Are You Too Judgmental Of Other Women?
Women can be too hard on each other—harder than men. If you’re a woman, then you know it’s true. In a way, it’s a good thing. Sometimes you know perfectly nice men who are friends with other men who cheat on their wives/get kicked out of bars/have gambling problems and you don’t get it. The thing is men can compartmentalize that way; if their friend’s behavior doesn’t affect the friendship directly, they can let it go. Women, however, aren’t that lenient. We will get angry at our friend for cheating on her boyfriend, even if she’s always been the most loyal friend to us. We’re just more judgmental like that. But some women are too judgmental of other women. Some women take it upon themselves to play judge and jury of other women’s habits and behavior. Is that you? Are you too judgmental of other women?
It bothers you that your friend has casual sex
When your friend tells you one of her funny sexcapades, you can’t just laugh along. You have to ask questions like, “Had you even met this guy before? Did you even like him?”
You get mad if you don’t love your friend’s boyfriend
You get personally offended if your friend dates someone who you less-than-love. It’s not enough that she loves him; if you aren’t genuinely excited to hang out with the guy, you judge your friend’s adoration of him.
Your friends don’t want to tell you about their finances
They know that if they mention money is tight, you’ll judge every shirt they buy, how much money they spend on lunch, and every side gig they don’t take.
You’re mean to women who are dressed provocatively
If a woman is showing cleavage, you instantly speak to her with a rather cold tone. You can’t just speak to her warmly and openly—she has to prove herself to you. All because she is showing cleavage.
You imitate other women’s voices…and you do that voice
You imitate other women, and when you do it, you do the most obnoxious, offensive voice. You know—the one male standup comics do when they imitate women. They make us sound like idiots.
You scoff at drunk women
God forbid that they’re just having fun, letting loose and getting a little messy. You see it as being unladylike, or incapable of holding their own.
You don’t give help without giving advice
If a friend asks you to help her out of a jam, you can’t just do it without saying something about it. You help, but the whole time you tell her how she could have done things differently to avoid this problem in the first place.
You let gossip form your opinion of somebody
If somebody says they just heard so-and-so isn’t very nice, or isn’t very responsible, when you meet that person, you’re not very nice.
You have no respect for the breakup grievance period
You think your friend is weak and dramatic for wallowing around her house for weeks after a breakup. You, apparently, are some unemotional machine who would be right back on her feat as if the relationship never happened.
You scare your friend’s dates/crushes away
If you’re at a bar, and your friend brings over a guy that she likes, that guy always seems to leave pretty soon after. Could it be…you? Could it be…the fact that you keep your eyebrow raised at everything he says?
You judge your friends’ friends
If your friend has a friend who you don’t like much, it bothers you. You have to say something to your friend about it. You take it personally. You can’t just let her have her other friend.
You criticize your friends for not working towards their goals
You take on the role of life coach, but nobody asked you to. A simple happy hour with friends turns into you grilling each one on how their resumes/evening classes are coming along.
People only get one chance with you
Have you written off someone entirely because they were late once, or got too drunk once? Or forgot about plans once? That’s pretty judgmental.
You stare at other women a lot
If you find yourself staring at other women a lot, then you’re probably pretty judgmental of other women. Why are you so hyper-aware of the presence of another female?