9 Things Men Think Women Want In A Mate, But They Don’t!
We all know that women and men have very different brains and therefore approach relationships quite differently. Often times women try to be something they aren’t and appear “perfect” when she begins to date a man. In this case, men and women are not so different. Men are bombarded with advice of what to do and what not to do when it comes to women and dating. They might act a certain way or say a certain thing because they think you want them to. Newsflash, many techniques that men think are working in their favor, are actually sabotaging their chances with a woman altogether. Take a look at these 9 things men think are working for them, and women wish they would quit!
Although women love attention, there is actually a limit to the amount of contact we crave. Too much calling and texting can make men look obsessive and dependent. Typically women want a man who is independent and strong, not someone who is constantly calling her to accept his every move. If you can’t remember the last time she called you, then it’s time to put down your phone and slowly walk away. Your manlyhood depends on it.
Most men have heard time and time again that women want a sensitive man, so they decide to open the tear ducts every time she’s around. Wrong. Crying makes men look too emotional and needy, possibly even unstable. Women want to be with someone who has an aura of strength and the ability to protect her, and too much crying definitely cuts down the manly favor. Unless something very tragic happened and your tears are genuine, ditch the crying act. Being sensitive to her needs is important but crying is not.
Public Displays of Affections. Everyone has their own tolerance towards and it; some women love hugging, kissing, and canoodling on a park bench, while other women would rather die than give tongue in public. The issue here is when men take the plunge and initiate a make-out session if she has clearly shown no interest. Every couple should decide how they like to show of their relationship in public, and if he’s always pushing the envelope, then she will likely push him to the curb. Being embarrassed in public can be horrifying, especially if it’s a slobbery dog (your man) pouncing all over you. Friends and family are sure to comment, and when they’re opinions are loose, it can be trouble.
Sure, men can have the odd pet name and cute inside joke with this girlfriend or wife, but leave it at that. Unless she baby talks first and gives a strong indication that she likes that kind of thing, men should decide to ditch it entirely. It is cheesy, silly, and nausea-inducing. Baby talk is for babies, so don’t do it to her… at least in public.
Yes, it’s important to let women pick the movie once in a while, but if men find themselves watching Dirty Dancing for the 10th time, or romantic comedies every weekend, they might have a problem. When men lack the ability to make their own decisions, and ask permission from their partner, a mother-child dynamic will quickly develop. Women don’t want to feel like their boyfriend’s mother and will definitely put them up for adoption if that feeling stays. It’s important for men to show that they are capable of making decisions and stand up to the plate and pick the movie, the restaurant or the television show once in a while. After all, that’s the basis of compromise, sometimes the woman decides and sometimes the man does.
A man’s relationship with his girlfriend’s family and friends is something that has to develop over time. Being cordial and friendly is important, but he shouldn’t go planning her brother’s birthday party if they’ve only been together for a month. While women want their man to be friendly with her family and friends, she doesn’t want them to jump the gun either.In the early stages of a relationship, she’ll want to make sure things are working between the two of them before bringing her family and friends into the mix. We all know the flood gate of opinions that will open if your girlfriends and parents start nit picking your new flame. Take a second to realize if he is really important to your life, and then ease him into the madness.
Men think that the way to a woman’s heart is through an “I love you,” which is not completely off base. But such a declaration made too early, or way too often, will only freak her out. There is a time and place for everything. Men should not say it because they think it will impress their girlfriend. It’s more important for a woman to hear it when he means it, not because he feels pressured into saying it. Men seem needy if after the first date they are dropping the L word and inviting themselves in to meet the parents. Slow down and let true feelings happen organically.
Men know that women like a confident men. And men, being who they are, sometimes take this notion and run with it. “If she likes me to make decisions and act like a man, then she’ll love when I tell her how awesome my house is and how many girls wanted me in college.” Wrong. There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance and women are typically not attracted to a bragger. Why would she want to hear about his past relationships or how great he did in school or how much money he made in his recent bonus at work? This type of bragging usually circles around to a deep sense of insecurity and confidence issues. Women want a confident man, not a weak little boy hiding behind bold, smarty-pants comments.
Although most men have been taught that women like men who can talk and share, it goes both ways. No woman wants to spend an entire date listening to her man’s life story and deep feelings. It’s important to have conversations, not lectures! Incessant blabber will annoy any woman sooner or later and will steamroll her opportunities to open up, or share something important. Talking is important, but listening is necessary.