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Meet The Black Men: Khalid Salaam

May 22nd, 2015 - By Brande Victorian
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Khalid Salaam

Ask A Black Man

Episode: The Status Report

Occupation: Digital Content Producer

Twitter: @MrKhalidS

IG: @khalid_salaam

Relationship Status: Involved

Kids: No

My definition of a man: Whatever I want it to be.

Black men and women need to… put forth the effort to achieve greatness

The one thing I know to be true about women: Women want to admire the man they’re dating/married to

Three things every relationship should have are… lots of laughs, challenging conversations, an Us vs the World mentality

My job as a boyfriend/husband is to: Listen

Any woman I’m involved with must: Be proud of her heritage (and also not snort coke)

Sext/Text/Call? Call

I want my legacy to be… full of honor.

Ask A Black Man: Why Do Black Men Date Lighter/Whiter As They Gain Success?

May 21st, 2015 - By Madame Noire
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Yes, it’s the interracial dating debate again. But instead of making assumptions that all men from the continent either have dated, are dating, or want to date a fair-skinned or non-Black woman, we decided to ask actual Black men if this whole light is white mentality when it comes to dating is as real as society makes it. Their answers just might shock you. Check out what the fellas had to say about the pervasive ideal that the higher a man climbs in society, the lighter his woman gets in the video above and weigh in with your own thoughts in the comments section.

Check out all episodes from Season 2 of Ask A Black Man here.

Meet The Black Men: Jason Francis

May 21st, 2015 - By Brande Victorian
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Jason Francis

Ask A Black Man

Episode: The Status Report

Occupation: Social Media Consultant

Twitter: @TrueOmegaNexus

IG: @Nightfall914

Relationship Status: Single

Kids: 0

My definition of a man: A man holds himself to a code of honor and has respect for himself and his people.

Black men and women need to… Unify through the things we share in common vs the things we differ in.

The one thing I know to be true about women: They are the greatest supporters on earth.

Three things every relationship should have are… openness, honesty & fun.

My job as a boyfriend/husband is to support, build and enjoy life with my partner.

Any woman I’m involved with must: Be trustworthy

Sext/Text/Call? All of the above just depends on the situation.

I want my legacy to be… A man that cared for his people did his best to make them proud.

Meet The Men: Stephen Sean Hewitt

May 20th, 2015 - By Brande Victorian
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AABM Post Photos_Stephen Hewett

Ask A Black Man

Episode: The Status Report

Occupation: Production Sound Mixer

Twitter: @SirBrotherhood

IG: @SirBrotherhood

Relationship Status: Single

Kids: 0

Black men and women need to talk more. I think there is a huge disconnect right now. Women don’t feel safe, men don’t feel respected and it’s sad. We should have more honest conversation. Unfortunately, it seems the ones that do talk are the ones that already “get it.” We need the youth to get involved and lead in these conversations. I would really love to see a cross generational exchange on street harassment.

The one thing I know to be true about women: I know that a woman wants to feel safe with her man. She wants comfort and empathy. If her man doesn’t understand her perspective, she wants to feel like he is at least supportive and takes her serious. This is all apart of her feeling comfortable and secure.

Three things every relationship should have are…
1) Fun: Every relationship should have fun in one form or another. Whether that is a shared interest, a day of spontaneity, ETC. There should be an effort to keep things friendly and fun.

2) Understanding of expectations: Once standards are met and a relationship is established, role expectations naturally come into play. It is essential that partners know what their significant other anticipates. If a woman expects sex four times a week and dinner dates twice, her man should know that (and happily comply).

My job as a boyfriend/husband is to ensure that my lady feels safe, beautiful, loved, heard, and appreciated. The world can be a heavy place and I would hope to take some of the weight off of my woman’s shoulders. I also want to make sure that my lady has space and time to think and to be herself apart from me. That means I’ll try to give her an opportunity to be selfish for a small time, maybe a day or weekend, and self indulge to recharge her battery.

Any woman I’m involved with must be completely honest with me and giving of herself. If a woman trusts me enough and deems me worthy to be her “King,” I’d like to receive the same devotion, consideration and affection that I would share with her as my “Queen.” It would also help if she doesn’t take things too serious because I sure don’t. Have fun.

Sext/Text/Call? Call, I like to hear what can’t be read. But sexting is fun.

I want my legacy to be… one of integrity, kindness, and courage.

Meet The Black Men: Todd Hinds

May 19th, 2015 - By Madame Noire
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Todd Hinds

Ask A Black Man

Episode: The Status Report

Occupation: Apparel Designer

Twitter: @Toddiewarbucks

IG: @Toddiewarbucks

Relationship Status: Single

Children: Zero kids

My definition of a man: A man is one who can provide, protect and who understands the importance of God in every facet of life. Understanding your flaws and wanting to correct them to becom a better person is what I consider a better man.

Black men and women need to… Focus on bettering themselves so we can come together and rule like Kings and Queens.

The one thing I know to be true about women: They put their relationship before everything.

Three things every relationship should have are… communication, trust and great sex.

My job as a boyfriend/husband is to: listen to my partner, communicate with my significant other, and be understanding of what’s going on in her life. As a boyfriend you have to be very supportive of each other’s dreams and aspiration.

Any woman I’m involved with must: Have confidence, respect, manners, love the arts (fashion, music, paintings), be a great listener, not someone who just hears to reply.

Sext/Text/Call? Call. A lot of things can be lost in translation through a text message. A phone call is great.

I want my legacy to be… One fit for a King.

