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How many times have you watched a movie or TV show, or listened to a throwback album and said to yourself or someone else, “I wonder where ___ is…” We’ve done enough of those type of lists with no answer to the question that we think it’s time to find out. And not just find out what certain individuals who we used to jam to and dress like are doing, but what they’re looking like. We get it, people change over time, with some aging better than others. But man, some of these people have gone through a Transformers-esque change over the years. Time to play catch up in gallery form…
As Lisa Turtle on Saved By the Bell, Lark Voorhies had us wanting to dress like her in her fly pastels and always on-point accessories. Although she was one of the only black faces on that show, she definitely stood out for more than her color. After that show ended, you could check Lark making guest appearances on other big television shows like The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air, Martin and on the soap The Bold and the Beautiful. But as of recently, her roles have dried up. But a few photos surfaced in 2010 of the actress looking paler than usual. Blame it on a horrible foundation choice, or something a lot worse that I won’t say, but Voorhies looks a lot older (and drier) than her 37 years. What’s that about?
This weekend I watched “Lean on Me” and “Driving Miss Daisy” back to back on OWN and I thought, I love Morgan Freeman, I forgot he’s such a good actor. Then I saw reports that he may have actually married his 27-year-old step-granddaughter, E’Dena Hines, or at least plans to, and I thought, I’m disgusted by Morgan Freeman, I forgot he’s such a creeper.
Rumors of this sordid, decade-long love affair have swarmed for several years and many assumed it was the cause of Morgan’s divorce to his second wife, Myrna Colley-Lee, which was finalized in September 2010 with a settlement (hush money) of $400 million. Reports that Morgan was now free to marry his step-granddaughter and had plans to do so were never confirmed, but they were never denied either. What the reports did was get people talking about the actor and his personal life, asking whether his rumored relationship is wrong, questionable, or simply odd.
On one hand, E’Dena isn’t actually his blood relative, and since she would have been about 17 when they began this alleged relationship that puts her at the age of consent—and him out legal trouble. On the other hand, he’s still family and assumedly played a father-like role in her life. Dating an older man is one thing. Dating a man nearly 50 years older than you who was once married to your grandmother and who raised you is another.
Inappropriate would be an understatement to describe the transition from father-figure to lover, and it certainly suggests other inappropriate behavior could have gone on long before the age of 17. After all, what would spark that sort of attraction at that age—for both Morgan and E’Dina. She would have had to have some sort of influence that made her think a relationship with her former step-grandfather would be OK and some think Morgan was that influence. Even when you think about Morgan as a man in his mid-70s, dating a younger woman is one thing, and not uncommon in Hollywood. But a young woman you helped rear? That raises more than eyebrows and side eyes.
Morgan’s been likened to Woody Allen who married Soon-Yi Previn, the adopted daughter of his previous girlfriend Mia Farrow, when he was 56 and she was 21. Although Woody was never Soon-Yi’s legal stepfather, it can be assumed he had a fatherly influence over the course of his 12-year relationship with Mia. Once, when Woody was questioned about the relationship which he claimed wasn’t scandalous in any way, he said equality is not necessarily a requirement in a relationship and that “The heart wants what it wants. There’s no logic to those things. You meet someone and you fall in love and that’s that.”
You may not be able to help who you fall in lust with, but love is an emotion that grows with time and shouldn’t be nurtured in a romantic way with someone of an inappropriate age and relationship like Soon-Yi was when Mia found his nude pictures of her daughter. Morgan Freeman may not have crossed the line in that way, but his relationship with E’Dena is still questionable at the very least. Some things the heart just ought not want or have.
What do you think about Morgan Freeman and E’Dena Hines? Does the age difference and familial relationship matter if she was of age when they began dating and they’re not blood related?
Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.
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I’ve heard your 30s are when you start to come into your own and become comfortable with who you are, but it may be another 20 years before women become totally confident with themselves, inside and out.
A recent survey of 3,000 UK women for the lifestyle site Myspecialk.co.uk, found that 52 is the age women feel most confident with their bodies and themselves overall. A lot of that confidence may stem from the fact that half of the women said that many of their primary goals had been achieved by that age.
“A woman in her 50s knows who she is, what her strengths are and values, as well as her weaknesses and failings,” psychologist Rebekah Fensome says. “You become more accepting of the things that you are good at and the things that you are not.”
So maybe 50 is really the new 30. At that age you finally have the confidence and self-assurance to do all the things you should and could have been doing before you hit the big 4-0. Hopefully that number will start to get lower and lower as women continue to make greater strides in society too.
What do you think about this finding? Would it be different here in the U.S.? Have you come into a state of total confidence with who you are inside and out yet?
Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.
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Is beautiful skin on your Christmas list? Luckily, all ages can achieve radiant skin by using a skincare routine regularly. Here are a few tips to maintain a healthy glow through the decades.
3 of a kind
Look for a 3-step cleansing system to clean, tone (exfoliate) and moisturize your face according to your skin type. Most major cosmetic lines carry a 3 or 4 step cleansing system. Feel free to mix and match but make sure you get a cleanser, toner and moisturizer in your customized regimen.
