Source: Playerswives.com

I know you all are already shaking your heads, but hear Allison out. As you know, the mother of Miami Heat player Chris Bosh’s 3-year-old daughter has applied for food stamps, saying that since she’s lost her job, they can’t survive on the $2,600/month that he pays in child support. A lot of people were confused about that and suggested Allison just go get another job and in an interview with Gossip Extra, Allison revealed that she actually did have a different job opportunity—as a member of the ‘Basketball Wives’ cast—but Chris blocked her from joining. She told the site:

“I was offered a job on ‘Basketball Wives’ and I filmed a couple episodes and it leaked that I landed the job and Chris of course did not want me to go on it so he sued me to keep me from going on it. I would have made a hell of a lot of money than with other job offers that I’ve had.

“My thing is, if you didn’t want me to speak about you, then maybe you should have reached out to me or my attorney and said, ‘look, it’s OK for her to go on this show because it’s a way for her to provide income for her daughter but don’t mention Chris’s name.’ That would have been a better approach than to just get me completely fired from the show.”

According to Gossip Extra, Allison would have taken in $12,000/week for appearing on the VH1 show which would have definitely kept her out of the assistance line, but it appears Chris had more legal muscle.

In her exclusive interview, Allison also talks about how Chris changed after she got pregnant, and I have to admit it was kind of sad seeing the clip of the happy couple finding out she was pregnant to looking at how things turned out in the end. Allison says Chris hasn’t reached out to her at all offer her and his daughter any type of help since the media reported that she applied for food stamps, saying the most she’s heard is a quote from him saying he was “saddened” by the news. She said instead of being sad he should be glad to help.

“I’m not the only one and I don’t expect people to just to feel sorry for me and have pity on me, but I do think that the father of my child, given that he is able to help his child out, should be willing to.”

Check out the quick two-part interview here. Do you think Chris should have let Allison go on “Basketball Wives” if he wasn’t going to help her financially?

Brande Victorian is the news and operations editor for madamenoire.com. Follow her on twitter @Be_Vic.

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