“Carve your name on hearts, not tombstones. A legacy is etched into the minds of others and the stories they share about you.” ~ Shannon L. Alder

Meet The Black Men: Marc Gilkes

May 18th, 2015 - By Madame Noire
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Episode: The Status Report

Occupation: Entertainer/ Sales Manager

Twitter: @theMarXman

IG: @theMarXman

Relationship Status: Single

Children: None

My definition of a man: A man understands his role in the world and his family’s and takes responsibility for both.

Black men and women need to… learn our past well enough to understand how it effects us today.

The one thing I know to be true about women: Women are emotionally based beings and needs to be communicated as such.

Three things every relationship should have are excellent communication, privacy, an appropriate ratio of time apart versus time together.

My job as a boyfriend/husband is to be a worthy companion to my significant other and consistently attentive to her needs/wants. I take responsibility for her and her well-being becomes top priority.

Any woman I’m involved with must: Have a positive outlook on life, sense of humor, emotional intelligence.

Sext/Text/Call? A real man knows when to use each.

I want my legacy to be… inspiration, personal expression through art, unifying the human race with a progressive mindset.

Meet @themarxman of our latest episode of #askablackman on MadameNoire.com. #meethemen #blackmen #dating #relationships

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Ask A Black Man: Have Black Women Surpassed Black Men?

May 18th, 2015 - By Brande Victorian
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To wrap up our Ask a Black Man series we decided to get to the crux of the dynamic between Black men and women: Why can’t we all just get along? Black men and women never seem to be in the same place at the same time, whether it’s professionally, financially, or mentally as it relates to the desire to settle down or not. So why is it so hard for educated Black women to find a good man? Have Black women surpassed Black men in society? And how do we find common ground to move forward and build together? That’s what we asked these six Black men. Watch the episode above to hear their responses and weigh in with your own opinion in the comments section.

See the second part of this conversation as the fellas refute the idea that all Black men want White women, here.

For all footage from the second season of Ask a Black Man, click here.

 

Meet The Black Men: Jashua Sa-Ra

May 15th, 2015 - By Madame Noire
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Jashua Sa-Ra

Occupation: Communications Artist

IG: Earthiopian

Relationship Status: Divorced and dating

Children: Three

My definition of a man: XY chromosome

Marriage is… the best technology on the planet.

Divorce is… a symptom of an unhealthy culture/community

The one thing I know to be true about women: Their capacity to love and the capabilities of their biology are proof of the divine.

Three things every relationship should have are a goal, truth, and a time limit (like…marriage licenses should have to be renewed!)

My job as a boyfriend/husband is to have and act on vision; make sure the materials are available to accomplish the relationship goal; do whatever is needed for my partner to feel loved and protected.

Any woman I’m involved with must be spiritually active, creative, empathetic and secure in herself

Sext/Text/Call? I’ll have one of each please…a call is superior though.

I want my legacy to be… that I improve or upgrade the spiritual capability of the people I encounter.

Meet The Black Men: Ali McBride

May 14th, 2015 - By Madame Noire
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Ali McBride

Ask A Black Man

Episode: Marriage

Occupation: Sr. Investigator/writer/public speaker

Twitter: @GullyBlack

Relationship Status: Married

Children: A 9-month-old angel named Makeda Adélani and a 16-year-old giant scholar/athlete named Tahgee

My definition of a man: One who understands the heaviness of responsibility and the basic tenants of leadership, is able to forge into any obstacle creating solutions and seeking help when necessary with a level head, and knows we are a measure of how we respond to adversity.

Marriage is… truly HARD WORK!

Divorce is… a last resort; not the first option but not an option ruled out.

The one thing I know to be true about women:  They will endure more than they need to at times. In relationships, women need to be TOLD that they are important. Despite your physical display to them that they are important, women want to hear it, especially from the person they are involved with.

Three things every relationship should have are communication, a healthy sexual appetite, and a fundamental understanding of financial responsibilities. (Some would say the last item listed should be number 2 and sexual appetite includes sex in the morning before work!) 😉

My job as a husband is to listen objectively and subjectively when necessary, keep things interesting, and to step up to the position of leader, of course, with decorum.

Any woman I’m involved with must be intelligent and have communicative skills that she makes a PRACTICAL part of her life.

Sext/Text/Call? A healthy culmination of all?

I want my legacy to be… One who understands the importance of legacy and the recognition of our Africaness beyond a fundamental level and to always be remembered as a stand up man who does what he says. God, family, community.

Meet The Black Men: Jason Gilleylen

May 13th, 2015 - By Madame Noire
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Jason Gilleylen

Ask A Black Man

Episode: Marriage

Occupation: Physician

IG: @theculinaryque

Relationship Status: I know exactly with whom I want to spend the rest of my life…

Children: …or nah

My definition of a man: A guy who lives his creed and handles his business.

Marriage is… one of the highest displays of friendship, which is essential to life.

Divorce is… the culmination of misunderstanding and poor preparation.

The one thing I know to be true about women: They are as loyal as they have reason to be.

Three things every relationship should have are openness, laughter, and honesty.

My job as a boyfriend/husband is to support my partner in all endeavors, be encouraging at every opportunity, and be the reason she smiles everyday.

Any woman I’m involved with must: Have an amazing sense of humor, have a motherly instinct, and be willing to tell me exactly what she needs at times since I’m not a mind reader

Sext/Text/Call? Do them all. Variety is the spice of life. I do hate talking on the phone though…

I want my legacy to be… smiles, enlightenment, and laughter. People who are genuinely smiling or laughing or feel enlightened are genuinely happy. However I can accomplish this, be it saving a life or offering advice or telling a timely joke, this is what I want to be remembered for. Life is about stories, and I hope my life is a happy story for all who meet me.