Why Did He Change? Signs You Missed that Told You He Couldn’t Commit

November 1st, 2011 - By Christelyn Karazin

Picture this: He was kinda cute and came on strong. You weren’t feeling him at first, but with all the attention, phone calls and texts, flowers at work and pleading puppy eyes, you gave in. You were flattered that he made you feel like the only madame in the world–it gave your ego a boost of adrenaline and you got to thinking…”Mmmmm…I like the way his lips look when he sips his orange juice…”

"man drinking juice"

Two, three months in, you’re hooked. You finally give him what he said he’s wanted all this time–your love, your devotion, your body–and the logical action is to step the relationship up a level, right? Nuh uh, because dude’s about to do an illegal U-turn. He stops calling as much.  It starts subtly, his calling three times a week instead of five, and then inexplicably, you become the pursuer, increasingly frantic and ashamed of yourself for acting stalkerish, but you’re completely befuddled about what happened. The reality may be that you actually did see his commitment-phobe ways coming, but you just didn’t think anything of it. It happens! Just don’t let it happen again. Here are a few signs that could have passed you by.

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  • Miss B

    great points…these are so relevant in my life right now. I know that I need to stop asking “why” because I did nothing wrong. A man will committ when he’s ready. The best thing i can do is believe the side that he’s shown to me and move the hell on when the cookie crumbles.

  • http://twitter.com/LaCreshiaBirts LaCreshia S. Birts

    Sounds about right to me. I know a guy that had trouble staying at the same job and he definitely had commitment issues.

  • Teflon Mom

    Ahh, the memories.  I’ve dated this dude.  I think most women have.  Those dudes get around, spreading their bullshyt everywhere they go. 

    • Blueberry01

      For all we know, it’s probably the same one….or his twin brother

      • Love_Sexy

        LOL….so true!

  • L-Boogie

    LOL!

  • Love_Sexy

    Oh goodness this article brought back memories of men I dated. Most fell into the categories of either having a history of bad relationships, or words not corresponding with their actions. The bottom line is to pay close attention to red flags, make sure the words and actions match and take the relationship slow. As soon as you see multiple red flags its time to do some re-evaluation of the relationship because basically he is showing you he is no longer interested…….Unfortuantely,.like they say “He just not that into you”

  • Jeneen

    Very good article. It has helped me with some of the questions I have been asking myself over this so-called man in my life. I now know what steps I am going to take to rid myself from this roller-coaster relationship. Thanks.

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