1. Denying the real issues

No matter how terrible your day was or how depressed you are about your financial situation, there is no excuse for taking it out on your partner.  Often times we end up hurting the ones we love the most.  But why?  Loved ones are our support system and tend to be the people we see and talk to the most during the day.  We grow comfortable around them and therefore can take advantage of that closeness.  Rather than hurt the ones you love, do what it takes to meet the real problem head-on, as effectively as you can. If you are unsure of how to address a problem, the strong and mature thing to do is to ask for help and support from trusted sources (i.e., a friend, relative, or therapist).