Little Gestures That Show He’s Trustworthy
Men, do you really understand how important it is to be trustworthy? I mean do you really get it? Look: you can be a genius, have the perfect body, have a wicked sense of humor, be outrageously charming, speak five languages, volunteer at an animal shelter weekly and run a successful business, but if you do one thing that indicates you might not be trustworthy, women don’t even see that laundry list of impressive traits. Why? Because what good is a successful, bilingual, charitable, muscular man if he doesn’t show up? If he doesn’t call? If he doesn’t do what he said he’d do? No good. He’s just some mythical man floating around out there. So, if you want to show a woman you could really be her partner, you should watch yourself; these little gestures show her you’re trustworthy.
You tell an unflattering story about yourself
It’s a bit suspicious if every story you tell your date shines a flattering light on you. If you’re willing to tell a story about a time that you messed up, or that you did something you’re ashamed of, this means that you’re willing to admit your wrongs and learn from your mistakes.
You’ll do something you don’t feel like doing
You’ll drive a friend to the doctor, even when you were about to fall asleep, and you have to get up early. This shows that you won’t drop the ball on something in the future, all because you didn’t feel like it, or something more appealing came up.
You’re not stupid when drunk
Typically, if you can’t trust someone when they’re drunk then you can’t trust them sober. Their drunk tendencies are just their real desires poking their heads through.
You don’t talk badly about your friends
If you keep people in your life who you don’t really like, that means you might be manipulative. It means you facilitate relationships because they benefit you in some way, even if you don’t really respect that relationship.
You have old friends
If all of your friends are brand new, your date can’t help but question; what happened to everybody else? How did you drive them away?
You apologize for lapses in communication
If you don’t respond to a text or call for days, when you finally do, the first thing you do is explain what took you so long and apologize. If you don’t mention the lapse in communication whatsoever, this tells your date that you don’t believe you owe anyone explanations or apologies for your behavior. And that’s scary.
You don’t give into temptation
If you say that you’re not drinking that night, you don’t drink that night. You don’t change your mind when the cocktail list looks good. You stick to the decisions and restrictions you make for yourself.
You’ll ditch us for a friend in need
Hey, if your friend legitimately just had his heart broken (or his leg broken) and you need to leave this date to help him, we respect that. If you just left him hanging there and ignored his calls, that tells us that you put your own pleasure above the needs of your friends.
You leave your phone out
This one is pretty simple: you leave your phone out. If you go to the bathroom, you leave it in plain sight. Why? Because you’re not worried some sketchy text will come through that you’ll have to explain to your date.
You don’t get defensive when questioned
If something you do or say doesn’t add up or leaves any doubts in your date’s mind, you go out of your way to explain them. You don’t become defensive that she questioned you—you know what just happened looked weird. Your only concern is putting her doubts at ease and giving her all the information she needs.
Hey, how is a woman supposed to trust you if you don’t trust her? If you constantly ask her who she is texting, and question everything she says, she’ll see that as you projecting. You know you aren’t trustworthy, and you assume nobody is.
You’ll introduce them to anybody
This happens a bit later in the relationship, but you’ll gladly introduce your date to anybody she is curious about in your life. Men who want to keep their dates away from somebody usually have something to hide—like an unflattering story that person might tell.
You can keep a secret
If your date asks you for personal information about a common acquaintance, you are comfortable saying, “It’s really not my place to share that.” So, you can keep a secret.
You’re the same around everyone
You don’t completely change the way you talk, or the things you like, or the way you compose yourself, depending on who you’re around. That shows that you’re comfortable in yourself, and not willing to compromise your values, even when it’s awkward to hold onto them.