“Love & Hip-Hop” Drama: Should Your Friends Be Fighting Your Battles?

November 15th, 2011 - By MN Editor
"Kimbella and Emily of Love & Hip Hop"

Kimbella and Emily

Who checked out the premiere of Love & Hip-Hop last night? I’m sure many people did because some of the cast members and the show were trending topics on Twitter last night, so discussion about the season premiere was going all around the Internet. I must say, when I first started watching this show during the first season, I was impressed with it way more than the Basketball Wives and Real Housewives-type shows because there WASN’T any real fighting. People would bicker and have their disagreements, but in reality, the show followed a group of women trying to get their hustle on, career wise and love wise (even if Chrissy’s hustle is just to get a ring). I could respect that. Now they’re back and they’ve had the full VH1 makeover: folks are fighting now, and over dumb stuff.

Last night, the talk of the town was the big brawl between newbie Kimbella (the mother of Juelz Santana’s son) and Chrissy (coincidentally, Jim Jones’ long-time girlfriend). What was crazy about it was the fact that the fight was over issues that had nothing to do with Chrissy. We all know castmember Emily’s drama with rapper Fabolous and their torrid relationship (he failed to acknowledge her in public and cheated repeatedly). Well, she moved on (allegedly), and to celebrate that, Emily threw an independence party and invited all the ladies, including new cast member Yandy, who brought along Kimbella. In some type of Evelyn-meets-Tami of Basketball Wives drama, Kimbella had it on her heart that she wanted to tell Emily about a past relationship with Fabolous–a relationship that occurred while Emily was pregnant with his child. She was hoping it would clear the air and keep the two women from having any drama in the future, because she didn’t want that. And while Emily appeared a bit hurt, she thanked Kimbella for being upfront with the information, and said it made her even more proud that she left her situation with the rapper. They somewhat squashed it, and were all set to raise glasses for a toast of some sort…but that wasn’t good enough for Chrissy.

"Chrissy of Love and Hip Hop"

Chrissy didn't want to feel the love when the conversation was over...

Enraged at the fact that Kimbella thought Emily’s independence party was the appropriate party to break such embarrassing and hurtful news, she set it off. The ladies squabbled: weaves were pulled out, behinds out, screams and grunts all a-flutter from those in the room. After the show ended and the dust had settled, people were all over the blogs and Twitter praising Chrissy for her act of “valor” and for having Emily’s back. Many hours later it still seems like I’m the only one who thought that girl’s behavior was horrendous–and no, I’m not talking about Kimbella. Yes, she could have told Emily later during a private dinner, or at least pulled Emily to the side, but I don’t think attacking her with a suckerpunch and literally kicking her while she was down was the next best reaction by Miss Chrissy Lampkin.

I once had a friend of mine ask me what I thought makes someone a good friend. I definitely think having your friend’s back when they need you is important, but I also think a good friend will know when to step back and let you fight your own battles. Cover me if I get jumped, but step back and let me do my thing otherwise. The only thing I’ve heard Kimbella say since she popped up on screen that made sense was that Emily is a grown a** woman with a child. That, she is, therefore, she should have been the one to handle Kimbella and her confession in whatever way she saw fit. If that meant brushing it off as one of many side pieces Fabolous had and dropped the issue, that’s on her. Now, if she wanted to dropkick Kimbella, that would have been a little left, but at least that’s her right and her fight. Sorry, but I can’t stand when people don’t let folks talk for themselves.

Maybe the definition of what a good friend is, is vastly different to everyone, because I saw so many women on social media last night saying they would have done the same thing for their friends. Really? Why? A good friend should allow you the chance to fight your own battles and learn from them so you can grow, and on their end, be there to listen and support, not stomp somebody out. Chrissy has enough drama of her own, what with Mama Jones recording diss tracks about her and her man losing his engagement ring (the ring she gave him when she proposed), so the last thing she needs to do is try and play hero for someone else. Credit should be given to Emily for making the decision to leave Fab in the first place, even if temporarily, so the same credit and respect should be given to her to handle her OWN business. Please: be grown, and act grown.

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  • Sue

    No I don’t think my friends should fight my battles, I think they should encourage me to be my own person and to stand on my own two feet. I appreciate someone having my back, but in situations like these, what am I going to do when I am by myself?

    • sue

      Also, Chrissy’s a trouble maker. I see that she was helping her friend, but that’s only about 20 of 100%. The other 80% of her intentions in my opinion is because she likes controversy. Every time I turn around she in someone elses argument, talking crap about someone, arguing with people over assumptions. I think she’s funny and has her good moments, but I would not want anything to do with her outside of a social gathering with lots of alcohol…she seems like a trouble making bully.

