The Universe Is Listening: What Are You Saying About Yourself?
As you all know, I’m a big fan of Kelly Rowland’s show “Chasing Destiny.” I’ve written about it a couple of times and this weekend, my sister and I introduced my cousin to the show. And we ended up watching all of the episodes all over again.
In doing so, I noticed something particularly interesting in last week’s airing.
As much love and sisterhood as we see on the show, it is still a competition. And on this particular night, Kelly was looking to send one of the young ladies home.
Interestingly enough, before she eliminated people, she told both the producers, her partner in this journey, choreographer Frank Gatson, and vocal coach Stevie Mackey that she’d had a dream about one of the young ladies. In the dream, the girl was telling her that she was going to be in the group. Coincidentally, the very same girl she dreamt about was the one Kelly and her team decided to eliminate, Skye.
From the moment that Skye sensed that she wasn’t going to be competing any further, her body language changed. She sunk and tears began to fall. But that reaction is standard. Most of the young ladies cried when they were sent home. But it was what Skye did afterward that changed her fate.
She said, and I’m paraphrasing here, “It’s just so weird. I had dreams of being in this group, being on stage with this group.”
But she didn’t stop there. She thanked Kelly and Frank for the time and care they had invested into her up until that point. She did it in a way that somehow managed to come across as sincere and genuine, rather than desperate and ass-kissy. And she said that she hoped America was able to see the type of people they were. And then as she was walking out of the door, she told them that she hoped that they found what they were looking for and that the group they were creating proved successful.
When she left, Kelly, Frank and Stevie were stunned into silence. Later, I believe Frank said sh*t. After Kelly had eliminated another girl, she mentioned that she just couldn’t get Skye off of her mind. Between her dream and Skye’s dream and the words she said as she left, she realized it wasn’t time to say goodbye to her yet. As Kelly said this, her partners chimed in. Stevie mentioned that based on what Skye said as she was walking out of the room, she would be the perfect group member. He said she would put the group first and be on stage, rain or shine because even as she was being eliminated, she was still concerned for the well-being of the group.
And Kelly decided after the talk with Stevie and Frank that she was going to invite her to stay. She called her back into the very room where she’d dismissed her and asked her to please stay and continue on in the competition.
After sitting through church service about ending negative talk, speaking positively over your life so you can pursue your dreams, my antenna perked up.
I was very tired and had laid down in a ball in between my sister and cousin on the couch. But I lifted my head to tell the both of them, “You see how you can manifest your dreams by what you think and say about yourself? She said, ‘I saw it.’”
My cousin agreed, “Even in other people!”
It was so true. Skye envisioned this life for herself. And not only did she envision it, she spoke about that vision at the right time and her circumstances shifted. She had already been eliminated, was on her way home; but because of her dream and her tongue, she got to stay and work toward her goal.
I love to marinate on the benefits of positive thinking. And at my church they speak quite a bit about declaring your dreams, your desires, your children and even yourself into the atmosphere, so that the universe will have to adjust to accommodate you and your talents. I’ve always believed that. I’ve experienced that several times over in my own life. And it was certainly a trip to watch play out on reality television.
I share this story because there are some people who think it’s spooky, or hokey, or just too weird to embrace the connection between the spiritual, psychological and physical worlds. We are more powerful than we think. What we say about ourselves and our lives matters, deeply. The universe is listening.