How to Date Two Men… Without Being a Total Beyotch

November 2nd, 2011 - By Julia Austin

How to Date Two Men at a Time
You’re not paranoid if you think men are most drawn to you when you’re taken. If you’re seeing one guy who makes you feel happy and confident, other men are attracted to that happiness and confidence. So it’s no coincidence if it seems that you’re either going through a dry spell at certain times, or conversely that you find yourself having to choose between multiple men. And that’s not a bad thing. Don’t say no to a date with one guy who you hit it off with just because things are going well with someone else. Be fair to yourself until you are ready to settle down with “the one.” But, at the same time, if you’re going to date multiple men casually, be fair to them too. Here is how:

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  • JustDoingMe

    When did dating start meaning that one had to be in an exclusive relationship with another person? Isn’t  the point of dating to test the waters before settling down on a single one to swim in?

  • yrush007

    while this sounds good in theory, it probably won’t happen.  nowadays most women (& men) who have multiple dates are NOT be honest & open about it, are toying w/the other party’s health by not practicing safe sex, and are just being downright cruel w/mind games.  as long as you’re just going out to have fun (dinner & a movie here, a party there) & both of you know you’re not exclusive, that’s fine.  but when feelings are involved and you’re playing the golddigger or playa-playa role, that’s when things get messy. 

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  • Old soul

    One question: use condoms…why are you having sex with more than one person in such a short time period. Scary

  • Christian Catlett

    Have you ever heard of nicole brown simpson? If you have then you know exactly why its hazardous to play a black dude. especially one of these thugs. SMH 

  • Xjdi

    I totally agree…so where is the article of how to the same with girls???? Funny how everyone wants to say it’s messed up dis n dat that guys date multiple girls but u wanna enforce this type of ideas n show girls its ok to date multiple guys?

  • Xjdi

    I totally agree…so where is the article of how to the same with girls???? Funny how everyone wants to say it’s messed up dis n dat that guys date multiple girls but u wanna enforce this type of ideas n show girls its ok to date multiple guys?

    • Dnrozz

      um whats wrong with dating multiple guys? As long as ur just having fun and not screwing them all , whats the problem???? what if one isnt looking for anything exclusive? whats the big friggin deal???? explain someone

    • Dnrozz

      um whats wrong with dating multiple guys? As long as ur just having fun and not screwing them all , whats the problem???? what if one isnt looking for anything exclusive? whats the big friggin deal???? explain someone

  • KIR12

    The truth of the matter is that the most attractive black women (educated and uneducated) have more offers for dates and relationships than any other race of woman. Most of them generally make the wrong decisions of who they allow to date and romance them when they’re at their physical peak (in men eyes) 16 to 28.

    I find it interesting that the unattractive and overweight black women never speak on their girlfriend who had a new boyfriend every other month while she was lucky to get one or two dates a year. The funny thing about it is when both are over 30 and both are now having problems finding a man the attractive one is the one complaining the most! Who’s fault is it that you kept picking players, losers and bums? You didn’t want the boring guy and now that you’ve aged a little, put on a few pounds and have a couple of kids you complain?

  • KIR12

    The truth of the matter is that the most attractive black women (educated and uneducated) have more offers for dates and relationships than any other race of woman. Most of them generally make the wrong decisions of who they allow to date and romance them when they’re at their physical peak (in men eyes) 16 to 28.

    I find it interesting that the unattractive and overweight black women never speak on their girlfriend who had a new boyfriend every other month while she was lucky to get one or two dates a year. The funny thing about it is when both are over 30 and both are now having problems finding a man the attractive one is the one complaining the most! Who’s fault is it that you kept picking players, losers and bums? You didn’t want the boring guy and now that you’ve aged a little, put on a few pounds and have a couple of kids you complain?

    • solar23

      i totally agree with this.  Black women for the most part consistently make the worst dating decisions in the 20′s (they go for “swag” whatever that means…..) I have met women in their 20′s and i ask why are you with such and such, how does that person enhance your life, and` their entire answer comprises of he seems cool, he is cool.  Now i am all for having fun, but if thats what you are about own it.  When they have tons of miles, and kids, then they say oh i have grown.  Why should your life have to sideways for you to grow.  why can’t you learn from everyone else w/o taking the same step…But sistahs are a breed unto themselves.  Only God can help black people, esp now that 2 out of 3 of black children born in the past 5 yrs are born out of wedlock.  Dang do they have to sleep with everyone who has something shiny

  • Analyst

    Maaan you can have multiple men interested in you at the same time and have NO desire to date any of them…calibre matters.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100002442843012 Vicky Rogers Burks

    As long as you know how to do you just do,as many as you can at a time,save the love making for thee right one.Get them gifts sister,just keep your legs close.It can be done,because we got the treasure,and he-they know that .I'm smelling good tonight!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!OH, I'M MARRIED. JUST KEEPING IT REAL ( J.K.I.R.).

  • Miz Kizzy

    When did it become de rigueur to date only one at a time? Hell I've dated 5 at a time, and not all that long ago.

    The only thing I disagree with is sleeping with all of them, again that's just me, chit happens, so yes, be prepared.

  • LA Chick

    I needed this article. This is literally my life RIGHT NOW! Lately I've been trying to balance my time with the different guys accordingly and not to double-book. I see it as, I'm single and there is NOTHING wrong with DATING to see what you do and don't like. Isn't that what dating's for??? And although I may like them, I definitely make it clear that I have "options."