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Apollo Turning To God In Wake Of 8-Year Prison Sentence: ‘I Had Definitely Fallen Off My Spirituality A Lot’
He may not have his wife in his corner for his 8-year prison stint, but he’ll have God. “Real Housewives of Atlanta” star Apollo Nida appears to have turned his attention back to his faith after learning that he’ll probably be spending the better portion of the next 8 years in prison.
“I was captivated by a lot of things,” Apollo said during his recent chat with Be100 Radio. “I had definitely fallen off my spirituality a lot. When I came home for those six years, I lost myself, who I was as a person.”
Apparently being sent back to prison served as some sort of wake-up call for the father of two, who says he’s going to be making some major changes once his sentence begins.
“Once you forgive yourself, then let it go. He said He’d make that enemy your footstool,” Apollo expressed. “I’m supposed to go in there, recreate myself the way that I did the first time, but this time don’t lose myself. Stay true to myself.”
“I wanna stay prayed up, stay spiritual, and I kinda drifted away from that and became just a product of my environment and the world,” he continued.
“I think the message for me is, ‘Apollo, go sit down. Get back in the Word. Get spiritually rooted and then come out and rock the world.”
Although plenty of folks have been getting on Apollo for all of sudden wanting to reconnect with the Lord now that he’s in trouble, his personal relationship with God is his own business. Hopefully, he learns his lesson this time.
Apollo Nida To Enter Rehab To Trim Time Off His Sentence Even Though He’s Not Currently Addicted To Anything…
As Apollo Nida prepares to face a maximum of eight years in prison for bank fraud, it appears that he’s doing everything in his power to cut as much time off of his sentence as he can. Even if that means going through drug treatment counseling that he doesn’t necessarily need.
According to TMZ, Nida was arrested in the past for DUI, and court documents show that he has agreed to take part in a 500-hour drug rehabilitation program while he does his sentence, a program reportedly described as “intense.” Nida hasn’t found himself in any trouble because of drugs or alcohol since his DUI arrest, but because inmates usually are offered early release after finishing up such a program, it seems that he’s seeking rehab to get out of jail as soon as he can.
While Nida hopes to get out of jail early to return to his sons, he isn’t optimistic about returning home to Phaedra Parks. In a recent radio interview, he said that their marriage probably won’t make it, especially since Parks wasn’t there to support him at his lowest point:
“My wife didn’t even f—ing show up for my sentencing. I’m still kind of salty about that.”
I’m very hesitant to speak on other people’s marital problems. Marriage is very easy to discuss when you’re not married. Everyone seems to have the answers and easy solutions to what married people need to do, but when you’re in a marriage, the lines are muddied by the waters of love, expectation, family and the such. But with all of that said… really Apollo?!
Last week we posted an article addressing how his life has been since his sentencing. As most people hypothesized, he addressed that his marriage to Phaedra might indeed be on the outs.
“I doubt [that my marriage will survive this],” the “Real Housewives of Atlanta” said during a recent interview with B100 Radio. “My wife didn’t even f—ing show up for my sentencing. I’m still kind of salty about that.”
Okay, now I was already feeling a level of disgust when he did that pathetic photo with the caption: “Who will ride with me?” But this is just too much for my sense of reality. Are you kidding me, dude?!
Now let’s be real, there’s always a level of deception in relationships, especially when you’re first dating. Chris Rock expressed this in his Bigger and Blacker stand-up comedy special. He explained that when you’re first meeting someone, you’re meeting their representatives. That’s true. Everyone’s on their best behavior, and it extends when the relationship begins to become serious. Men will adamantly tell you how they will always love you, protect you, be romantic, and offer you a never wavering shoulder of support. Women will do the same thing. They’ll cook for you, clean up after you, and will sing (or if you’re like me and don’t have great singing abilities, but have mastered the art of “talk-singing”) Kelly Rowland’s verse on “Cater 2 U,” expressing their desire of always being appealing to you, domestically, physically, and emotionally.
It’s not until you begin to get really comfortable, that you begin to let the façade fall and your true colors show. Especially if you introduce children into the mix (“You want me to cater to you? Change this child’s diaper, do that and then we’ll talk.”) Within a relationship you learn to either be a better version of yourself, due to wanting to keep the person in your life, or you just embrace your faults and hope the other person will accept them as well.
However, there’s something to say about men who want full acceptance of their flaws and expect their partner to mindlessly go along with the foolishness. Now, I’m not talking about all men, just the constant victim, the I want a ride or die chick, but will quickly drop a woman if she does the same thing that I do type of dudes.
I’ve seen men who have abused their wives and girlfriends only to get mad at her when she finally leaves, but blast her on Facebook to get back at her. Get back at her for what?! You were the one doing the dirt!
