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Last season of Love And Hip Hop New York, left us with tons of drama we were glad we didn’t have in our personal lives. The main story line and love triangle of LHHNY’s season 4 revolved around Peter Gunz, Amina Buddafly and Tara Wallace and during the reunion show, Amina Buddafly announced she was pregnant with Gunz’ child after he told viewers his relationship with Buddafly was a mistake. Despite these circumstances and Gunz continuously denying their relationship the two have remained together and it actually looks like Gunz might have the potential to be a decent father based on his Instagram posts.
Today he posted a sonogram picture of his and Amina’s new bundle of joy, allowing fans to pour in their love and support. In the caption for the photo he simply wrote: “My wcw… its a girl!” which is breaking news for fans who were curious about the gender of the couple’s first child together. Though we still don’t have a due date, we can’t help but wonder if their might be a premiere date in the works for some sort of Peter + Amina + baby reality show. You know Mona and VH1 love a spin-off…Either way, congrats to the happy family!
Dear Dr. Sherry,
My father is very excited because I’m eight months pregnant with his first grandchild, a baby girl. He’s already making plans to babysit and spend time with her. While I appreciate his enthusiasm, my issue is that I don’t have a relationship with my stepmother—it doesn’t go beyond pleasantries whenever were see each other. My dad cheated on my mom with her and subsequently married her years later when I was a teenager. My mom passed away last year. I know of many paternal relatives who would expect me to see my stepmother as my child’s grandmother, but I just don’t feel it’s right. After all, they always told me to accept her as my own mother even when my own was alive. I don’t trust her because she and my dad caused my family so much pain. My dad will always be my dad so I must strive to maintain a relationship with him. I’d prefer my dad to interact with my child in my territory because I don’t want a bond to form between my child and his wife. If anyone will be called “grandma” on my side, it will be my maternal aunts. I don’t know how to explain this to my dad, and my husband thinks I’m being too strict. If we happen to visit my dad, his wife may interact with the child some, but I’d never want to leave my daughter with both of them because knowing their dynamic, she would provide most of the care and have influence over her. If it’s just my dad, it’s a different case.
Am I overreacting?
Protective Mother, Cautious Daughter
Read Dr.Sherry’s response at Essence.com
Everybody loves a cute kid and there’s no shortage of those on the Internet. Check out a roundup of our favorites!
“Oh That’s Vine!”
Like this little girl who is super excited to be on social media.
You spot a cute baby on the train, and you simply can’t keep your cool. You lean toward the stroller, you ask the mother inane questions, you gibber at the child, and then you touch on that child’s hands as if your hands are clean (or as if their hands aren’t covered in stickiness). You’re crazy…baby crazy. The child’s mother can see it and so can everyone else. Before you take that baby fever home, consider the consequences of “forgetting” to take your pill, or deciding that you wouldn’t really mind being a mom sooner than later.
So much ought to be mulled over before making the leap towards parenthood. You have to consider your finances, your relationship, your support network, your mental health, your job, your social life, and also your body. Yes, lots of people begin a family with a ‘surprise’ child or ‘love’ child, but that doesn’t make it an ideal situation, especially when you consider the financial state that most people are in nowadays. Likewise, planning to get pregnant without making any actual plans for after your pregnancy is far worse than an unexpected pregnancy because it reads as irresponsible; ironic because of the stellar amount of responsibilities being introduced. And this is sometimes done haplessly because of fear or expectations. Individuals place a well of responsibility on an unborn child, expecting that having a baby will fix their relationships, will make them feel loved, or give them something that they’ve been missing in their lives.
Before you and your boyfriend (or whoever the guy who may be) make the decision to have children of your own, commit yourself to spending time with other people’s children. As a running experiment, try to spend time with children of different age groups at that, from infant to pre-teen. The mistake that a lot of women/couples make is that they seem to think that their child is going to be a baby forever, when the truth is that children sprout up faster than you could ever expect. Preparing for a baby when you should be preparing for a growing child is a sure way to get in over your head rather quickly. Babies just don’t sit and sleep. They cry, they grow up, and they possibly become like those “other” kids you find on the train…
And perhaps you’re like me: Suddenly, half of the people that you attended college, high school, or even grade school with, have married and/or had a baby as recently as yesterday. To top that off, their Facebook pages seem to indicate that they’re living the ideal life. Their job is on point, living situation is on point, health is in check, and obviously their love life seems to echo the same sentiments. Nonetheless, while it isn’t to say that their lives are a farce, they’re usually exaggerated for mass consumption (aka, social media bragging), so don’t let anyone’s apparent successes hurt your self-esteem or fool you. This is chiefly because emotionally, financially, and physically, you may be in a completely different place, and not necessarily prepared to have a child in your life, a marriage, or more responsibilities than the ones already on your plate.
