Should You Aspire To Marry Someone Who Is Out Of Your League?
Over the weekend, Russell Wilson delivered the commencement speech at his alma mater, the University of Wisconsin. The professional athlete’s presentation was filled with inspiration and words of encouragement—and interestingly, romantic advice. One of the more interesting directives that came from the newly engaged 27-year-old was that men who are lucky enough to be dating a woman whom he considers to be “out of his league” should ask her to marry him.
“If you’re dating a woman that’s way out of your league, ask her to marry you,” he shared.
Sure, Russell probably just wanted to say something sweet about his fiancée, who was also present at the graduation ceremony, and I’m sure he didn’t mean anything by it; however, his comments sparked an interesting discussion. What does it actually mean to be out of someone’s league and is it really wise to form a life partnership with someone when the relationship dynamic is imbalanced? Is it possible to forge ahead in a healthy relationship when you don’t see your partner as an equal but a superior?
There are so many things that I admire about my fiancé and there are ways that I aspire to be like him. And I’m sure that the feeling is mutual. We both have our strengths and our weaknesses. But at the end of the day, I don’t believe that either of us looks at each other and thinks, “Boy, I’m about to marry someone who is out of my league.” Perhaps, “Gosh, we’re blessed to have found one another. How did we get so lucky?” but that’s where it ends. I couldn’t imagine marrying someone who I thought was “better than me” or I felt that I was beneath in any kind of way.
Of course, I had to ask my co-workers how they felt about the subject, and their responses were pretty similar. Sure, it’s smart to marry someone who is strong in areas where you are weak, but to marry a person that you strongly feel that you’re beneath may cause problems later.
What are your thoughts on this? Do you feel that your spouse is “out of your league?” Hell, what does it even mean to be out of someone’s league?