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10 Celebrities With Adoptive Parents

May 9th, 2014 - By Zainab Karim
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Not being born into a loving or financially stable family is a reality no child should have to experience, but thankfuly there are families out there willing to take a child in and show them unconditional love. Adoptive parents have taken the in many a child and given them a foundation that will carry them through life. These celebrities were raised by adoptive parents that gave them love, encouragement and a place to call home.

Kristin Chenoweth

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Kristin Chenoweth was adopted soon after she was born in July 1968 in Broken Arrow, Oklahoma. She shared with Rosie O’Donnell her fear of finding her birth mother, “I was afraid that someone might come forward and that it either wouldn’t be true because it was a closed adoption, or it would be a door that I wanted to shut and couldn’t.” Being a Tony Award winning actress and singer, she does however want to know where she got her distinctive voice.

Hmm… V. Stiviano Is A New Foster Mother

May 7th, 2014 - By Veronica Wells
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V. Stiviano is…a character. I can’t lie after watching snippets of her interview with Barbara Walters, where she denied being his mistress, but claimed he called her his “silly rabbit,” I find her odd… to say the least. But apparently, someone at the L.A. County Department of Children and Family Services thinks she’s a suitable foster mother.

The agency agreed that Stiviano could serve as the temporary guardian for two boys, 12 and 14. A social worker signed off on the guardianship after visiting the $1.8 million home Clippers owner, Donald Sterling bought for her last year. The social worker’s visit, ironically came hours before the Barbara Walters interview, where she also denied that Sterling was a racist.

Stiviano’s lawyer, Mac Nehoray said the approval happened “in the middle of all the craziness.” He also noted that the reports that the boys are African American is false. One boy is of “Cambodian Mexican descent and one is of Mexican and Native American descent.”

I won’t say too much on this because when people, with good intentions, take children into their home it can be a beautiful thing, I just sincerely hope that she treats these boys well, that they find a good home with her and she allows them to live a normal life, not plagued by her newfound fame.

What do you think about V. Stiviano the foster mother?

Twitter Helps Adopted Iowa Teen Find Birth Mother

April 22nd, 2014 - By Madame Noire
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From The Grio 

A 19-year-old Iowa woman is meeting her birth mother for the first time thanks to a photo she posted online.

Hannah Stouffer of Urbandale posted a photo asking for information on her birth mother earlier this week.

Three days and 53,000 re-tweets later, she got a hold of her mother. It turns out her mother still lives in Des Moines. They’ve been texting back and forth for days.

Stouffer says she needed some time to prepare for meeting her mother in person.

“’I’m as ready as I’m going to be. I’m nervous. I`m scared. Every time I think about it I just want to cry. I just can`t believe it`s happening already. I’ve waited so long and it`s finally happening,” Stouffer says.

Growing up all Stouffer knew about her birth mother was that she gave birth to Stouffer when she was 15-years-old. “I was just so angry that she would give me up.”

It wasn’t until Stouffer became a teenage mother herself that she had a better understanding of what her mother went through. “As soon as I got pregnant I knew how hard it was. I knew that decision wasn’t easy and I knew she did it with love.”

Stouffer kept her daughter and shares her story with other teen moms. Stouffer plans on meeting up with her mother Saturday afternoon at a coffee shop.

Read more about this reunion at TheGrio.com 

“Newborn Baby? That’ll Be $30,000 Please!”: The Bank-Breaking Business Of Adoption

February 21st, 2014 - By Kimberly Gedeon
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The notion of adopting a child truly tugs at our heartstrings, but let’s keep it real: the twist and turns that precede a successful adoption can be a nightmare! And to top it all off, your bank account will look damn-near empty after the process.

“I would like to adopt, but can’t afford the agency fees. It’s soooooo expensive.” a MadameNoire reader recently commented. She’s right. Between the legal fees, medical costs, travel expenses and possible failed adoption matches, this method of bringing a child into your family costs Americans between $10,000 to $40,000! But compare that to the average cost of a natural birth — $30,000 — and it isn’t too harrowing.

Now since there are several different methods to acquiring an adopted bundle of joy, let’s break down the numbers for each, shall we?

International Adoption

Maybe you’ll want to extend your motherly love to a precious child overseas?  The latest figures show international adoption has plummeted to only 20,000 children from 45,000 in 2004. Despite the drop, international adoption costs have climbed —  adoptive parents have put down as much as $50,000!

The price tag varies depending on which country you choose. One adoption agency — Bethany Christian Services — give us a pretty good picture of how much you’ll spend for international adoption. Taking in a Haitian child, for instance, will set you back between $35,149 and $42,129. What does this include?