Which leads me back to the Apollo, who’s-gonna-ride-for-my-crap situation. Now, I’m not going to ever pretend like I knew what their marriage was like. But I do know that it probably wasn’t easy on Phaedra to have to constantly defend the character of her husband when he was released from prison the first time. When other people took any opportunity to bash him (and we have the entire third season or “Real Housewives of Atlanta” as proof of that), she defended him because she loved him. She was riding with you then. After “text-gate” with those inappropriate texts with Kenya Moore, she still rode for you. When you played her oh-so bogusly on episodes of last season’s RHOA and she stood there quietly, knowing that her silence would be broadcast to millions, she rode for you. Granted, we didn’t see her fall out, which I’m pretty sure happened when the cameras were gone, but she took a slide so you could look like a man. She rode with you.
But let me ask you something, when were you riding for her? Were you riding for her when you and your “right hand b—h” were defrauding innocent people? Were you riding for her when you so callously put your foot down in an attempt to prove that you’re a man, while also stomping her reputation?
It just bothers me when I see these men who demand women to be by their side, constantly, even in the face of not just their wrong doing, but sometimes in the face of infidelity. (And if I hear another man say: “But that’s just what men do, women can’t do what men do,” I’m going to vomit… all over your faces.) But the crazy thing about it is, if the shoe was on the other foot, would men stay? If a woman cheated on her husband or boyfriend, how many men would unabashedly leave, citing crap about their pride? But you expect women to just be empty shells of thoughtless obedience?
Men, respect needs to come from both ends. You can’t behave dirty and not expect to deal with some uncomfortable consequences. It’s like blaming a mirror for not liking your reflection. The mirror didn’t make you look this way, it’s only showing you how you look. Don’t question the mirror’s loyalty to you for not reflecting what you wanted to see.
You want people to ride for you, then ride for them as well. If not, catch a bus or something.
Well, it turns out the rumors are true. Apollo Nida recently confirmed that his marriage is definitely in trouble and probably won’t survive his 8-year prison stint.
“I doubt [that my marriage will survive this],” the “Real Housewives of Atlanta” star said during a recent interview with B100 Radio. “My wife didn’t even f—ing show up for my sentencing. I’m still kind of salty about that.”
As for how the sentencing has impacted his family life, Apollo says:
“It’s hell—hell on wheels. I’ve asked God to forgive me and I’ve forgiven myself. I had to move on [...] I just really had to bite down. I was going through so much. It doesn’t make you less of a man to cry and shed tears. I’ve just really been upset at just how I was raised and that I could possibly be taking my son through the same thing. But by the grace of God, he’s still young and we have many years ahead of us. For me, I just can’t make the same mistakes.”
He went on to sort of imply that there were other people involved in his fraud scheme who simply haven’t been caught.
“It’s all on me. A lot of people could be held accountable. But at the end of the day, it’s all on me. It’s over now. I’m gonna pay back the $1.9 million and keep it going. By the grace of God I was able to get that down. I think it was like 14 before.”
Interestingly, he also expressed remorse for the crimes he committed and having to leave his children.
“I’m still human. At the end of the day, I am remorseful. Coming from a non-father, non-mother background, I feel most sad and disappointed that I let my little man down. But at the end of the day, it is what it is. You must go and pay and contribute to the piper and do what you gotta do and come on back and be graceful about it.”
It sucks that their marriage has fallen apart, especially since there are children involved. But maybe this is all for the best.
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In this week’s new print issue of In Touch Weekly, a source close to Phaedra Parks says that the Real Housewives of Atlanta star doesn’t plan to stick around to watch Apollo Nida go through another stint in jail. Nida did five years for racketeering from 2004 to 2009, and soon after he was released, he wed Parks in November 2009. From there, they had little Ayden, 3, and baby Dylan, 1, and all seemed good. But then their communication issues started popping up on the show (remember when he left her sitting outside of their hotel room in Mexico after she caught him and Kenya being Chatty Cathys?), he was having inappropriate interactions with Kenya Moore, and of course, he got involved in more illegal schemes that would come back to haunt him.
Now a source says that Parks “wants to leave him” and has wanted to for a while.
“If they never started a family, she would have filed for divorce long ago. But this is going to push Phaedra to act quickly.”
The source says that she wanted to make her family work for her sons, but she can’t deal with Nida’s never-ending legal issues.
If Phaedra does head for the exit, this wouldn’t be a major shocker. For one, she wasn’t present at Nida’s sentencing, and we really haven’t seen the couple together (as in the same room) since Nida was telling Kenya Moore to get ready to put money on his “books” if he was sentenced to do more jail time at the RHOA reunion months ago.
After the sentencing, Kandi Burruss said that her friend was distracting herself with work:
“Phaedra’s doing great. She’s basically working. That’s how I deal with things too; when I have a lot going on, I just put more into work.
