This week, The Luv Coach helps a young reader get her life priorities in order. Read on and weigh in.
Dear Luv Coach,
I am a 25 year old woman with a 5-year-old child. I attended an out of state college for a year where I met and fell in love with a 20-year-old man. My child was safely and happily with her biological father and his family in my hometown and I only saw her via skype or during holidays. I struggled so much with whether or not I should have stayed in school or succumbed to the pressures of family who convinced me that regardless of the reasoning, I was abandoning my child.
Ultimately I returned and we tried and failed at maintaining a long distance relationship (mainly due to my stress of living back in a much more expensive place and not having a job or being able to get into these highly impacted schools). To make matters worse, his parents were not supportive of our relationship due to the age difference. His father believes he needs to sow his oats and that I’m a cougar who had tricks up my sleeve.
Our relationship was near perfect, we communicated well, both crazy about each other, chemistry was off the charts, and we had the potential to be a beautiful black power couple because we are both studying sciences and plan to make a difference in as many poverty stricken communities as possible one day. We are both still very much in love but know that a long distance relationship is not an option. Should I take my child and move back? Should I leave her again and just go for the home stretch and get my degree? Should I try to forget him? Is his age a factor?