Agency fees (paid to the social workers, the home study fees, and more) – $ 12,950

Country fees (funds the nation’s orphanage system) — between $13,810 and $ 14,650

“Third-party fees” (whatever that is) $ 2,864 — $ 3,404

Travel fees (don’t forget important documents like medical exams, proof of marriage, financial statements etc.) —  $ 4,825 — $ 10,125

Post-adoption fees  (agency needs to keep an eye on you as a caregiver) – $ 700 — $ 1,000.

The great thing about adopting internationally is that you don’t have to cover an expectant mother’s expenses or worry about her changing her mind. The downside? All that travelling can be a pain in the rear; be willing to visit the host country twice. Also, tough luck if you want a newborn! In most countries, children are orphaned and older before they’re permitted to be sent overseas, GlobalPost reports.

For a newborn, perhaps you’ll consider domestic adoption?

Domestic Adoption

Newborn American baby? That’ll be $33,793, please! This average figure can climb or drop even depending on the child’s race. According to NPR, a Caucasian baby costs $35,000, a bi-racial baby costs between $24,000 and $26,000 and a Black baby can cost about $18,000. But where, according to Adoptive Families, does all the money go?

Home study Fee (agency determines if you’re fit for parenthood through interviews, background checks and references) – $1,912

Agency application & program fee (y’know, adoption centers got bills to pay & profits to make) –  $14,161

Attorney fees (with all the legal mumbo jumbo, you might need one) – $3,548

Document preparation/Authorization – $1,114

Advertising (agencies need to retain their relationships with hospitals/clinics to find mothers willing to give up their child) – $2,017

Birth family counseling (sometimes offered to birth mothers for free, at your expense) – $1,085

Birth mother expenses (OB-Gyn, hospital stay, etc. One article calls this expense a “fraud” because taxpayers pay this fee, not you) – $3,076

Travel expenses (varies depending how far or near the birth mother is) – $2,198

All other expenses – $4,682

Whew! That’s a lot, but the good thing is that there’s a shorter wait time compared to international adoption and certainly less traveling. However, adoptive parents run the risk of the dreaded “false start” — expectant mothers fall in love with their baby and refuse to give it up. Thirty-five percent of adoptive parents have experienced this and lose out on an average of $5,000.

Foster Home

If you’re willing to forgo the fantasy of raising a child from birth, adopting from a foster home is the cheapest option — a relatively low price tag of only $2,744. As reported by Adoptive Families, let me give you a full picture of the expenses:

Home study fee – $231

Attorney fees – $1,573

Travel expenses – $342

Other expenses – $598

You pay absolutely nothing for agency fees, document preparation, advertising, and birth mother expenses. In fact, foster homes will give you a monthly stipend for food, medical insurance, school supplies, and clothes. On average, adoptive parents receive $607 a month. The downside is that many of the toddlers have developmental delays. “There’s usually a long line of potential parents waiting for an infant in good health,” ABC News says.

Surrogacy

For women who cannot or choose not to give birth to children, another woman can carry and delivery the baby for them, which is what Melissa Harris-Perry did to add a baby girl to her family. If you thought domestic and international adoption was expensive, you’ll be shocked to hear that gestational surrogacy costs a whopping $80,000 to $100,000! Where did we come up with that number? Here’s the breakdown:

In vitro fertilization transfer fee - $1,000 

Cycling process - $400

Pregnancy allowance (8 months at $200 per month) - $1,600 

Maternity clothing allowance – $500

Life insurance – $500-$600

Health insurance - $1,000 – $25,000

Meeting allowance (5 meetings at $100 per meeting) - $500

Childcare - $1,200 

Housekeeping - $400

Surrogate’s lost wages -$2,500

Travel to IVF doctor -$1,000

Program fee – $22,500

Attorney/court fees – $10,250 – $16,760

If you can supply your own egg, a baby of your own genetic line will be born. The downsides are obviously the costs and the surrogate can, again, change her mind and keep the baby.

Parents who choose any of these methods must be prepared mentally for the unforeseen circumstances can take you on an emotional roller coaster as well as the fiscal challenges that come up.

But you know what? It’s all worth it in the end when you have your new angel-faced tyke to call your “son” or “daughter.”

Congratulations! Melissa Harris Perry And Husband Adopt A Baby Girl

February 17th, 2014 - By Veronica Wells
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While many of us were celebrating or lamenting our Valentine’s Day gifts–or lack thereof– MSNBC host Melissa Harris Perry and her husband, James Perry, received a different kind of gift. They welcomed a new daughter into the world. What better way to celebrate a day devoted to love?