I know that she’s promoting her book and doing the book tour and stuff like that and she’s not really trying to focus as much on what’s happening.”
Nida posted a cryptic message days after his sentencing, asking “Who will ride with me??” And even though Parks said she would stand by him until his trial had concluded, it’s unclear what her next move will be. But someone who thinks she should stay is Gayla St. Julien, Nida’s alleged co-conspirator who is serving time for her role in all that bank fraud. In an interview with us from behind bars, she said that if Parks knowingly benefited in any way from the money Nida made illegally, she shouldn’t abandon him now:
“There were benefits that had been reaped and so if you go into a marriage and you know what a person is involved in, and you say ‘Okay, I can deal with it,’ and you take the diamonds, you take the trips, you take the bikes, you take the whatevers–then you take the time too.”
But we’ll have to wait and see what happens…
As part of his probation, this is how restitution will go:
The defendant shall pay any financial penalty that is imposed by this judgment, and that remains unpaid at the commencement of the term of supervised release. The defendant shall make restitution payments from any wages he may earn in prison in accordance with the Bureau of Prisons Financial Responsibility Program. Any portion of restitution that is not paid in full at the time of the defendant’s release from imprisonment shall become a condition of supervision and be paid at the monthly rate of not less than $150.00 plus 25% of gross income in excess of $2300.00 per month.
The lesson here is that not only do you reap what you sow, but you for sure have to pay back what you owe too…
When it was first announced that Apollo Nida had been sentenced to eight years in prison, most folks knew that if no other RHoA cast member would offer comment on this matter, Kenya Moore would certainly have something to say. And like clockwork, Kenya offered a reaction to the sentencing via her Twitter page.
“You can’t kick someone while they are down even if they fell trying to trip you. Offer them a hand instead.”
“You don’t have to lie, cheat or steal to be relevant at the expense of others. The real losers are innocent children. May God bless them.”
While her reaction was pretty mild in comparison to previous comments that she has made in regard to Apollo’s inevitable prison stay, it still contained undeniable hints of “I told you so.” Now, she’s taking things a step further. On Twitter, the former pageant queen recently revealed to fans that she has plans to reach out to her archenemy and co-star, Phaedra Parks.
@MsNicoleBarrett yes I have to wish her well
— KENYA MOORE (@KenyaMoore) July 8, 2014
Kenya also brushed off questions about whether or not she would use Apollo’s sentencing to taunt Phaedra next season.
@reauxsocrazy come on that’s silly
— KENYA MOORE (@KenyaMoore) July 8, 2014
Considering that she reached out to Porsha after learning of her shocking divorce—despite their beef—it’s certainly not far fetched that she would reach out to Phaedra. But we’re not convinced that she won’t be using this situation to hit Phae Phae below the belt next season. Y’all remember how she did Porsha last season?
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For some time now, rumors have been circulating that Phaedra is on the brink of leaving her husband, Apollo Nida. And now that he has officially been sentenced to 8 years in prison, the subtle signs that a divorce may be coming have become difficult to simply ignore and sweep under the rug. For one, the “Real Housewives of Atlanta” star was visibly absent from Apollo’s sentencing hearing a couple of days ago.
Shortly following the sentencing, co-star Kandi Burruss was asked about her friend and Kandi expressed that Phaedra was doing “great” in the wake of the sentencing.
“Phaedra’s doing great. She’s basically working. That’s how I deal with things too; when I have a lot going on, I just put more into work,” Kandi said. “I know that she’s promoting her book and doing the book tour and stuff like that and she’s not really trying to focus as much on what’s happening.”
Since the sentencing, Apollo also took to Twitter and posed an interesting question.
I got a question ??? Who will ride with me?? Thanks
; APOLLO NIDA RHOA (@apollonida03) July 10, 2014
We’re kind of wondering the same thing. Since news leaked regarding the charges being brought against him, the million dollar question has been whether or not Phaedra will stick with him through another stay in the slammer. Sadly, this seems to be a question that Apollo may not know the answer to either.
“I think that we have lost sight of the true picture, which is that we did take an oath to God and we did build a family and a brand. Whatever has come of this reality fiasco, we have had two beautiful children, and at the end of the day, I only wish her the best,” Apollo said back in April. “I can’t say if it [our marriage] is going to last. But I hope that it does…I definitely love her. I’ve grown to love her more.”
This is such a tough predicament to be in.
“Real Housewives of Atlanta” co-star Apollo Nida will be going to jail any day now and we’ve got the inside scoop on what happened, how much Phaedra knew, and the bad blood that got Apollo arrested in the first place. Check it out.
Apollo Blames His “Poor Upbringing”
Apollo, his mother, and his brother asked the judge for less time due to his difficult past and rough upbringing. The judge denied him lenience on those grounds.