  • JustAshley

    That fight was brutal! Tami and Meekas fight doesn’t even compare! I feel that Kimbella could have handled the situation better. She absolutely should have taken Emily to the side and told her the truth and let Emily decide whether to tell the other girls. It did come off as a mean girl laughing in your face about disrespecting your home.
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    Chrissy freaked out because she could sense Emily’s pain, the wrongness of how Kimbella presented the situation and a mixture of suppressed anger at Jones’ mom for that wild song she put out.
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    I can’t take anyone side at this point. Kimbella caught some serious fade and at the same time I felt bad for Emily. As dignified as she took the news, I could practically see the the air let out of her “Independence party” balloon. Just a nasty situation all the way around. SMH

  • Jackie johnson

    hell yea you should stand up for your girl if your girl is not a fighter and she is faced with a situation like that one. I know i would and have done it for my girl. that chick was way out of line and emily is not that kind of girl. why do you think she stayed with Fab so long. she does not know how to be that Lady that will whoop your butt. so Chrissy being the friend that will.  Good to have a girlfriend like that. You go Chrissy.

  • Stephanie

    It was ok for Chrissy to verbally tell Kimbella that, that was not the time nor the place to tell Emily that info, although Emily should have been the one to tell her that, but Chrissy took it too far when she physically attacked the girl…some people are really blessed to have a true blue friend who would literally die for you, I don’t get the impression that Chrissy & Emily are true blue, I’ll die for you type friends b/c I believe if Emily were to ever cross Chrissy, she would beat her down like she did Kimbella.

    Emily has to learn that you can keep it classy & lady-like AND at the same time let a person know when they have crossed the line & not to cross that line again & Emily could have easily played Kimbella to the left by stating, “honey you’re not the only only woman he’s slept with while we were together, hell he probably slept the waitress over there, the girl who checked our coats, the lady sitting at table #9″, anything just to throw the foolishness back on her!!!…& if Chrissy doesn’t feel Emily is speaking up for herself, Chrissy should talk to Emily (in private) & let her know, after that, leave it alone & let Emily handle it…b/c when you think about, Chrissy embarrassed Emily just as much as Kimbella did b/c now people think that Emily need Chrissy to literally fight her battles b/c Emily is too weak to do so…I would much rather for people to know my man cheated, which in Emily’s case they already knew, than for people to think I am weak!!!

    • jackie johnson

      i agree with you. however Chrissy it that type of chic, she react’s faster than she thinks.

  • Nene

    Chrissy jumped on Kimball because she had suppressed anger from the Mama Jones situation; it had little to do with defending her friend Emily. Maybe she will be grown enough to admit that later down the line…we will see. :)

  • Atnahs

    cont…..we condone punching another women in the face over words…..and actually have the audacity to claim these women (Tami, Nene and Chrissy) are “real”, and actually applaud their behavior…..but then want to march and protest when police beat us over words.

  • Atnahs

    Bottom line, Chrissy has real anger management issues, just like Tami, and just like Nene.  They actually think they have the right to put their hands on someone.   I don’t care what Kimbella did……..what gives Chrissy (or anyone) the right to punch her in the face??  And then stomp her out on the floor SMH.    But when the police beat our men for no reason, we’re all up in arms.

  • kim

    Chrissy was right because emoly wasnt gone to stand up for her self, so a real friend did. That other female is messy and need to be beat down.

  • Sugar/Spice

    I agree w/ @IllyPhilly:disqus , Chrissy was right in the fact that it was tacky of Kimbella to do that in front of the other women. It was very hurtful & embarrassing.  I honestly feel like she could’ve been more empathetic seeing as she’s dating a rapper who supposedly has groupies.  Now I love Chrissy but she didn’t have to resort to putting hands on that dingy chick.

  • 3_DOLLS

    I agree, a friend should not fight your battles. They should definitely, however, have your back!  I think Chrissy should not have beat the girl down, but Kimbella was very tasteless in how she revealed that information!

  • IllyPhilly

    Chrissy was right, Kimbella shoulda waited and Emily should have slapped her then called Fab and said something ratchet about his d*ck size. WTF do we watch these shoes for, prayers? No, drama!!

    • IllyPhilly

      shows not shoes, i was actually looking at my feet and typing this. LOL

    • Mikaspruill

      Emily would have told them anyway…so why not just tell them all n toast to the good life…for Emily not havin to go through tht anymore wit fab to her movin on …chrissy fked up the party..smh.

  • Sugar/Spice

    If you read my full post you would have seen the part where I say “Now I love Chrissy but she didn’t have to resort to putting hands on that dingy chick.”, but obviously you didn’t