The couple’s adopted daughter was born on February 14 and her new parents are thrilled. The Perrys, who have been married since 2010 and co-parent Melissa’s daughter Parker from a previous relationship, tweeted about their new bundle.

Melissa shared this picture:

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And her husband shared the image above and captioned it:

Here’s the wonderful Valentine’s day gift that @MHarrisPerry & I received yesterday! A beautiful baby girl.

So precious!

The Perrys join a short-ish list of black celebrities who’ve adopted including Al Roker and Deborah Roberts, Magic and Cookie Johnson, Alfre Woodard and her husband Roderick Spencer, Viola Davis and husband Julius Tennon and “Scandal” and “Greys Anatomy” creator and writer Shonda Rhimes, who has adopted twice.

Melissa also twit-pic-ed this image early this morning of her fourth day with her new daughter.

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Congratulations to Melissa Harris Perry and her newly expanded family!

 

They Found Love In A Better Place: Celebrities Who Were Adopted

January 14th, 2014 - By Ashley Page
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We’ve all heard and read about the number of celebrities who have adopted their children from across the United States and beyond, including Viola Davis, Sandra Bullock, Angelina Jolie, and Charlize Theron, but what about celebrities who themselves were adopted? Here are 14 celebrities who were adopted and have gone on to find plenty of success and love.

Davion Only, 15-Year-Old Who Made Plea To Be Adopted, Will Spend Christmas With Prospective Foster Family

December 13th, 2013 - By Victoria Uwumarogie
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We told you in October about 15-year-old Davion Only. The young man had been in the foster care system his entire life, born while his mother (who had abused drugs for years) was in jail. He was most recently residing in a group home for teenage boys with 12 other young men. He was a frustrated youth for a time, short-tempered and getting bad grades. He also was reportedly packing on the pounds. But things in Only’s life changed big time after he learned about his birth mother. After making a search for her and finding out that she had actually passed on weeks before he sought her out, Only cleaned up his act, lost weight, and worked on his grades. He also pushed his search for a family in high gear and made a plea at a local church in St. Petersburg, Fl. for someone to adopt him, saying:

“My name is Davion and I’ve been in foster care since I was born… I know God hasn’t given up on me. So I’m not giving up either. I’ll take anyone. Old or young, dad or mom, black, white, purple. I don’t care. And I would be really appreciative. The best I could be.”

And that’s where we met the young man. Well good news! According to the Daily Mail, Only is now staying with his new prospective adoptive family for the holidays so he can get to know them better before he’s permanently adopted. This was reportedly confirmed by Eckerd, the adoption agency working with the teen, as a spokesperson told the Mail the following:

“Davion has moved from his group home placement at Carlton Manor to a foster home where he is enjoying getting to know the family. Davion is excited to be spending the holidays with a perspective adoptive family.”

This was also confirmed by Only’s biological aunt, Doris Barnes, who is the sister of his late mother. As a reminder, family members did inquire about adopting him, but past criminal records and other issues blocked the ability for some of them to take him in. They met Only a few months before he spoke out at the church about his search to find a family.

“I know he is going out of town with a family for Christmas. I wanted to buy him a present and maybe see him, but I can’t because he’s not going to be around.

I just want him to be happy and loved and to be with someone who is going to do the best for his future.”

And it looks like he’s getting the chance to have that. This is an amazing thing, considering that after his search for a “forever family” hit the media, families from around the world, including Australia, Great Britain and more contacted his agency about his case. Hopefully the permanent adoption will happen very soon and Only can spend many more holidays with a family that will love, be there for him, and be good to him.

The Wedding Bells Are Ringing: La Toya Jackson Married In A Secret Ceremony

December 7th, 2013 - By Drenna Armstrong
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Well would you look at that!  After discussing that she’s ready to find love and settle down again, the word on the e-streets is that La Toya Jackson married her long time business partner/friend/whatever he is to her, Jeffre Phillips.

According to RadarOnline, Jackson and Phillips were married in a ceremony in Los Angeles on Friday afternoon.  The couple were joined by Jackson’s mom Katherine as well as one of her nephews.  It sounds like they could have been two of the witnesses.

On La Toya’s show on OWN, Life With La Toya, Phillips made a bold move an proposed to her on the show after he was tired of seeing her being “wooed” by other men.  It seemed a little odd but many of her friends considered them to be in some sort of situation because he was always around and always seemed to have a say in how she acts in her relationships.

