Do “The Rules” on Dating Still Apply? Yes — They Worked For Me

The Rules stresses that the woman must be confident and easy to be with. This in turn makes her appear more attractive. She’s not pulling her hair out over every guy who doesn’t want her. She’s allowing men to pursue her and not sweating them or blowing their phone up. In turn men are happy to move things along at their own pace and their falling in love with a confident easy going girl. Whether women like it or not, we can’t make a man commit and we can’t make a man marry us. Since we aren’t able to control the male species, we can however control how we respond and act in dating and relationships.

As much as you’d hate to hear it, there has to be some sort of rules in the world of dating. No one wants to have their first date talk about their debt, their interest in wanting a nose job and all their other problems. A man doesn’t want to wake up to 10 missed calls after a great date with a woman he really liked. This kind of attention and persistence will turn him completely off. In the book Ellen and Sherrie use a great example about how you’d act on an interview. No one is completely themselves at an interview when trying to get a job. They are usually their “best” selves. Does this mean they’re playing a game? No, it just means they are acting accordingly for a higher plan and purpose. What should make dating any different?

Many men and women can sabotage a potential future as a couple just by opening up too soon and over stepping boundaries. So does this mean there should be rules in dating? I say absolutely. There has to be some sort of boundaries, rules and limitations. That’s the only way to protect oneself. The Rules definitely worked for me, and they still apply years later to the dating scenarios of today.

Quierra is the co author of “The Mean Girls Handbook of Etitiquette” slated to hit shelves 2012. She was also the lead singer of the girl group Isyss. She has a great passion to inspire women all over the world to love themselves and to stay strong and true to themselves when in relationships with men.

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