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Newsweek once claimed that a single woman over 40 years old had a better chance of being killed by a terrorist than she did of getting married. 20 years later they retracted this story.
Elated is the only word to accurately describe the emotion that came over me when my very vibrant and fabulous 50+ year old aunt announced to our family that she would be getting married for the first time in her life this fall. While some looked at her skeptically as if she had certainly lost her mind, I couldn’t keep from smiling. It was the outward reflection of my heart, which I was sure was doing back flips and leaping for joy inside of my chest. My grandmother gave birth to nine children, so I’ve been blessed with a host of loving, motherly and nurturing aunts. However, this aunt in particular devoted most of her life to being the backbone of our family and helping those in the community. Prison ministries, local shelter programs, implementing programs for New York’s elderly, and so on. She cared for my grandmother throughout much of the latter part of her life, practically moved in when my mom was diagnosed with colon cancer back in 2007, and has been nothing short of a second mother to my cousins, as well as my brother and I our entire lives. I’d always wondered how a person could devote so much of their life to others. This is why I was particularly over the moon when I learned of her engagement. She’d been single most of her life, but deep down inside, even when I was the chatty and opinionated little girl that she dressed up in poofy dresses, white lace stockings with frilly white socks and dragged to Sunday school each week, I always secretly wished she would find a love of her own.
Many women reach a point in their lives where they feel like their better years are behind them and they’ve experienced all of the good that is going to come especially when it comes to love. This simply is not true. An increasing number of men and women seem to be stumbling across their Mr. or Mrs. Right a little later in life. These “late-blooming” relationships even seem to come with some extra perks. In a 2009 interview with the US News and World Report, Washington Post columnist and author, Abigail Trafford, discussed those perks. Some of which included:
- “You already have a love story inside you.”
- “You have a kind of confidence that comes with experience. You are freer to define the kind of life you want to lead.”
- “You put a premium not on scoring with someone, but on connecting with someone and being who you really are.”
Some other benefits to finding love later in life include:
- No longer having the pressure of racing against a biological clock.
- Many (not all) people are financially secure at this stage in life.
- Many experts suggest that being in a loving and committed relationship is not only beneficial to ones mental and emotional health, but can even extend a person’s life.
Society leads us to believe that it’s all downhill over 50 (love life included). Hell, they sometimes make you feel that if you haven’t walked down the aisle by 35 and started a family, you were probably going to be a spinster. This however, is a fallacy. There is so much more to be felt, learned and experienced. Many things in life will discontinue with time. Love, however, knows no expiration date. In the words of Frank Sinatra, “Love isn’t just for the young.”
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A task force voted today to pay $50,000 in compensation to verified, living victims of the horrible practice, including those who may pass away before legislators are able to pass the law. So far, 72 of the estimated 1,500 to 2,000 living victims have been verified—bringing the total compensation amount to about $100 million. Survivors will have three years to apply for payments from the time a measure approving them goes into effect.
“We have repeatedly acknowledged and stated as a task force that no amount of money can adequately pay for the harm done to these citizens,” says panel chairwoman Laura Gerald. “We are not attempting through our work to place a value on anyone’s life. However, we are attempting to achieve a level of financial compensation and other services that can provide meaningful assistance to survivors.
“Compensation also serves a collective purpose for the state and sends a clear message that we in North Carolina are people who pay for our mistakes and that we do not tolerate bureaucracies that trample on basic human rights.”
Previously, the panel was debating on an amount somewhere between $20,000 and $50,000 which victims argued was too low. Now, sufferers are just grateful to see an end in sight.
“I just want it to be over,” says 57-year-old Elaine Riddick, who was sterilized at 13 after she was raped and gave birth to a son. “You can’t change anything. You just let go and let God.”
Republican House Speaker Thom Tillis of Mecklenburg County says the state should agree next year to pay victims and wants to form a legislative committee to work out details so something can be voted upon during the Legislature’s budget-adjusting session in May. We’re crossing our fingers that this gets passed.
Do you think $50,000 is appropriate compensation for these women?
Brande Victorian is a blogger and culture writer in New York City. Follower her on Twitter at @be_vic.
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50. En Vogue’s appearance on ‘A Different World’
For all the individualistic Internet we use these days, most of us grew up sharing communal moments with our families and friends in front of the television screen. And, when our hotties come over to spend some time, we’re more likely to cuddle in front of the T.V. set with them than in front of the computer (unless of course we’re cruising this site, then it’s totally OK!!!). For these reasons, we’ve decided to dedicate this week to the warm days of T.V. watching, when illegal cable wasn’t so illegal, and everybody wasn’t so anxious to punch silly things into the Blackberry every five seconds! From ‘Good Times’ to programs shown just yesterday, we present to you: our 50 best moments in black television!
(special thanks to Mike, Tee, Jeana, Reggie, Grace, Seun & Ejay)
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