Ask a Very Smart Brotha: Making Friends & Facebook Prowling

Dear Champ,

I’m kind of young (freshman in college), but I had a situation happen a while back that confused the hell out of me, and just wanted a little insight. So, this guy randomly sends me a Facebook message saying I was very attractive. I acknowledged him and said a simple ‘thank you :)’ in reply and had all intentions to keep it moving. Well, my reply sparked a convo, and we were talking back a forth for a couple of days, friended each other, the whole Facebook nine. (After the couple of chats we had, I started thinking ‘hmm, maybe this could go somewhere. He seems nice and decent, he’s attractive too. Maybe we should meet up). Then all of a sudden, he deleted me off his page. Once I realized he deleted me, I just sent him a simple ‘good morning :)’ message, to see if he would respond, but he never did. Did I do something wrong, or did he just suddenly lose interest?!? I just want to know what happened.

Sincerely,

Young, but confused!! :/

Dear Young but confused,

Let me walk you through what probably happened at the other end of your computer screen.

Guy (Let’s call him “Jack”) is on his laptop, trolling Facebook and Twitter looking for cuties he could hit up. He sees you.

“Hmmm. She’s cute. I’ll send some bait out to her and see if she bites”

You bite.

Jack’s elated that five of the thirty-three random women he hit up this week have responded back, and he continues doing the “Hey cutie” thing with each of you five; hoping that at least one of you continues to respond and eventually allows him to get some.

You continue to bite.

But one day, right when Jack is finally about to send a “Hey, where do you live? Do you want to hang out sometime?” text to you, “Jane” — Jack’s girlfriend — walks into his bedroom.

“N*gga, what did I tell you about messing around on my laptop!!! Don’t let me find out you’re trolling for hoochies on Facebook again!!!”

“No, honey, I’m just reading my newsfeed” Jack replies as he silently curses and quickly deletes you from his friend’s list.