Rays today, lines tomorrow
Always use sunscreen. Protect your skin against harmful UVB/UVA rays to ward off signs of premature aging. Choose a daily moisturizer with a SPF of at least 15. If you are using a moisturizer without SPF, add it after you have applied your moisturizer.
By Ramona X
In the past couple of years, the ego of Black women in this country has taken a very defined hit. Every other week, a story about the low marriage rates amongst black women emerges, painting us in a very negative light as women who are lonely, doomed and undesired by all men, including our own.
And let me tell you something, the abundance of articles and books pointing out our dubious plight is not only based on marriage statistics, it’s rooted in something more deeply psychological that many refuse to acknowledge.
I’m not going to go on a whole long Isis-Papers –inspired soliloquy on why black people are so hated and so loved at the same time, but let me just share with you what the primary, subconscious reason is for all this hate: Black don’t crack. That’s right, the fact that black women do not age as rapidly or get attacked by wrinkles at a relatively young age is a source of jealousy of our melanin-challenged counterparts. And as we all know, jealousy breeds contempt.
Laugh if you’d like. It’s the truth. This subconscious envy of a people, who have a relationship with the source of energy that doesn’t wrinkle them to death, who can spawn and influence world culture by their very natural existence, is real. But let’s take this discussion down a notch and allow me to explain how Black women are being attacked because of this subconscious contempt of our melanin.
I’ve been around Black women all my life so it came as a surprise to me when I discovered that many of my non-White college classmates and, later, my twenty-something co-workers were investing in expensive Estee Lauder anti-aging creams. This panic of aging and the idea that beauty had a fast-coming expiration date was an overshadowing theme in many of their lives. In contrast, any discussions about beauty at my Sunday brunch outings involved sharing hair care tips and recommending moisturizing conditioners.
Another epiphany struck when I was discussing this idea of how it seemed more acceptable for white women to “get around” as opposed to Black women, who were judged for being sexually free, with a Black guy friend of mine. He joked that it was okay for white women since they had a shorter shelf life. In other words, they were aware of their dwindling beauty and had to capitalize on their youthfulness fast.
Although he was joking, there seemed some truth to it. By the time many white women hit age 30, they look their age. A 30+ Black woman, on the other hand, will most likely look like she’s still in her 20s. Age is just a number but for many ladies, how you look at your age feeds into how you feel about yourself, your level of confidence, and not feeling insecure if you’re still at the club past your ideal marrying age.
Black women certainly don’t remember to be grateful for the fact they’ll look good for many years past their 21st birthday and their 40th for that matter, but many on the outside are resentful of it. I don’t blame ‘em. When I gaze at white celebrities like Rachel Zoe sometimes, who at 38, looks ten years older than 45-year-old Halle Berry and 44-year-old Kimberly Elise, it makes me grateful. When I’m 45, I’ll probably look as youthful in the face as Berry, who although looks good for her age, is not an anomaly in the Black community.
During adolescence and late into my teens I anxiously awaited the day until I could confidently say, “I’m a grown A$$ woman”. But it was only in my early twenties that I learned that Aaliyah may have had a point when she sassily serenaded, “Age ain’t nothing but a number.” Age without experience is somewhat irrelevant. And while the law may deem you an adult on paper and endow you with privileges like voting, purchasing alcohol, being allowed entrance into bars and clubs, and basically having to answer to no one else but yourself, nowhere is there a handbook that details how to navigate all of the responsibility that comes with those privileges. As a teenager if I knew that a tart side of responsibility came with that privilege platter, I might not have been in such a rush to reach my eighteenth birthday.
Something funny happens when you reach your late twenties. As you and your friends start to approach that milestone of the almighty “thirty-years” your lives start to take distinct directions, peers start to reach significant points in their personal and professional lives and you may start to feel like you still haven’t left the starting mark. Increasingly you may find yourself in situations where the instinct is to fib a bit so that you appear a few years younger than you really are if not for the fear of aging, then to avoid the judgment you think comes with feeling that you haven’t achieved what you had hoped to by a certain age.
It’s no secret that our society is obsessed with youth, but why do we place such significant emphasis on age when determining a person’s experience level, successes or failures? I guess when it comes to certain situations, age is a good way to gauge what to expect from someone’s behavior, but most of the time age isn’t as good as a determining factor as maturity level and experience.
What’s your take on the part age plays in the following life situations?
You’ve heard the statistics about black women and marriage. But we’re here to pose a slightly different question. If a woman plans on getting married at what age should she start thinking about walking down the aisle.
Is it ok to get married straight out of high school?
Should you wait until you’ve both graduated college?
Or do you want to make sure that you’ve spent significant time alone, have established yourself professionally?
So many questions and so many options. Want to know what the Your Tango audience thinks is the best age? You can find out here.
(NY Times) — More evidence that technology doesn’t always equal higher test scores: a new working paper by Jacob L. Vigdor and Helen F. Ladd examines the effects of home computer and internet access on test scores. Consistent with the research of Ofer Malamud and Cristian Pop-Eleches, Vigdor and Ladd found that “the introduction of home computer technology is associated with modest but statistically significant and persistent negative impacts on student math and reading test scores.”