Why Are Black Men Discussing Our Hair on Dr. Drew’s “Life Changers”?
Dr. Drew was at it again on Life Changers Wednesday, delving into yet another issue that is touchy for black women—the age old natural hair debate. After the women discussed their issues regarding maintaining natural locs or explaining why they opt to wear weave (or not, as one woman likened weaves to hats), a few men weighed in with their thoughts.
One man was sternly critical of weaves, suggesting it’s hard for him to take an accomplished woman with fake hair seriously because it’s not natural. Plus he added that, “the carpet doesn’t match the drapes,” speaking of the hair downstairs, as he put it. He made a better point, though, when he said that if the woman representing this took the hair off, he would pay more attention to her face. The weave got in the way. I thought that was a positive point for a man to say he is more interested in really seeing a woman, as opposed to what grows from the top of her head — especially when there are so many other men who place a heavy emphasis on women having long hair.
Unfortunately, the woman on the panel did’t believe it. You can hear her in the background in the video clip below saying she bets if she went up to him with her nappy hair, he would not say she looks good. I remember a similar story. My ex would always tell me never to cut my hair after it had grown pretty long, and he would always compliment me on it. While it felt good to know he liked my hair, at times it also felt odd. Too much emphasis was placed on why I was wearing my hair curly or in a bun on a particular day, and I often wondered just what would have happened if I did decide to cut it.