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From Hello Beautiful

It’s normal to get angry at times. Screaming or fuming for hours after the driver in front of you failed to use their turn signal is not. Uncontrolled anger is a danger to your health, your job your marriage, your relationships and most importantly, your life.

Does your mad-o-meter go from zero to a hundred the moment something unpleasant or unfair happens? Do you become violently angry when you see (or think) someone is cutting in front of you in line? Do you find yourself screaming in outrage at your children, coworkers or friends when you become displeased or embarrassed? If you’re nodding your head yes, stop right now and take a few moments to read these tips on how to ice down that fiery temper.

START THE COUNT DOWN IMMEDIATELY

Yes, you’ve heard it before and it sounds too easy to be effective but counting to ten can help give you time to get your thoughts in order and your emotions back in check. Resist the urge to simply number the righteous reasons for your anger. Concentrate on counting, giving a slight pause between each. If you are a praying person you may give yourself a ten word emergency prayer instead of using the numbers. Example: Lord (pause) help (pause) me (pause) to (pause) take (pause) control (pause) of (pause) myself (pause) right (pause) now.

REFLECT BEFORE YOU REACT

There are almost always negative consequences when we react in anger. Make it a practice to delay any response until you’re sure it’s not just an angry reaction.

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Chad Johnson has given his first interview since the breakdown of his relationship with Evelyn and subsequent divorce. Last night, Showtime aired the former Ochocinco’s interview with James Brown on “Inside the NFL,” and during the segment he talked about how he’s basically trying to do better.

“I’m trying to find out how can I channel my anger when I’m in situations to where I would pop off,” he said adding that he’s taking anger management classes — for the second time now. ”I think what I need to do is work on Chad.”

James asked Chad if he thought he was cut from the Miami Dolphins totally because of the domestic incident and not because of his lackluster performance during training and Chad responded:

“That was the reason. There’s no need to blow smoke up my A**.”

Yesterday, Chad and Evelyn’s divorce was finalized and Chad confirmed the story Evelyn has been telling since the domestic altercation, which is that she’s had no interraction with her now ex-husband since he headbutted her August 12. He told James Brown the two aren’t on speaking terms at all.

“There’s nothing I can say to her because she’s already heard it all … what can I say … actions speak louder than words and this is the time for me to show action.”

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From Necole Bitchie.com 

Tami Roman is no stranger to controversy. She has become most known for her spunky, outspoken attitude and multiple altercations on Basketball Wives after she joined the cast during Season 2. But there’s way more to the single mother of two than you’d ever imagine.

On last week’s episode of Basketball Wives, viewers were shocked to learn that Tami had been the victim of sexual assault twice, as well as held up at gunpoint and physically abused which has become the source of her built up anger over the years. In a counseling session that she attended on the show to get to the root of her anger, she revealed:

How did your family react to your decision to share something so personal with the world?
Ultimately they’re very supportive. They want me to heal. We try to talk about anything and love on each other as much as possible. They were a little apprehensive because they didn’t know how people would receive that information coming from me. People see me all the time and think I’m the same way, so I thought that maybe if they understand why I’m this way, they can take this journey with me.

Having now watched the episode, how do you feel about your decision?
Vh1 treated it fairly and with respect. It was a four-hour therapy session. People have been very responsive and supportive. What I wanted to do was accomplished. I wanted to let others out there know, “You’re not the only one.” I want to use my life as a testimony. I’ve been homeless, on food stamps, I’ve always been very open. I’ve dealt with Bulemia, weight issues…I’ve been through a lot and this is just one more thing.

Click here to read the rest of Tami’s interview and watch a clip of her therapy session.

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Tami Roman has been “known to pop a b**** or two” on the set of Basketball Wives, the reality TV veteran admitted to HDNet talk show, “Naughty But Nice.” But Tami claims her fist-throwing days are far behind her. She told the talk show, “I’m in total control of my anger management issues now.”

Clips from upcoming episodes of season 4 show Tami’s ability to control her temper will definitely be tempted, but from the sounds of things, Tami’s realized she has other things to take care of—like her daughters—and she said walking away from ability to do that easily as a real-life basketball wife when she divorced Kenny Anderson wasn’t easy.

“You’ve got a lot of great things, lots of great material things, great lifestyle when you are a basketball wife,” she said. “The relationship is where it lacks. I was that wife that had her blinders on. … It wasn’t until it just got to the point where I couldn’t take it anymore.

“I felt like I didn’t have choices,” she added. “What am I going to do now? Job? You’re dependent on him. At the time we got divorced, he had signed a $60 million contract. We had a prenup, so I walked away with nothing. It’s been really hard, and I’ve been vocal about him not paying child support. But I feel like it is a testament to others out there and to my daughters that there are strong women out there. Everything for them I have paid for.”

Um I’m all for Tami handling her business solo but she better take a page from the book of Sheree and file those papers to get what’s owed to her children. And while she’s in a calming mood maybe she can help her girl Evelyn out and tell her to get her anger management issues under control as well because that woman is clearly going HAM.

Do you think this “Basketball Wife” has done a complete 180 or is she still the same ol’ crazy Tami?

Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.

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By Kendra Koger 

Life is stressful enough that every single issue that is presented to us does not need to turn into an argument.   Sometimes it’s important and very mature to learn how to pick and choose our battles.  Though these topics can be annoying when they’re being brought up, sometimes it’s good to either stop being defensive, remember the good intentions, or placate the person addressing you.   Too many times angry words turn into angry actions and honestly, instead of striving to look like “Bad Girls,” we should be striving to showcase ourselves as women.  To do so, here are some people who arguing with just isn’t worth the time.

Arguments are an inevitable part of any relationship. You know they’re coming but that doesn’t make them any easier to handle when they do happen. Once you’ve come through the fire you still may find yourself singeing. Despite your emotions, you want to move on to avoid making a bad situation even worse.

Whether you can’t release your anger, feel dejected or saddened, Your Tango.com has a list ways to deal with these emotions in a healthy way.

Check out YourTango’s list to learn how to come down from the heights of a nasty argument.