Seduction Tactics That Need To Stop. Today.

September 19, 2016  |  
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Here’s the thing about seducing; if you know somebody is trying to do it to you, it’s ruined. Seduction is an art form, and like many of the greatest works of art, it looks best when it comes off as natural, when every movement flows, when one piece fits seamlessly into the next, when the lines and the stitching aren’t showing, and when there isn’t too much cologne. Oh, sorry, that last part is a seduction thing. There is really no right way to seduce because everybody responds to different things. But boy are there wrong ways to seduce, and it’s incredible that some of them are still touted as viable options. Maybe in hacky cartoons or black and white movies these tactics work, but outside of those dated and unrealistic scenarios, these seduction moves just won’t do. Here are a few that need to stop, now.

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A certain scent

We already brought up cologne so let’s get into it. No designer or department store can sell you a scent that “women will die for.” But many will promise to.
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Why it won’t work

The second we can tell you’re wearing a scent, we know you’re trying too hard. A fake scent sets up a barrier between you and women–just like lots of makeup sets up a barrier between women and men–and women don’t like barriers. Just slap on some deodorant to avoid BO, and smell like yourself–not an Abercrombie store.
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Peacocking

Remember this term from the book “The Game?” It’s the idea that women are drawn to the guy in the funny, loud hat or the t-shirt with boobs all over it. He must be so confident to wear something so ridiculous. He obviously doesn’t care what people think, and that’s hot, right?
 
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Why it won’t work

Now we know that guy desperately wants to get laid. Desperately. Because we’ve all read “The Game” or seen some movie that hails the concept of peacocking. Men who are really secure are secure enough to wear a normal outfit that doesn’t grab attention.
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Good music

Sure, there is music that puts women in the mood–music that gets us thinking about how fleeting life is and how we should just do what feels good, now. I won’t tell you what that music is–you have the Internet–but I also don’t think you should use it.
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Why it won’t work

The second you, a man, put on music that women love, they know you’re trying to seduce them. They know that you don’t actually like that music. Just play your own damn music, whether or not she likes it. She can request a change of song if she wants.
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Intense eye contact

Men are told that by maintaining eye contact, they make women feel extremely desired. It mimics a sense of connection. It makes women feel that they captivate the man, and that is very flattering.
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Why it won’t work

The intense eye contact can actually feel predatorial. It makes a woman feel forced to make eye contact with you; if she doesn’t, she feels rude as if she’s ignoring you, but if she does, she feels like she’s just agreed to have sex with you. It’s manipulative and creepy.
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Drawing a bath

A bath is very nice…when you’re alone. A nice, bubbly tub willed with aromatherapy salts and rose petals is certainly relaxing. And many women, when in a tub alone, have wished a man were there.
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Why it won’t work

When the man is actually there, it’s awkward, and it ruins everything. A) Men look ridiculous in bubble baths. Sorry, but it’s true. B) There is never enough room for two people in there. C) This is too obvious of a ploy to get a woman naked.
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Listening, but never talking

Somebody is out there teaching men that women like to be listened to, and that’s great. Some men have taken this to mean that they should just ask women about themselves, and barely speak. They just do a lot of nodding and, “Ah-ha” sounds. This way, she’ll feel a connection–she’ll feel you’re sensitive and want to have sex, right?!
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Why it won’t work

No…she’ll feel like you must be hiding something–like lamps made of skin–because you won’t tell her much about yourself.
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Leave the condoms out

This is some weird reverse psychology move; men think that by leaving things like condoms out, they make women think they have sex with other women, and this makes them want to have sex with them…
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Why it won’t work

Leaving the condoms out is at best presumptuous and at worst rude. Clean up your apartment. My goodness.
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Atmosphere

This could mean a number of things, from dim lighting, accent pillows because you know women like those, and the smell of chocolate chip cookies. There are plenty of men who believe they know how to create the perfect atmosphere for banging.
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Why it won’t work

The moment we sense that you tried to create an atmosphere, we feel a lot of pressure. And, we assume you must have known this would put pressure on us, so now we’re pissed at you. Also, dim lights? Really?

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