7 Subtle Signs That Your Relationship Might Be on the Rocks
Are you in a great relationship? Have you heard horror stories from friends about their men blindsiding them with a break-up or divorce? Well maybe it’s time to take a double look at your relationship, before you’re left scratching your head in the dust. Take a look at these 7 signs that are key indicators that your man might not be as invested as you think.
1. He keeps breaking his promises. When the effort starts diminishing, so does his dedication to you and therefore the plans you make. Men do exactly, most of the time, what they want to do. They don’t often feel the pressure that us women feel by society or peers. When he’s not putting in the time for you, it’s because he isn’t making you a priority.
2. He criticizes you a lot, without giving compliments to soften the blow. If he’s gotten to this point then emotionally he has been checked out of the relationship for a while. If he has no remorse for talking badly to you, then it is definitely time for you to hit the road.
3. He believes women are inferior. As common of a thought this is for men, if he truly believes this then a lasting relationship is probably not in your future. This issue could go way deeper than you and your relationship and it is not, can I repeat, not your job to fix him. Chances are this stems from possible mommy issues from childhood or some deep-rooted feeling. At the end of the day it’s important to find a spouse and match in your life, but at what expense? Remember that the only person you are 100% responsible for is you, not your man.
4. He talks about and compares you to his previous relationships. This could reflect what thoughts are going on in his head without blatantly saying ‘I’m not confident in our relationship anymore.’ Let’s face it, talking about issues with your partner is probably not your favorite thing to do, and the same goes for men. It’s easier to compare and talk about your relationship indirectly, rather than flat out admitting it’s on the rocks. Try cutting to the chase and gently talking about what you like and dislike about what’s been going on lately… just be sure you can handle the truth, no matter what it is.
5. Your relationship is suddenly filled with silence. It may be an indication that your relationship is headed for trouble if he has stopped calling, or cut down on the amount of calls that he is making to you. Time equals effort. If he’s not making the time for you in his day, he could have found something else that is worth his attention or he might not find you a priority anymore. Let’s not get ahead of ourselves. Before you accuse him of replacing you with something or someone else, ask him questions about his job or friendships. Something else might require more attention from him lately like a big project at work, or a friend going through a rough time. Be sure you cover all of your bases before you push him into a corner without the facts.
6. If he starts disappearing, then it is time to start worrying. If you normally see him three times a week and now you are only seeing him once every three weeks, it is safe to assume that the relationship is headed for danger. Again, men are easier to read than women, and they put the effort in to what they really want to invest in. If he’s no longer investing his time in you, it’s time to find a man that makes you his #1.
7. Do you notice that he is less thoughtful than before? Does he not bring you flowers? Did he stop telling you how nice you look, or even telling you, “I love you”? If so, then the two of you need to address and resolve the issues. If the relationship can’t be salvaged, then maybe it is time to move on. You could very well be in a relationship “rut”, but that is no excuse to give up hope. It is laughable to think that lasting relationships are smooth 100% of the time. Rough patches are just part of the game. Consequently, if you find yourself not putting in the effort to mend a bump in the road, maybe you could be the one checking out? First and foremost, decide what you want in a partner and relationship and vow to do all you can to make that a reality.
Always remember that the key to a successful relationship starts with honest communication. Take time to evaluate what you want out of a relationship and set goals to achieve what you deserve.