One can only wonder if the couple will now take the idea of adoption more seriously.  Jackson said many times on her show that she had a desire to have her own family by adopting a child.  There’s not much information about Phillips but if he has children, it’s highly likely that they are adults.

We haven’t heard any official word from La Toya or Jeffre but this sounds like pretty solid information.

Congratulations to the happy couple!

What!? Southern Baptist Leader Says Single Moms Are Denying Their Kids “The Father That God Wants”

November 27th, 2013 - By Victoria Uwumarogie
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If you make the choice to go forward with raising your child as a single mother, according to Dr. Richard Land, you’re keeping him/her from having the future that God intended the child to have–one with a committed mother and father. That’s what Land had to say in an op-ed for the Christian Post that was supposed to bring attention to National Adoption Day, which was on Saturday. But instead of just trying to educate people on the need to adopt and laud those who do, Dr. Land decided to point the finger at single mothers and say that by raising kids alone, you’re keeping them from having the best life possible. To him, it would be best if new moms gave their children up for adoption to two-parent families that can’t have kids and are willing to give them a home.

Adoption is not only the best answer for the heartache and loneliness of foster children and those in orphanages both here and around the world, but it is also the best answer in almost every case where a mother finds herself with a “problem” pregnancy. Such pregnancies can arise from numerous circumstances, but most commonly they are a “problem” because the father is not married to the mother…Last year, 53 percent of babies born to women under thirty were born to single mothers. And yet, though adoption is seldom chosen in response to such pregnancies, it is virtually always the best option for everyone concerned.

Keeping the baby is almost never preferable to allowing a baby to be adopted into a solid, faithful Christian home. A single mother who keeps her baby is quite often denying that baby the father that God wants for that baby, and every baby, to have. Furthermore, in most circumstances, keeping the baby circumscribes and forecloses both the mother’s and the baby’s economic futures in tragic and unfortunate ways.

If the mother is doing what is best for her baby (one of the defining marks of maternal love), she will part with her baby so that it will have the future God intended for him or her to have.

Adoption allows the mother to give her child both a mother and a father who will love and cherish the child. Also with today’s open adoption policies, she can have as much or as little contact with, and information about, her child as she desires. She can dictate the terms of the adoption (monthly reports, quarterly visits, etc.), and the adoptive parents either agree or the adoption does not occur.

What Dr. Land fails to point out though is the equal responsibility that fathers have in this equation. While a mother and father may not work out romantically, if they’re both committed to being their for the child and are good parents, their child can have a great upbringing and often a better one than some kids who live in two-parent homes that are filled with constant disagreements and strife. But if the father chooses to not be involved, why villainize a mom trying to provide her child with everything she can on her own? As Dr. Land pointed out in his column, there are more than 100,000 children in foster care right now, so there are plenty of children for couples to try and adopt to give a “good home.” No need to try and tell moms who want to hustle and do their best for their children (with or without the father’s help) that they should add their kids to that number.

What are your thoughts on Dr. Land’s statements? 

Keyshia Cole’s Contemplating Adoption, Says Her Mom Will Help

November 8th, 2013 - By Brande Victorian
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Despite the incessant rumors of marital trouble surrounding Keyshia Cole and her husband Boobie, the Oakland singer is thinking about making a major family change. According to Keyshia’s Instagram musings, she’s surprisingly contemplating expanding her family by way of adoption. She wrote a few days ago:

Keyshia Cole's Contemplating Adoption

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Many may forget that Keyshia was adopted. After being born to the mother we’ve all grown to know, Frankie, real name Francine Lons, and her now-deceased father Sal, Keyshia was adopted at age two by family friends Leon and Yvonne Cole, who changed her last name to theirs. Given that upbrining, it makes total sense Keyshia would want to adopt, and we all would love to see more African American children brought into stable African American homes, but therein lies some of the confusion with Keyshia’s statement.

Knowing the marital issues she’s working through, it is odd that Keyshia doesn’t mention her husband at all in this post, only her adopted mother. But perhaps in mentioning Mama Cole, she means her adopted mother will help her through the adoption process, not to raise the child, which is one way this message could be (mis)interpreted. Also, to say you’re contemplating adoption in the same breath as you say you have too much work to do to have a child is a bit contradictory. Sure, you won’t have to physically carry the adopted child, but the work required to raise him or her will be no less than a child she’d give birth to, if not more. I’m thinking Keyshia might want to give this decision a little more thought and make sure her home is right before going any further, but this is none of my business…

What do you think?