Reasons Why You Only Attract Crazy Men

October 26, 2011 ‐ By Julia Austin

"Crazy man"

“Why do I attract the crazy ones?!?” Ever heard a friend say that? Ever been the one saying that? If so, then you probably regularly have one or a few men texting you who you are delicately trying to give the hint to…go the hell away. Or you have embarrassing displays of gifts arriving at your home or office. Or you’ve had to even block a few phone numbers and email addresses in your day. It can become a nuisance. Here’s why it happens.

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  • Karielle Cyrus

    My first and only boyfriend and I have been together for years. I’ve also figured out that I attract crazy, but I think it’s ok because I really like crazy. You just have to find someone that you can tolerate their crazy and even through their crazy you can still see why you liked them in the first place.

  • umno

    no i dont want to save anybody!!!!!!

  • The Truth

    that certainly goes both ways for us men too that attract the craziest women when i had a woman that i only knew for about a month that came to my job to give me a red rose, but thank God i wasn’t there to receive it since i really didn’t like her at all. and many of us good men just can’t seem to meet the right woman, and i do feel very sorry for many of the women that are going through the same thing too. Sucks, Doesn’t It?

  • Kristen

    These are good points but of course not all of them are 100% true 100% of the time. I’m an artist (musician) but outside of performing I like simple, quiet and no drama. I’m an introvert and my spontaneous moments have to be planned lol. Wild and crazy relationships are not my forte (pun intended).

    “If you get involved with a man who isn’t whole, you won’t be whole by
    the end. He will drain you.”

    This, is true. Most of the time the other person is NOT going to tell you that they aren’t whole. They don’t want to admit that they don’t have it together. So hiding it under a relationship happens a lot and when things get serious and time invested, that’s when things explode. Admit to yourself when you aren’t whole. It wastes times and creates stress for no reason.

  • tori

    Great article! Thanks for this!

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  • JTL

    You could have saved people a lot of clicks by putting last as the first. If you're attracting crazies, guess what? You're probably crazy too.

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  • SoTrue

    Honestly MN, I have FOUR crazy men in my life right now – smh!!

    Please write an article on how to get rid of them!!

  • homie

    I've always been fond of crazy men, all my life. If there is 9 sane men and
    one crazy I'll zoom in on the crazy.

  • i am she

    this is a great article. I've recently gone through some traumatic events and wonder why, in the last few months, I've had nothing but weirdos approach me.

    You attract what you are inside – is true.

  • browngirl411

    OMG! Why is this my life in a nutshell. I was just on an online dating site earlier today. I just broke up with my boyfriend and I'm recently unemployed. I'm putting on the brakes! I need to chill and get it together. Thanks for the wake up call. SMDH!

  • RenJennM

    I agree that I have ironically attracted more men when I've felt unattractive or insecure as opposed to when I've felt confident and beautiful. I guess that would explain why most of them have been crazy or f***ed up… because I was f***ed up smfh so sad

  • Miss Charlie

    Must admit.. I'm hooked on the crazy ones. Crazy to the point where they HAVE to take medication. When they love, they love hard.. and maybe that's what I'm hooked on.

    • lol


    • Ella

      that is so so true! Im happily stuck with one. And they’re so terribly loyal

    • Ella

      that is so so true! Im happily stuck with one. And they’re so terribly loyal

  • Sacred soul

    A couple of these is just no feasible. The artist does not have to be the "mundane" conformist dude, which is why he is an ARTIST. I found the comments on this type of guy just wrong. I know you said that you get flack from that one but an artist is not crazy. He's a different kind of guy. So, if he doesn't wish to do the suit, the butt kissing, he doesn't have too.

    Also, the "celebrity" guy…. what is wrong with a man who has his A game together. If I have my A game together than the both us can build an empire. Men who give off this kind of achievement have the right to know what they want and what kind of woman they want, he's worked hard and should be cautious. I do not find this type of man crazy either.

    I like your posts… don't get me wrong but those two I didn't see the "crazy" aspect nor the negativity.

    • Tara

      I disagree. I've dated a few artists. They are controlling. They also hate mundane life so they can't even mentally deal with the day to day basics of life…

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