Defense Mechanisms That Are Bad For Your Relationship
Copying the offensive behavior
You may like to show a lesson rather than tell a lesson. In other words, if your partner does something you don’t like, rather than tell him, you may just do it right back to him. You may stay out four hours later than you said you would, and not call to let him know where you are because that’s what he did. Of course, when he apologized for doing that…you said it was “Totally fine!” When, in fact, it was not totally fine. Clearly.