Signs You’ll Grow Old Together And Love It
“I want to grow old with you”—it’s a phrase we hear in love songs, poems, letters and novels throughout our lives. When we first hear it, we think, “I don’t want to ever get old at all so, why does it matter with whom I do it?” But the truth is you’ll be very lucky if you do get to grow old because that means you get more time on this earth to try the things you want to try. Furthermore, if you’re very lucky, you can find someone who makes the lows not so low, the highs even higher, and the mundane moments actually rather fun. You’ll be wrinkly one day, so you may as well be wrinkly with somebody who makes you laugh and smile. Here are signs you’re going to grow old together and love it.
You can be broke together
You can be (and have been) totally broke together and it didn’t affect your happiness level at all. You are so happy together that things like fancy vacations and expensive meals are barely cherries on top of what’s already an incredible sundae.
You have fun at the pharmacy
You somehow find yourselves riffing and having a great time picking out toilet paper and dish soap. Chores don’t really feel like chores when you’re together.
You call each other several times a day
You love to stay connected; you want your partner’s input on what’s happening in your life, and you want to feel like you’re with him even when you’re not.
Sex; you can take it or leave it (but it’s fun when it happens!)
If you can’t have sex for a while due to scheduling conflicts, it doesn’t affect how emotionally connected you feel in the slightest. That being said, when you do have sex, it never gets old or stops being a total blast.
You laugh together a lot
If you could put together a montage of quintessential moments in your relationship, you’d probably be laughing in all of them.
Home isn’t home without him
Your apartment doesn’t really feel like home when your partner is away—it just feels like some generic space. On the flip side, a motel room can feel like home when you’re together.
There is nothing they don’t know (even the ugly stuff)
They know the people of whom you’re jealous, they know your most self-loathing thoughts, and they know that you can be a bit mean sometimes. And you are not embarrassed that they know this.
You feel more adventurous together
When you’re together, you have more energy and curiosity than when you’re apart. It feels like anything is possible when you’re together, and you feel inspired to try new things.
You genuinely like the same people
You genuinely adore his friends, and he genuinely adores yours. That will make growing old together a lot of fun because you’ll have an active social life!
You say some weird stuff around each other
If somebody recorded some of the things you say around each other and played them back to you, you’d be pretty confused. But you have your own language, and when you speak it, nothing sounds weird.
You rarely fight
Fights are bound to happen, but you can’t grow old with somebody if you fight with them every day. If you rarely fight, that’s a good sign you can do this whole thing called life together.
When you fight, it’s over quickly
The times you do fight, the fights end quickly. What you both want, above all else, is to get back to getting along so you can keep on partying. Pride and the need to “be right” takes a back seat.
You feel like kids when you’re together
You re-connect with that infectious buzz you felt as a child when you’re with your partner. Your inhibitions seem to leave, and the world seems magical.
You’ve gained weight, lost weight, gained weight
You’ve both gained and lost weight—been in perfect shape and less-than-perfect shape—but you never stopped finding one another the most attractive people in the world.
You’d be happy living anywhere together
Name a place, and you’d be happy living there, so long as it was together. You can imagine yourselves living in a tiny cabin in Alaska and fishing for your dinner or an apartment over a dive bar in New York. It’ll be fun because you’ll be together.
And this person is your priority over all else
You would follow this person to the ends of the earth because you know that nothing—not your career or your social life—could make you as happy as they do. This person is the whole point, and you see that so clearly.
You can’t lie to each other, even if you try
You can’t lie to each other, even if you try to because you know each other so well that it never flies. You communicate even when you don’t want to communicate.
The activity really doesn’t matter
It really doesn’t matter where you eat or where you take a road trip or what concert you go to—that’s all just the backdrop for being together.
Being with them feels like being alone in a good way
You are so bonded that being with your partner feels like you’re just with yourself. You don’t need to alter anything you do or say or feel or think—you can be truly you at all times and everything flows smoothly.
There is no such thing as awkward
Your mom can yell at you in front of your partner, you can bomb terribly trying an open mic, and you can get fired in front of them—there is no such thing as awkward in front of your partner.