Travel Trials: My Boyfriend Won’t Allow Me To Wear A Bikini On Vacation
(As relayed by Lauren R.D. Fox based on a culmination of experiences)
My boyfriend and I are planning to go to the beach this weekend with a big group of people and, although I go with him and his frat brothers and their significant others on this beach getaway every year, this time around he’s concerned about my appearance and what I’ll be wearing.
When we first started dating a couple of years ago, I never wore bathing suits because I wasn’t comfortable with my body — at all. Over the last year, my boyfriend’s sisters and I started a fitness support group and I started to not only get in shape but actually love my (newly toned) body.
My new body has also afforded me the opportunity to wear clothes the old me would never think about wearing. And now my boyfriend has started policing my fashion choices. I usually ignore him but his behavior has become increasingly worse. I recently bought a bikini from Michael Kors and despite my friends and his sisters telling me how sexy I look in it, my boyfriend thinks it’s too revealing. He asked me to return it and I promptly told him “no” which started a big argument that boiled down to him not liking all the attention I receive these days. But now I can’t find the bikini to pack for our weekend trip. He keeps telling me it will show up when I’m not looking for it and suggests I wear a t-shirt and shorts instead. I hate to accuse him, but I really think he took my bathing suit and hid it, especially after he said a t-shirt and shorts would be a better look anyway because he doesn’t trust his frat brothers and their looming eyes.
Should I cover up to please my boyfriend?