7 Ways to Maintain Your Independence in a Marriage

December 1st, 2011 - By LaShaun Williams

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When we take the “Great Plunge,” when we commit to “for better or worse,” it is with the understanding that we are becoming one. And, some of us mistake that for spending every waking moment together when that’s not the case at all.

Successful marriages are comprised of two whole individuals who complement one another. Rather than attempting to make each other complete, one enriches the other’s life and vice versa. For that reason, it is important that we put forth the energy to maintain ourselves individually. The intent of marriage is not to entirely expunge independence. After all, he married you as an independent woman. Therefore, it is important to preserve a certain sense of self.

These are a few ways to do so:

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  • Sugar_Spice

    This is a good article!  I’ll admit that there are times when I know i’ve lost myself.  After working 10 hours, coming home to cook, & doing housework I am exhausted. Most women are nurturers by nature & take care of their family first but I know I need to put aside time for me so I don’t get overwhelmed.

  • Rastaman

    In my experience for this to work for women they would have to fight against their base instinct.  

    • Ms T

      If that is your experience, you obviously have only associated with base females.  Intelligent, independent women want to remain intelligent and independent after marriage and this article is an excellent starting point for those who’d like to do so.  We spend so much time caring for our spouse and children, that after a while we lose ourselves.  I’m posting this on my fridge…right before I start furnishing and decorating my woman cave :)

      • Sugar_Spice

        I LOVE THAT IDEA!!!!!!!!!!!!!