Girls Will Be Boys: Would You Let Your Daughter Go Tomboy?

July 13th, 2010 - By madamenoire

Sisters Shiloh, left, and Zahara Jolie Pitt, right, prefer different styles of clothing.

All kids like to dress-up, right? They’ll run around the house–or even ask to go the the supermarket–wearing a princess dress, Batman costume, crowns, swords, face-paint…parents of any normal child have seen it all.

But what about when your little girl wants to dress like a boy? Or what if your little boy wants to wear girls clothing? This mom says her toddler son has always had a “preference for pretty,” because he lives in a house with a bunch of female cousins, he was drawn to wearing princess tiara’s, ballerina dresses and nail polish.

In the case of Shiloh (pictured above), mom Angelina Jolie defends her four-year-old daughter’s style choices. “I think she (Shiloh) is fascinating, the choices she is making. And I would never be the kind of parent to force somebody to be something they are not. I think that is just bad parenting,” she told Reuters on Saturday. Angelina also told Vanity Fair: “Shiloh, we feel, has Montenegro style. It’s how people dress there. She likes tracksuits, she likes suits. She likes to dress like a boy. She wants to be a boy. So we had to cut her hair. She likes to wear boys’ everything. She thinks she’s one of the brothers…I used to get dressed up in costumes and jump around.”

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  • Ellen

    This whole thing is so wrong in so many levels! Grown up people are sitting from their computers judging a four year old baby girl! How wrong is that! So what if the little girl wants to dress like a little boy? When I was her age I was convinced I was a boy and I made my parents call me Alex. I was trying to pee as a boy and dress up like a boy, have spikes and I wanted to be cowboy. Nowadays I'am a 16 year old 100% straight girl. Soooo seriously…? Calling this bad parenting… yeah I bet that's because you are all perfect.

  • youmakemesad

    Oh my god, you people are so ridiculous!
    They are KIDS, let them wear whatever they want! I was a tomboy up until I was 20 and didn't suffer from it at all, in fact it let me negotiate the hormonal teenaged years without being pressured to have sex all the time. Now that I am older I like wearing dresses and being girly, but I had to grow into it.
    My mother constantly tried to get me to wear dresses and bought me clothing with 'feminine aspects' to them and I hated them and refused to wear them as a child.

    The more you try to keep them from doing it, they more they will want to do it! I'm pretty sure rebelling against your parents about something as trivial as clothing is part of being a kid.

    Let them become whoever they want to become, don't weigh them down with your own insecurities!

    Also, Shiloh is not an extreme. What, are girls not allowed to wear pants anymore?

  • Mimi

    I don't have any children, but if I had to place myself in a hypothetical situation, where my daughter prefers to wear boys' clothes. Or, if I had a son who wanted to wear girls clothing, I don't know what I might say/do.

    Knowing me, I would probably compromise with my daughter. If my daughter doesn't want to wear skirts/dresses or anything that is pink, then I will allow my child to wear jeans/pants, but there will be some feminine aspects in her clothing.

    If my son wants to wear little girl clothing, it is going to be a bit tricky…

  • KeepinItReal

    To me, a lot of parents allow their children to tell them what they want to do. I didn't grow up like that and I sure wouldn't allow my child to tell me what I should let them do. Especially at the age of 4. My job is to teach right from wrong and to make sure you become a decent, contributing member of society. Once I have given you the tools necessary to function on your own then you can make your own decisions, until then I am the parent, you are the child and I'll be damned if I let a child "parent" me.

  • lola289

    haha! great topic and unique! :)

    Dont have any kids so I dont kno what I would REALLY do. Although I think Id be ok w/ it at least and not be as extreme as Shiloh at least.

  • IJS

    I WILL NOT let my son dress as a girl or vice versa. Point Blank Period!

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