It’s disgusting, but some acting like women don’t judge by look too. which they do a lot. if you not sure about that, go make a profile on a dating site, test with a normal average dude (or your picture ) and write some intelligent description about yourself. don’t expect much replies. then try with a picture of a guy model who is celebrity but not well known, and write stupid description or none, and start your chats with just hi. and see the replies pouring on you. Both sexes are guilty of this. it is disgusting. it is still shallow. you are not interested in fats? fine. don’t make it public. I’m not fat, but I don’t want to judge or put others down.

First, If your SO is going to cheat on you, they will…no matter what you do.  The truth of the matter is that Obesity is killing our community especially our women.  Not everyone is meant to be or should be a size 8 but we do have to start getting serious about our health including and especially our wt.  I have been overwt my whole life and trust me, it’s high time that I do something about it.  

I like this article. it touches on some good points. but also think why should woman let themselves go just because they have a man. not that i’m condoning cheating because im not. but there is nothing wrong with wanting to remain attractive to your mate. and that goes for men and woman.  if you let your self get to a precious size then it’s obvious you don’t care. im not saying you have to go on a super extreme diet. letting yourself get sloppy is a no no also

Aw, I just wanted to say we like “pretty” men too!

I agree.
I think most men (no matter race) prefer the cola bottle shape.   
But I know plenty of hamburger shaped women who are full of grace and confidence.  And these women are men / people magnets.  Confidence is key.
Im skinny (being a skinny black woman isnt easy) and would prefer to have the cola bottle figure.  But Ive learned to accept my small frame and I see that that makes the difference. 

as a person who has been dealing with my weight since i was 14 can say one thing, there is SICKLY FAT and then there is FAT, yes im all for loving your body but if you want to better yourself and lost 25 pounds to get to a goal weight then go for it, i wont call that self-hatred but self love because u are taking the healthy road on bettering yourself, then there is sickly fat, ppl like the model above and Gabby, that is in no way healthy and ppl who tell her that “your beautiful” or “do you boo” are being enablers, im not saying Gabby neds to be a size 6 but she needs to be at a healthy BMI for her height, and seeing how she is probably 5’5-5’9 tops i kno for a fact that she doesnt need to be that big, she doesnt need to hate her body but she needs to love herself a enough to lose weight

im all for the love your body movement, but we need to get serious with some one these women, your obese and your losing years off your life, lose some weight

I agree with jeniphyer that the focus needs to be directed towards leading people to a healthy weight (that’s for both underweight and overweight people).  I also definitely agree with this article that those who are underweight need to stop being praised and those who are overweight need to stop being condemned.  We are promoting an unhealthy body image, and ruining the self esteem of anyone who does not have it.  We generate these unobtainable goals and then suffer as a result of them.