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I really need your advice. An old girlfriend of mine recently invited me to an “All Girls Night” at her home. We were close about 7 years ago and had a falling out over a man (of course). A few years ago we “found” each other again after we both started working at the Post Office. We kinda just spoke in passing, nothing serious. She got married last year. I was NOT invited, it’s ok. We then friended each other on Facebook. So for the past six months or so I have gotten no response on FB from her. I even invited her to my birthday party, nothing. I had planned on unfriending her AND some others anyway but NOW she invites me to her home. I really dont wanna go. Number 1 being I dont consider her a friend anymore. Number 2 being I dont care for the other ladies she acquaints herself with. And number 3 being, I think she is just inviting me so it will look like she has lots of “girlfriends” (I know that’s an ugly thought.) I have a problem holding grudges and I just dont want anything to do with her.
But, what if she is really reaching out?
Should I Stay Or Should I Go
From books like the 48 Laws of Power to cliché sayings that reference the art of getting what you want, some have immediately come up with the ideal that you have to hurt or use people to get ahead. While you can’t always be Miss Nice Girl in every situation, there is a clear difference between capitalizing on opportunities and using people and taking their kindness for granted.
It’s human nature to operate out of a self-driven nature. If someone will let you borrow the money, indefinitely, why not take your time paying it back? Or if the guy who has a huge crush on you will shower you with lavish gifts, why not accept them although you know you have no interest in him whatsoever? All of these things may seem harmless, but are in fact ways of using people to your advantage. That’s not cool.
While you can sit and attempt to justify reasons for these actions, try explaining them to karma, who requires no explanations, just payback. It’s really as simple as the golden rule when deciding if you are a user. Ask yourself one simple, yet effective question, would I want this done to me?