Are Social Networks Ruining Your Relationships?
by Quierra Davis-Martin
Our generation has recently become obsessed with a new and exciting way of life. Facebook and Twitter! People use social networks for many different reasons. To connect with old friends, to express their deepest thoughts or to simply just feel important. Sure social networks can be fun and useful but things can sometimes turn awfully wrong in terms of how it an affect your work environment or your relationship.
Unfortunately I’ve watched Twitter and Facebook destroy so many friendships and relationships that it really saddens me. We all forget sometime that perception is everything. What you see as innocent may not translate that way to your boyfriend, girlfriend or boss. You also have people who love to gossip and who are patiently waiting for that opportunity to run and tell you all of the updates they’ve been seeing over the weekend. A friend of mine is on the verge of a break up right now because of this.
If you’re in a committed relationship, please post and tweet smartly. Before you post or tweet something, think about how your significant other would feel about it. Facebook and Twitter have already made it much harder on the gentlemen out there. This is why so many guys, especially with suspect pasts, delete their Facebook when they meet a woman they’d like to get serious with.
If you’re expressing your life problems and every move you make on social networks then people can and will start to use it against you. Women no longer need to snoop or go through their man’s phone like in the past. Having social networks makes it much easier to keep tabs on a guy.
You’d think because of this that men would be a little more selective in what they discuss on Facebook and Twitter. After a Friday night at the club and too much drinking is when men head to Twitter to talk about all the fine women and crazy things they’ve done that night. Even if everything written is completely innocent, it can still cause tension and unnecessary arguments in a relationship just based off of “perception.” If your close friends follow your man on Twitter or Facebook they will naturally look at everything with a raised eyebrow. The smallest mundane things will look like deceit to a close friend or family member when it’s actually nothing.
It is also important that when you first meet someone that you really like, not to exchange Facebook or Twitter information with them. This will ruin any good chance of a future. The other person will be watching you too closely and will perceive certain things in a manner probably bigger then what it actually is. Women will be tempted to browse through her date’s profile page, read comments and look for pictures with women. This is not a good idea when you’re first meeting a guy. It’s usually not a good idea to become Facebook and Twitter friends until you and that person are in an exclusive relationship.