Exclusive: Apollo Nida’s Imprisoned Accomplice, Gayla St. Julien, Speaks On His Sentence And Claims Phaedra Knew Of His Crimes
As Apollo Nida tries to wrap his head around all the time he will have to begin serving in the next few weeks, someone speaking out about his sentencing and crimes his his former alleged right-hand woman, Gayla St. Julien. As his alleged accomplice, St. Julien, 44, was reportedly depositing fraudulent checks, stolen retirement checks, and had opened a number (reportedly 40) of bank accounts under stolen identities to help Nida commit bank fraud. St. Julien was arrested last September and has been in jail in Florida after being sentenced to five years and one month for all the millions that were stolen. With time already served and her current involvement with different programs, St. Julien, a married mother of two, hopes to be released by the end of 2015. From behind bars, we spoke to St. Julien about Nida’s sentencing, serving her own time, the impact it has had on her family and her marriage, and why she thinks Phaedra Parks should stand by her man. Very informative interview. Here are the details:
*Note: These are all the statements and opinion of St. Julien, and are not the opinions or beliefs of MadameNoire.
Her Feelings About Apollo Being Sentenced To Eight Years:
“My thoughts and prayers do go out to Apollo and his family. Going through something like this, it’s very devastating for our families, and it’s also devastating for the victims that we have. As far as I’m concerned, the judicial system is severely flawed. He did get a 5K1 just like I did (providing assistance to help prosecute others in order to get a lesser sentence). When this situation first arose last September, he basically gave me his a** to kiss. When he gave me his a** to kiss, I took matters in my own hands. I’m not going to do time for a person who’s not going to support me. He completely turned his back on me. The difference between me and him is that his 5K1 is based on a lot of dry snitching. He told on a lot of people who didn’t have anything to do with our situation. I told on him. There was no way I’m going to pay for $2.5 million by myself. The time you get is equated to the amount of money you stole.”
On Reports That He “Snitched” To Get 8 Years:
“He did not help the government. He said that he was helping the government and repaid some of the money by doing awareness speeches and all of that–that was bulls**t. He turned evidence on people who were higher up than him. That’s the only way he got eight years out of 30. Period. End of story. Everything I said was made public after I was sentenced. And everything he has said will be made public, and everyone will know that you snitched.”
Why She Got Involved With Nida:
“I was arrested September 11, 2013. It’s been very difficult. I have a daughter who got a liver transplant some years back and that’s initially how I got involved in this with Apollo. My daughter’s medicine was $3,000 a month. Medicaid was no longer willing to pay for the medicine, and while they kept rejecting us and rejecting us and rejecting us, she was deteriorating without the medicine. So I got back into this for my daughter. If I had to do it all over again, I don’t know what I would do. I’m a mother. I’m a mother first.”
How She’s Coping With Her Sentence:
“My husband, two weeks after I got here, of course, he wanted a divorce. That’s another issue. So it’s a struggle. It’s very hard. The issues with my husband, that’s going to play out, and it’ll probably play out publicly as well. But I’m just trying to take it one day at a time. I have a beautiful son and he’s autistic, so that’s a financial strain on my parents, so it’s hard. I think the thing that irks me is that, of course they’re public figures, but everyone has been so concerned about Ayden and Mr. President–and of course I love Ayden, I’ve never met the little baby, but as far as Ayden is concerned, I spent some time with him and I’m fond of him. I care about children. But nobody really gave a damn about my circumstances or my children. I feel like I have not been given fair treatment. It’s been bias. At the end of the day, he’s just as guilty as I am. And I’ve paid from day one. I’ve lost everything.”
Why She Believes Phaedra Should Stay With Nida:
“Well, let me tell you like this. Spouses? When one party is legitimate to a degree, and the other isn’t, there’s NO secret about it. If you reap the benefit, or get things and money and all the things that come with a lifestyle such as what we had, then I think you should ride with him. But it’s not a secret. Everybody knows that she knew, just like my husband knew. There were benefits that had been reaped and so if you go into a marriage and you know what a person is involved in, and you say ‘Okay, I can deal with it,’ and you take the diamonds, you take the trips, you take the bikes, you take the whatevers–then you take the time too. That should be the way it is. She knew what she was getting into just like my husband knew what he was getting into. If you’re getting into a situation where you don’t know what a person is about, then okay if you feel like you need to walk away, then you walk away. It’s understandable. But if your cards were laid out on the table and you knew the risks involved, and yet you decided you wanted to roll with those risks, then you roll with those risks. Period. She knew. Period. End of story. We’ll just leave it at that.
St. Julien says that she’s currently working on a book that she hopes will shed more light on her story, and hopes that when she’s out of prison, to never return. “I feel like I’m going through this for a reason,” she says. “I made my peace with it and I take it in stride. Hopefully when this is all over, something positive will come out of all of it.”