Men: Please Stop Trying to Solve Our Love Problems

October 19th, 2011 - By Brande Victorian

Michael Baisden: Do Women Know What They Want?

On Saturday, CentricTV will air Michael Baisden’s documentary, “Do Women Know What They Want?” I saw the previews for the film last weekend, and as I watched the snippet on the website, it’s clear the special is of the Steve Harvey ilk: “Let me fix women’s expectations about men so they can stop whining about why they can’t find one. Oh, and don’t forget to give white men a try and step up your sex game if you expect your man to be faithful.” Thanks.

Aside from the obvious reason that single black women’s problems have now become big business (books! TV specials! magazine spreads! depressing films!), why are even more men jumping in to try to solve our relationship problems otherwise? The market is totally saturated. Don’t they have enough to do, or someone else to save? Every time I go to a panel or click on someone’s website, there is a man claiming to have written the “foreal foreal” book on men that women need to read and that other men are too scared to write. Instead of a book on men for women, how about a book on manhood for men? I’m looking at you, Hill Harper.

It is beyond annoying to be constantly bombarded with messages from men who:

(a) Are not experts in relationships,

(b) Are saying the same thing we’ve already heard,

(c) Have no genuine desire to really help women get the man they want, and

(d) Say expand your horizons and date outside your race — even if a woman says she wants a black husband.

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  • D. Isabell

    Black women (most anyways) are not the real issue. Please remember that in these days and time we are being SOLD whatever. Advertisements are made to make you FEEL you have a PROBLEM, that needs to be CORRECTED. People who put out advice often time don’t know what the heck they are speaking of. I didn’t buy the book or watch the movie because it “ain’t” NOTHING Michael says or his cast says that I have not heard before. People need to think for themselves.

  • D. Isabell

    Black women (most anyways) are not the real issue. Please remember that in these days and time we are being SOLD whatever. Advertisements are made to make you FEEL you have a PROBLEM, that needs to be CORRECTED. People who put out advice often time don’t know what the heck they are speaking of. I didn’t buy the book or watch the movie because it “ain’t” NOTHING Michael says or his cast says that I have not heard before. People need to think for themselves.

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  • Inspired

    Most people commenting have not even seen Michael Baisden film "Do Women No What They Want". The film is about women telling men what they want, it's not the other way around. Michael Baisden just wrote a book for the men called "Never Satified – Do Men Know What They Want". I liked the film, I thought it was interesting. Why as educated and intelligent people, we only have to discuss politics (which is becoming more like a soap opera), current events and the day's news. What's wrong with having an intelligent conversation about relationships. Also, when Oprah and every other women was doing the same thing for years, no one said anything, why is it a problem because men are now discussing relationships.

  • bhillboy37

    He also has a syndicated radio show that is mostly listened to by women. Seriously, guys don't be listening to the Michael Baisden show like women do. Really, who wants to listen toJill Scott, Ledisi, and Kem but some 35 year old woman. I'd rather listen to DMX, Killer Mike, The Roots.