How To Meet A Guy At A Bar Who Isn’t Just Looking To Get Laid

December 20, 2011  |  
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Dominate the conversation Don’t let him keep it light and just make silly comments about your surroundings. Ask him about his work. Bring up the debt crisis. Make the conversation get serious (even if you’re not particularly interested in talking about serious things). Again, men who are just looking to get laid will go find a woman who they don’t have to work so hard for.

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  • w

    Dang everyone in this comment section is negative get a life geesh….I meet a nice guy at a bar on new years we’re still dating and it might go the distance

  • Jujubee

    Uh, when I go to bars and clubs, I’m not looking for a relationship or to get laid by any man, I’m looking to get turnt up and have fun with my friends. Thank God I met my husband in college.

  • Macincheez

    Damn, did you see the nipples on that broad in the yellow scarf?!!!…ah….I mean, yes, young ladies should be respected at the clubs

    • Caribbean in the house

      what do you expect from an afro-american females ho

  • Think

    I find it funny that you guys have this article, but I just read your other one on “How To Spot A Ball Buster” and you have some of the same things on each list.

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  • Girliusmaximus

    Didn’t even bother to read the article.. I knew the comments were gonna tell me plenty not to mention it’s a thousand of these all over MN… Yall funny on this board especially @GM_I

  • GM_I

    Articles like these are the reason so many men think women are dumba$$es and lack or have no logic whatsoever…”How do you meet a guy in a bar/club that doesn’t want to get laid” is the equivalent of looking for a man who doesn’t gamble by lookin for him in a casino or lookin for a man without a police record in the prison system or lookin for a man with a non addictive personality in alcoholic/narcotics anonymous classes…stop with these stupid, illogical, irrational and contradicting articles and questions already smh…the club/bar scene are for men & women looking for a good time, hooking up, a potential booty call, getting buzzed/drunk and releasing all stress & inhibitions being complete s1uts and man-wh0res, if ur not tryin to do that, keep ur a$$ home cuz y’all buzzkills fucc the whole mood up and flow of the club/bar scene…take y’all prude a$$es to bible study or something.

    • WestIndian

      I just completely agree with this

  • Jon

    We love vaginas ladies so jeep giving up early and the less were interested.

  • Chelsea739

    Falsehoods, aren’t all men trying to get laid at all times???

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  • Charlesstewart1964

    to tame a man in a club is like trying to tame a wild lion with a feather.  It will never happen.  Men don’t go to the club to be tamed, we get
    enough of this at home and on the job. 
    They go to unwind, so a woman should know this when stepping into the
    jungle.  The club scene or bar is not a
    place for etiquette, it all about playing games and having a good time.  Most men know there are wall to wall women in
    clubs, we know if woman isn’t feeling our courting, we moves on to the next.  Flirting, talking sh*t, catcalling has always
    been part of the club and bars.  If a
    woman has a problem with that, then she shouldn’t go.  As long as men don’t physically violate the
    women, there not much she can do except stand her ground.  If a man offends her, she should cuss him
    out; he’ll back off and move on to the next. 
    If he grabs her, knee or kick him in the nuts; then he will really leave
    her and the other women alone for the rest of the night.  It’s a jungle in there and if you can’t run
    with the big dogs; then stay on the porch.

    • JM73

      You’re right. I wanted to see what they had to say about this, and I don’t mean any harm but it didn’t sound realistic. If you’re clubbing to find your mate, there’s a very high chance it’s a waste of time. But if you want to just have fun, go with the flow as long as they respect your boundaries ie. unwanted touchining.  Because if you go home, alone what have you really lost? Think about it, alcohol, skin, mindless seductive music, phermones, hormones, fantasy…clubbing is not the way to go for love.

      • Rendeezil

        U took the words right out if my mouth. That’s a one in a million shot. But I will say this….don’t show up dressed like,talking like, carrying yourself like YOU are looking to be laid. We attract what we put out a lot of the times. When u mature u don’t look for the love in the club. It was never designed for that.IMO.