Icebreakers For The Grown and Shy

The First Date

There are a plethora of first date icebreakers, partly because there are genuinely so many things that you would like to know about your date. Still, for those who are shy, diving in to ask questions can be quite difficult. Try these very basic icebreakers that will get your date talking; and if you’re really shy, maybe he will lead the conversation from there.

• Questions About the Date

This question is so simple yet so relevant. If you’re at a restaurant, which is usually the ‘norm’ for a first date, ask him if he frequents the restaurant often. If he says yes, ask him what his favorite dish is. That’s a two-for-one icebreaker.

• Questions About His Background

Keep these questions basic on the first date. Ask where he’s from, if he lives in the area, etc. These are basic icebreakers that generate conversation without prying too much.

• Questions About His Future

Some say asking a man what he does professionally is a bit abrasive; but if you’re on a date, why wouldn’t you? Still there are tactful ways to do so. Asking  “So, what profession are you in?” isn’t a bad icebreaker, especially if you follow it up with, “So do you enjoy your job?” That shows interest and no judgment on his professional industry, whether a garbage man or a high-profile attorney.