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Relationship counselors and gurus around the world will tell you that the key to any successful relationship is just a little communication. But being an effective communicator is no small feat. There’s a reason plenty of individuals feel like relationships they want to work out crash and burn in front of their eyes, and they have no way of stopping it. If this sounds familiar to you, then when you were in these relationships, you probably had the increasing sensation that, even though your partner was just a few feet away, actually reaching him felt impossible. That’s what happens when people lack communication skills. But not everyone is comfortable saying what they need, or finding effective, non-combative ways to do so. So men out there who are struggling, here are some communication techniques of men in serious relationships.

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They never accuse

Accusing someone of trying to do something negative ie “You’re trying to make me jealous” or “You’re trying to hurt my feelings” or “You’re being lazy” never gets anyone anywhere in a discussion. The second a person feels accused of something negative, they become defensive and/or shut down and aren’t willing to have a neutral conversation. Mature men speak from a place of explaining how their partner’s actual actions have been affecting them—they don’t accuse the person of an intent.

 

 

 

 

 

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