We Must Shield Ourselves From Growing Fat Hatred

November 10, 2011  |  

You would think the main controversy with a website touting itself as a “married dating service for discreet encounters” would be the fact that it promotes infidelity. But what has most people up in arms over Ashley Madison right now is a recent advertisement promoting the company.

Their first ad featuring a large woman displayed a size 32 BBW model named Jacqueline lying on a bed in lingerie with the text, “Did your wife scare you last night?”  The promo was craftily timed for Halloween a few weeks ago and despite the initial backlash, the company has released yet another ad still using Jacqueline’s image—without her permission.  An “X” is placed next to her frame in contrast with a thin brunette marked with a checkmark and the tagline: “Life is short. Have an affair.” Clearly the idea is: If your wife is fat it only makes sense to cheat on her with a skinny broad.

You wouldn’t expect much tact from a company that seeks to help married men (and supposedly women) find more ways to cheat, but this type of promotional activity is low, even for a company with no morals. (Is that redundant?) Not only is Ashley Madison encouraging men and women to cheat; the company is also mocking larger women in the process, thus feeding into the social ill of hatred towards large women. This hurts all women, because it causes us to constantly question the impact the size our frames has on our lives. As in this example: will it make our husbands have an affair?

No woman should have to walk around with that amount of body-consciousness induced worry. But that is what this ad promotes.

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  • the dude

    It’s disgusting, but some acting like women don’t judge by look too. which they do a lot. if you not sure about that, go make a profile on a dating site, test with a normal average dude (or your picture ) and write some intelligent description about yourself. don’t expect much replies. then try with a picture of a guy model who is celebrity but not well known, and write stupid description or none, and start your chats with just hi. and see the replies pouring on you. Both sexes are guilty of this. it is disgusting. it is still shallow. you are not interested in fats? fine. don’t make it public. I’m not fat, but I don’t want to judge or put others down.

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  • reese

    This article implies that women are blame for being cheated on because they let theirselves go.  But it is not only fat women who get cheated on.  Halle Berry and many others who did not let theirselves go.   And some women who are not considered attractive and their men is faithful.

  • Jimmy Swaggered

    Fatty’s are like scooters… they’re fun to ride, until your friends see you.

  • Jennifer Hudson

    Look nobody thinks fat is beautiful. Fat is wrong. If you waddle, you’re doing it wrong. If you chafe, you’re doing it wrong. If one layer of fat flabs over and touches another, you’re doing it wrong. Fat people are smelly, even if they shower regularly. That’s because fungus grows in creases of skin of which fat people have many. Stop eating what you are eating and learn self control. And please stop with the fatty euphemisms like “full-bodied” and “diverse range of body sizes”. Fat is fat. Don’t kid yourselves.

  • Babeegurl

    All I can say about the Ashley Madison ad is consider the source. I can’t be too mad about some morally questionable company that places all of its value at a very low premium thinking that anything over a size 10 is unattractive.

    I’m a curvy girl and if my man doesn’t like it he can leave. there at least three others behind him in line that love it. Not that I tend to keep multiple men on tap, but I’m just sayin’ ~_^

    • Babeegurl

      *it’s value of women

  • This goes for our men too.  Why should I break my neck trying to be the hot chick on your arm and you look like you’re carrying OUR baby. lol  Brothers need to get them round bellies in the gym too. 

  • First, If your SO is going to cheat on you, they will…no matter what you do.  The truth of the matter is that Obesity is killing our community especially our women.  Not everyone is meant to be or should be a size 8 but we do have to start getting serious about our health including and especially our wt.  I have been overwt my whole life and trust me, it’s high time that I do something about it.  

  • IllyPhilly

    Why they bringing the damn moderator here!?

  • I like this article. it touches on some good points. but also think why should woman let themselves go just because they have a man. not that i’m condoning cheating because im not. but there is nothing wrong with wanting to remain attractive to your mate. and that goes for men and woman.  if you let your self get to a precious size then it’s obvious you don’t care. im not saying you have to go on a super extreme diet. letting yourself get sloppy is a no no also