Give Thanks With These Holiday Etiquette Tips

November 19, 2011  |  

We all want to have a good time – and good food – on Thanksgiving, right? Of course, so in honor of the upcoming holiday, here are some rules to live by…or kick the offenders out!

Bring something with you

Showing up to dinner, even if you’re only there for dessert, requires you to bring something. Don’t you walk up in someone’s house and not even have a soda with you. That is tacky and will get you talked about. Please don’t let ME be the one to catch you.

The Tupperware Game

In most cases, you’re allowed to take a plate home. But do bring your own because nine times out of 10, if you use the hosts’ Tupperware, they’ll never see it again. So either come prepared or make sure to use a paper plate. Oh…and do NOT fix your to go plate before everyone has had their sit around and eat plate. Come on now…

The Truth Serum

If you’re going to be drinking and know you can’t hold your tongue, please don’t get wasted. Why not? Because you’ll probably be telling some family business that only certain people should know or you’ll be telling someone you can’t stand them – both things you’d likely keep to yourself if you were sober.  Also, there will likely be friends of the family and people who never met the family so you don’t want to be reckless. Remember: Loose lips sink ships

Get Your Own Ride

Unless it is really early, no one wants to pick up the out-of-town guests from the airport and chauffeur them around.  Similarly, no one wants to chauffeur in town guests. Figure out your own transportation

Get a room

Speaking of out-of-town guests…no one wants you in their house!! People need to stop assuming that just because we’re all happy to see you that we want you in our houses for the entire holiday weekend. That is not the case. So unless someone offers their place, you should assume that you need to book a hotel room the same time you’re reserving a rental car.

Respect your elders

At almost any holiday gathering, our elders – bless their hearts – are usually seated at the end of the couch or in “their” seat. They speak slowly and they always have a story to tell…you better sit there and listen. Don’t let their age fool you: get up if you want to and see if Nana doesn’t stop you from getting too far away.

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  • HISTORY

    Shut up!! Yall slaves. White folks are celebrating their dominance over you and all minorities. Hey, I drink champagne and eat good daily. Im playing xbox. LEAVE ME ALONE/

  • Dondodda1

    I LOVE IT. HOOOOD. I LIVED IN THE HOOD AND I ALWAYS IGNORED THE RED BONES WITH THE TATOOS THAT LIKED TO FIGHT. I THOUGHT I WAS BETTER THAN THEM. THEN I WENT TO THE SUBURBS AND THEM HOEZ FAT UGLY AND STILL GOT KIDS ALREADY.  I WENT BACK TO THE HOOD AND FOUND ME A TATOOED UP REDBONE. SHE GOT GOLDS IN HER MOUTH. BUT NO STRETCH MARKS. Now I’m proud to be the good looking hood one in the family. Keep dem ole cows. LOL

  • Dondodda

    I LOVE IT. HOOOOD. I LIVED IN THE SUBURBS AND I ALWAYS IGNORED THE RED BONES WITH THE TATOOS THAT LIKED TO FIGHT. I THOUGHT I WAS BETTER THAN THEM. THEN I WENT TO THE SUBURBS AND THEM HOEZ FAT UGLY AND STILL GOT KIDS ALREADY.  I WENT BACK TO THE HOOD AND FOUND ME A TATOOED UP REDBONE. SHE GOT GOLDS IN HER MOUTH. BUT NO STRETCH MARKS. Now I’m proud to be the good looking hood one in the family. Keep dem ole cows. LOL

  • Guest

    I don’t know about a couple of these. If I’m hosting and I have guests flying in, I don’t expect them to bring anything, Especially if they’re considerate enough to offer and coming alone. Also, if I haven’t seen you in a while I don’t mind picking you up from the airport, in advance or having you stay with me as long as you’re considerate when folks start arriving. Meaning I don’t want you sleeping on the couch so others can’t sit down or monopolizing the guest bathroom. As for in town guests, I agree, it’s completely inconsiderate to ask the host to give you a ride on Thanksgiving Day. And lastly, respecting elders…respect is earned. Don’t expect folks to wait on you hand and foot….I’m not your maid. If I’m up, I’ll get whatever you need but if I’m sitting down, don’t get mad if you get straight attitude or a couple of words…I’ve been up all night getting this shindig together. Bottom line, it’s all about being considerate of other people.

  • butch31

    Very true, I go through this every year…This year, things will be different, I am not picking anyone up, no u can take my ziploc containers to tote foood, and ur not spending a nite. If u show up empty handed, next year ur NOT invited.

  • Rosie_G

    I don’t know who the author is having Thanksgiving with, but it can’t be family. I mean seriously, you can’t pick up relatives at the airport or offer them room in your house (provided you have the space)? And who shows up to Thanksgiving with an arm full of their own Tupperware, lol?

  • Prissy

    This is NOT I repeat.. This is NOT a religious “holiday”. HOW dare we “celebrate” the robbing of one’s land? GTFOH. Disrespectful to ALL Native Americans. I REFUSE. You can be with your loved one’s and other family members any other time of the year. STOP it. What’s next..WE “celebrate” slavery? Oh yea.. we do that already with Juneteenth. SMMFH

    • bigbootyjudy

      That’s not what happened sounds like someone didn’t pay attention in history class its a celebration of how the native americans show the first settlers to grow their own food and take care of themselves and the settlers gave thanks with their crops that the native americans helped them grow the other madness didn’t happened til years later so calm down boo what you so tight for? Here’s a turkey leg now shut up

    • sweettea

      How about we call it the harvest festival is that better. Either way I’m still eating a turkey

      • Prissy

        I LIKE this idea SWEETEA!

  • efff all that ish i wanna eat!!!!!!!!

  • All of my grandparents died before I got to know/meet them so I never grew up with elders. I mean, there were adults, but at the same time, my family was always spotty. One Thanksgiving, it was just me and my mom. That was depressing. Another Holiday the whole house was full. And I mean…full. This holiday me, my siblings and my mum have to go to my aunt and uncles house. I love them but I do not like holidays such as Thanks/Xmas. I’m into New Years but not that much. I love Valentines Day even if I am single because 1. If I’m single, I can complain and mope about it 2. If I’m taken…:-)  Happy Holidays. Now leave me alone. 

  • Every one of these rules is spot on.  Too many folks now days have had no proper home training or as my husband says “bringing ups”.  Manners, in my day, was taught by the parent.  We were taught how to eat at the table properly, not to stare . . . etc.  My parents often received compliments from other diners because of her children’s behavior.  Now we have to pass laws because we’ve got children out in public with others who have not learn how to behave in public.  This lack of knowledge flows into adulthood.  Thanks for sharing this valuable information.