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It’s amazing how calm your mind can be when you love yourself. It’s not like you’re unaware of all of the things that could go wrong, all of the ways people might judge you, all of the events you could be missing out on or gossip you might be a part of—or be left out of. You don’t forget about all of the things you used to worry about; you just don’t pay them the attention you used to. Those things are just noise, and you’ve become very good at tuning them out. When you do suffer from a lack of self-love, your brain will play tricks on you. It will tell you that the answer to feeling better is on the outside—that you’ll find it by pursuing this person’s approval, by achieving this look, and by getting into this social group. But that’s simply not true. Here are things you stop caring about when you love yourself.
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Being the hardest worker
So many people out there just want to be the hardest worker to prove something. They don’t necessarily need this status or that promotion to feel happy. The external award will not make them happy. It will only briefly dissolve nagging feelings of unhappiness they feel, but those feelings are coming from something else. People who love themselves are okay with saying, “Let someone else be the one who doesn’t have relationships and is married to their work. I’d like to see my friends, be in love, exercise, and sleep.”