Let the merging of you and your boyfriend’s image on the screen of your laptop as it morphs into a conceptual illustration of your child satisfy you in the meantime. While you’re lucky enough to have time to plan for the child you want, plan for that child. Put money aside for when that day comes, and also, put together a “Pre-pregnancy” fund to help with financial responsibilities before and after the child is born. And because there are plenty of things that you won’t be able to do when that child finally does comes along, enjoy your time with your partner, or better yet, with yourself, while you can.
Yesterday we reported on the latest baby fashion craze, baby wigs, designed to provide a head full of hair to babies up to nine months old, in keeping with the product creator’s philosophy that they “believe in the beauty of childhood.” But if you are not about your baby’s hair being laid, fear not, you can still keep up with the Jones! Your daughter or son will be the most gangsta baby at playtime with grillz pacifiers. Yes, you read that right.
The creator of Grillz Pacifer, Billy-Bob Products, states:
” Don’t let the fact that your baby has no teeth hold it back from expressing its inner balla’! So maybe he or she can’t even walk yet, but your baby was born to be iced out! So give your little one a Grillz Pacifier! “
Trust us, we wish we were joking about this.
The product can be found on the internet only (no surprise) and the price ranges from seven to ten dollars. While the product is certainly silly at the very least, it also represents a misappropriation of black culture. On one vendor’s website, a commenter posted: “Hey, something is wrong. The baby is not black” regarding the child who is modeling the grillz pacifier. This type of comment stems from the media based images that are projected through hip-hop. Although grillz are a popular accessory for adults of a certain ilk, it should not be for babies under any circumstances. This not only is not funny, it’s just not cute. There are plenty of more important accessories babies need in their lives, like diapers and bottles. Let’s work on providing those.
Will you be purchasing grillz pacifiers for your child or the next baby shower? Let us know!
Maybe it’s more economical to move to South Africa if you’re expecting a bundle of joy. Statistics show that South African mothers pay $2,035 for delivering a child while U.S. mothers spend $9,755 for childbirth. Americans, according to the Seattle Times, spend the most on newborn care than any other nation in the world.
Expenses for delivering children have tripled over the last 20 years, says a study by Truven Health Analytics. With the hefty costs of pregnancy, childbirth, and infant care, the bill accumulates to more than $50 million for all U.S. deliveries. Medicaid programs and most insurers disburse the most cash for “maternity and newborn care”, added Seattle Times.
You would think that with such a high price tag on maternity care, American mothers would have access to advanced technological services than other nations, but this does not seem to be the case. Studies have shown that citizens of other developed countries “do not have less access to care or to high-tech care during the pregnancy than Americans do,” it added.
Compared to other countries, the average American woman pays more for childbirth because they undergo the same hospital services more often. Women in the U.S. “tend to get more of everything, necessary or not, from blood tests to ultrasound scans”, said Katy Kozhimannil, a professor who studies the cost of women’s health care at the University of Minnesota.
Obstetricians once performed ultrasounds for patients in their office for a flat fee. Currently, they charge extra for the service or refer clients to radiologists who have much higher rates. (The New York Times did a big story last month about what drives up the pricing for procedures in the US, in that case, a colonoscopy.)
Studies show that in 2011, 62 percent of women in the U.S. who had private insurance plans — not sponsored by an employer — did not have coverage for pregnancy and newborn care. Even women who did have plans that covered their maternity needs were swamped by demands for higher co-pays and deductibles. According to a survey conducted by Childbirth Connection, expecting mothers pay an average of $3,400 in out-of-pocket costs.
From 2004 to 2010, the Truven study found that the out-of-pocket expenses quadrupled.
