Things That Don’t Matter As Much To Men

November 28, 2011 ‐ By Julia Austin

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They say to treat others like you want to be treated yourself, and that’s exactly what many women do. But it often backfires. There are a few things that women consistently get angry at their men for doing—or rather not doing. Generally, men don’t do these things for us because, it wouldn’t be as a big a deal to them if we didn’t do it for them. I am not saying that it is unreasonable for women to want these things. I am simply explaining why men don’t do them as often. A man doesn’t naturally expect the below listed actions, and so they don’t naturally occur to him to do:

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  • ConcernedGuest

    You know what’s not cool? Gender generalization. You wonder why some men paint women with the same (sometimes negative) brush, and then we turn around and do it right back? How about we stop this nonsense and approach each relationship and partner as the unique entity they are. 

  • Bhfkjhfjhwjhsa

    MN stop blocking my comments that disagree with the author. It’s getting ridiculous.

  • Tms247

    Who wrote this?  Sorry, but there are three here that miss the mark.  Yes men care if there is not enough sex.  especially if you’re in a long term committed relationship.  If the sex is not frequent enough it can cause them to wonder if there is someone else.  Even more so if you’re a good looking woman who is busy.   They also care about the little things and the checking in on them.  Sure they won’t throw a hissy fit about it, but they will notice and add it to their list of pros and cons when they are evaluating the relationship. Especially if it’s a relationship leading to marriage. 

    • Vataurus84

      My ex-fiance stopped having sex with me for a whole month and started to become paranoid that I was cheating. Through 8 years together that was something we never experienced in our relationship. But, after I found a female “friends” bra and underwear in our laundry he denied everything and so did she. All of a sudden we weren’t compatible or meant to be anymore and pointed fingers at me being the reason he wanted the relationship to end. So, if your with someone that gives you sex on a regular basis, cooks and maintains the house on top of the whole relationship would you think that person was cheating if sex was the first thing to go and you being given the cold shoulder came next??

  • IllyPhilly

    Well I must have married “gay” guys, cuz they B*tched and moaned about all of this!! Except the sex, they had to fight me off.

  • Dazzling29

    lol..i am so guilty of some of these things. So i decided on a new strategy that works well and he no longer stresses me out. I became so frustrated doing all these nice stuff and having expectations. So now i FOLLOW his lead, I do what he does, mimicking everything. For example, he takes the whole day to respond, i do the same thing. He does not contact me the entire weekend, and i don’t either. He  knows he can’t really complain cuz he does the same thing. So if he wants certain things he better change his behavior=) 

    • Guest

      ahahahahah to the new strategy of mimicking everything…lol

    • ConcernedGuest

      Kind of petty, don’t you think?

  • Ashjak87

    Thanks this just helped me 🙂