Signs You Have No Filter When It Comes To Dating
Do your friends say you need to tighten up your filter? When you tell your friends about your dates, do they have looks of horror on their face? Do your friends desperately insist on just “taking a peek” at your online dating profiles to “make sure” they’re all they could be? If you answered yes to any of those questions, you probably don’t have a very good filter when it comes to dating. You mean well. You want to give people the benefit of the doubt. You don’t want to be too “Judgy” so when a guy says or does something that seems weird, you come up with a dozen explanations for him. You probably have friends who are too picky—their filters are too strong—who always end up alone, so as a reaction, you’re saying yes to all dates. But in dating, it’s all about balance. Just because you’re okay with admitting, “This person seems off…” doesn’t mean you’re picky. Here are signs you have no filter when it comes to dating.
You’ve been on a date at Taco Bell
Or McDonald’s, or Burger King or some other fast food chain. Maybe your dates buy you sandwiches from gas stations and have you eat in the car.
You are the DD for all of your dates
You often end up having to drive your drunk date home. You’ve even driven him home in his car because he parked it somewhere that it couldn’t stay overnight.
You’ve been propositioned
You’ve been on dates with men who ended up propositioning you. If it wasn’t a direct money for sex proposition, they promised to, “Make you comfortable” if you “Provided some companionship.”
You’ve been proposed to on a first date
You’ve actually had a few men propose to you on the first date, or within the first few dates. Somehow you didn’t pick up on the despair in their online messages.
Men have cried on first dates
You’ve had a lot of men break down in tears on first dates. You didn’t do anything to provoke it—but they were going through a divorce or bankruptcy or some trauma.
You went out with the cryer on a second date
You didn’t think that crying on the first date eliminated a man as a possible partner, so you went out with him a second time.
You read a lot of screenplays/memoirs on dates
A lot of your dates turn into you, and your date, pouring over his screenplay or memoir. He wants your notes and edits. He wants to know if you know any agents or publishers.
Or you end up editing a resume
First of all, you end up on a lot of dates with men who failed to mention they’ve been unemployed for a year. Then, after you’ve suggested some job-hunting tips, you end up going over their resume with them.
You’ve been invited to a “Sister Wives” situation
You’ve had a few dates tell you that they are into polygamy. Perhaps they already have several wives at home, and you fulfill a certain type the man just hadn’t found yet.
You’ve become your date’s babysitter
You’ve gone to a single dad’s house for dinner and somehow were left babysitting his children when he went out with his friends. Or on another date. Maybe he drunkenly passed out.
You’ve been out with a married man
You have fallen for the, “We’re not technically separated but we’ve been emotionally separated for years” or the, “I’m just waiting for the divorce paperwork…it’s taking a while.”
Your dates take your leftovers home
You’ve had dates ask if they can pack up your leftover food and take them home. They also asked you to put bread rolls in your purse for later.
You’ve dropped your date off on another date
You have driven your date directly from your date to another date. Oh, and he planned it during your date. You saw his Tinder open.
Most of your dates put on too many moves
Most of your dates do not take physical cues. They put their arm around you and make advances when you’re clearly not feeling them. When you tell them to cool it, they ridicule you for being uptight.
You’re often solicited for a naked pic
Most of the men you talk to online ask for a naked picture before you’ve even met in person.
You get a lot of unsolicited d-ck pics
You’ve experienced this tragedy more times than you want to admit: you finish a great date with a guy. He was charming and cordial and a gentleman. Just when you’re getting home, blissfully happy, you get a d-ck pic.
You’ve had a date ask if he can crash at your place
You’ve been out with one too many guys who casually dropped at the end of the date, “I’m sort of, um, in between places right now so…can I sleep over?”
Your dates are banned from places
Several restaurants and bars are off limits because your date has been banned from them for being drunk in public, starting fights, or urinating in public.
Your dates aren’t allowed near schools
Well. This one is self-explanatory and terrible.
Your date has tried to dine and ditch
You’ve been out with men who have tried to dine and ditch, and they suggested it as if it was the most normal thing in the world.