“In most other developed countries, comprehensive maternity care is free or cheap”, Seattle added. “Ireland for example, guarantees free maternity care at public hospitals, though women can opt for private deliveries for a fee.”
Pervasive use of midwives in Europe is another reason why other developed countries are not breaking the bank to deliver children. In America, obstetricians are seen as more of a necessity, but in Europe they are seen as specialists “who step in only when there is a risk or need,” Seattle Times added.
Midwives deliver 68 percent of British births; only eight percent of midwives deliver babies in the U.S.
Earlier we posted photos of how some celeb fathers spent their Sunday kicking it with the kids or honoring their own fathers. But a little later we discovered this little gem.
Marilee Holmes, TJ Holmes’ wife, posted this picture of he and their daughter Sabine. When she posted the pic, she included this caption.
“Happy Father’s Day…I will never grow tired of watching @tjholmes share moments with our daughter.”
Isn’t this little girl the cutest?! With her long eyelashes. Adorable!
If you just can’t get enough of this little one, check out the second image on the next page.
“What’s your daughter mixed with?” asked the cashier at the value grocery store I often frequented as a new mom with my, then, three-month old daughter. She was smiling then, so I knew that her question was well intentioned, or at least that’s what I thought at the time. The question proceeded something about my daughter being pretty and something else about her then “wavy” and “pretty” hair “Ummm…mixed?” I asked, not really confused but mostly trying to buy more time before facing the questions that I knew would inevitably come when I told her my daughter wasn’t mixed. “Yeah,” she said, confidently. “What’s she mixed with?”
Like many persons of color who look a bit different, I grew with questions about my heritage. So by the time I had become a parent, questions like “Where are you from?” and “What’s your background?”and “Are you (fill in the blank nationality)?” had come to be colored in my head as racial identifying questions. I had come to accept them as just part of my identity as a brown-skinned African-American woman, in the same way, I assume, my East African husband had come to accept them as a brown-skinned, black man in America. Our ethnic backgrounds are mixed, but we are black, and so, too, are our lighter-skinned, curly-haired daughters.
I try often to explain this to strangers we encounter in public, but it’s tricky since so many, it seems, have a predisposed notion of what it means to be black and not black and that anything that veers from that notion is odd. “No, they’re black,” I always say when asked about my daughters being mixed. To this, the person asking usually looks confused. And then there’s a silence between us that makes me feel like I should explain more. And I usually do explain more by saying something about how my husband and I have many ethnicities in our backgrounds, but that we, and they, my daughters, are black. This usually does the trick. But, sometimes it doesn’t. Sometimes, the person asking will want to know specifics. So then I say, “I’m American and my husband is from Africa” but the inclusion of Africa in a conversation about being mixed just complicates things even more.
Read more on MommyNoire.com.
From Black Voices
Doctors in Virginia made science history on Monday when they successfully completed a first-of-its-kind surgical procedure to separate six-month-old conjoined twin girls.
The 14-hour operation was performed at the Children’s Hospital of Richmond at VCU in Virginia, where the girls are now in stable condition.
A’zhari and A’zhiah Jones of Franklin, Virginia, were born as so-called thoracopagus twins, meaning their bodies were fused at the abdomen and that they had heart abnormalities.
The first stage of the Jones twins’ phased separation began in October 2012, when surgeons divided their shared liver, and then closed the girls’ abdomens back up.
“As the girls became critically ill over the second week of their lives, we had to urgently separate their conjoined liver as this was the source of their uncompensated cross circulation,” Dr. David Lanning, surgeon-in-chief at the children’s hospital, said in a written statement. “However, complete separation at that time would almost assuredly have resulted in their deaths as A’zhari was in renal failure and A’zhiah had severe cardiac hypertrophy. A phased surgery was the optimal plan.”
In February 2013, surgeons placed tissue expanders in the twins’ abdomens, which enabled the growth of excess skin to be used for closure and reconstruction following surgery.
Read more at BlackVoices.com.
A source close to the couple said: “He is so devoted to being a great father and is crazy in love with Amber. He even joked that he would love to have playdates with Kanye [West] if things weren’t so awkward.”
Apparently Wiz is still friendly with Kanye, and doesn’t see what the big deal is. I mean Kanye and Kim were so over in 2010.
Read more at HelloBeautiful.com