perfect time to add things Play-Doh, scooters, crayons, finger paints, mini basketball hoops, dress up clothes and little tents to their toy chest. It is good to allow your children to play with toys across genders and generations. Rotary telephones, astronaut suits and feather boas are good for the imagination of both boys and girls, so try not to restrict them.
All of this play can feel like work to moms but it is worth it to try and be creative about how you make time to get involved in your child’s play. You and your child can play clean-up games while you are actually cleaning or let them help you cook and have a picnic in their room at dinnertime.
There will come a time when schoolwork, practicing a craft and writing a top-notch essay for college take precedence over play but early childhood is now is not that time. The first few years of life are essential to who your child will become and how they will get there. Supporting and encouraging play is the single most important gift you can give your child.
Gosh, there are just as many fashionable choices in baby booties as there are in adult shoes. Whoa! Get ready to gush over these utterly adorable shoes ranging from Mini Mouse themes to rainbow colors.
You spot a cute baby on the train, and you simply can’t keep your cool. You lean toward the stroller, you ask the mother inane questions, you gibber at the child, and then you touch on that child’s hands as if your hands are clean (or as if their hands aren’t covered in stickiness). You’re crazy…baby crazy. The child’s mother can see it and so can everyone else. Before you take that baby fever home, consider the consequences of “forgetting” to take your pill, or deciding that you wouldn’t really mind being a mom sooner than later.
So much ought to be mulled over before making the leap towards parenthood. You have to consider your finances, your relationship, your support network, your mental health, your job, your social life, and also your body. Yes, lots of people begin a family with a ‘surprise’ child or ‘love’ child, but that doesn’t make it an ideal situation, especially when you consider the financial state that most people are in nowadays. Likewise, planning to get pregnant without making any actual plans for after your pregnancy is far worse than an unexpected pregnancy because it reads as irresponsible; ironic because of the stellar amount of responsibilities being introduced. And this is sometimes done haplessly because of fear or expectations. Individuals place a well of responsibility on an unborn child, expecting that having a baby will fix their relationships, will make them feel loved, or give them something that they’ve been missing in their lives.
Before you and your boyfriend (or whoever the guy who may be) make the decision to have children of your own, commit yourself to spending time with other people’s children. As a running experiment, try to spend time with children of different age groups at that, from infant to pre-teen. The mistake that a lot of women/couples make is that they seem to think that their child is going to be a baby forever, when the truth is that children sprout up faster than you could ever expect. Preparing for a baby when you should be preparing for a growing child is a sure way to get in over your head rather quickly. Babies just don’t sit and sleep. They cry, they grow up, and they possibly become like those “other” kids you find on the train…
And perhaps you’re like me: Suddenly, half of the people that you attended college, high school, or even grade school with, have married and/or had a baby as recently as yesterday. To top that off, their Facebook pages seem to indicate that they’re living the ideal life. Their job is on point, living situation is on point, health is in check, and obviously their love life seems to echo the same sentiments. Nonetheless, while it isn’t to say that their lives are a farce, they’re usually exaggerated for mass consumption (aka, social media bragging), so don’t let anyone’s apparent successes hurt your self-esteem or fool you. This is chiefly because emotionally, financially, and physically, you may be in a completely different place, and not necessarily prepared to have a child in your life, a marriage, or more responsibilities than the ones already on your plate.
Let the merging of you and your boyfriend’s image on the screen of your laptop as it morphs into a conceptual illustration of your child satisfy you in the meantime. While you’re lucky enough to have time to plan for the child you want, plan for that child. Put money aside for when that day comes, and also, put together a “Pre-pregnancy” fund to help with financial responsibilities before and after the child is born. And because there are plenty of things that you won’t be able to do when that child finally does comes along, enjoy your time with your partner, or better yet, with yourself, while you can.
Is there something in Europe’s water? Last month an enormous baby was born in Germany, and now Maria Lorena Marin is tipping the scales and almost 14 pounds. And this Spanish baby arrived the natural way. Yikes.
The Huffington Post reports mom Maxime and her doctors at Hospital Marina Salud knew her baby would be big but she wasn’t expecting her new arrival to be quite so big. And at 13.67 pounds, she was definitely big. Amazingly, Maxime delivered her daughter with no help at all–not even an epidural.
Photo: Hospital Marina Salud
Your bundle of joy, your little sweetheart is healthy, has all his fingers and toes–and is busted. At least, that’s what the Daily Mail says a fifth of new parents think. That’s right. That wrinkled, purple little face doesn’t immediately make parents’ hearts sing for joy and friends kinda think the same thing, though only about 10 percent would actually say that out loud. Does this sound like you? It’s okay. No one wants to admit that, and only 8 percent of new mothers actually discuss their disappointment with their partners.
In a poll of 1,000 users, PromotionalCodes.org.uk got down to how parents really feel about their new babies’ looks, and the truth? Well, it wasn’t pretty. An anonymous dad said,
“Everyone seems to think they have the most beautiful baby on earth and as a new parent you feel you have to say the same even if you privately believe your baby is ugly.
My daughter is three now and she is gorgeous but when she arrived she was the most disgusting little thing I’d ever seen. She had a face only a mother could love, but even my wife admitted she was ugly.”
Both a spokesman for the website and the anonymous father wanted to stress, however, that loving your baby is very, very different from thinking she’s beautiful. She may not be ready for a Huggies commercial (yet) but that doesn’t mean you don’t want to love and protect that little thing more than you ever thought possible.
As for the 82 percent of you that said your newborn was the cutest thing you’d ever seen? Some of you are probably lying.
Yesterday we reported on the latest baby fashion craze, baby wigs, designed to provide a head full of hair to babies up to nine months old, in keeping with the product creator’s philosophy that they “believe in the beauty of childhood.” But if you are not about your baby’s hair being laid, fear not, you can still keep up with the Jones! Your daughter or son will be the most gangsta baby at playtime with grillz pacifiers. Yes, you read that right.
The creator of Grillz Pacifer, Billy-Bob Products, states:
” Don’t let the fact that your baby has no teeth hold it back from expressing its inner balla’! So maybe he or she can’t even walk yet, but your baby was born to be iced out! So give your little one a Grillz Pacifier! “
Trust us, we wish we were joking about this.
The product can be found on the internet only (no surprise) and the price ranges from seven to ten dollars. While the product is certainly silly at the very least, it also represents a misappropriation of black culture. On one vendor’s website, a commenter posted: “Hey, something is wrong. The baby is not black” regarding the child who is modeling the grillz pacifier. This type of comment stems from the media based images that are projected through hip-hop. Although grillz are a popular accessory for adults of a certain ilk, it should not be for babies under any circumstances. This not only is not funny, it’s just not cute. There are plenty of more important accessories babies need in their lives, like diapers and bottles. Let’s work on providing those.
Will you be purchasing grillz pacifiers for your child or the next baby shower? Let us know!