I’ll Never Do That Again: Was Your First Pregnancy Your Last?
Pregnancy and delivery is definitely no joke. For me, pregnancy and delivery was one of the toughest things that I have ever experienced in my entire life. The change a woman’s body goes through to carry a child truly boggles the mind. Our bodies literally stretch to hold a growing infant and our uterus’ efface (soften and thin out) to make way for their delivery into the world. It is a process that is beautifully complex and there’s nothing else in the world that I can think of that compares to it.
Yes, being pregnant and giving birth to a child is a beautiful thing. However, it is no easy feat. During pregnancy we experience morning sickness and swollen ankles. And during delivery our uterus’ ache beyond description as it contracts to make way for our bundle of joy. Some women even tear their vagina during delivery, and others have to have an episiotomy (an incision made between the vagina and your behind to allow an infant to pass through easier) or cesarean section to aid in the birthing process.
For some, the discomfort of pregnancy and the pain of childbearing disappear forever once they have a chance to hold their little one in their arms for the very first time. The first encounter with their baby seems to melt away all of the anguish they experienced before delivery. For them, staring into their baby’s face wipes it all away. For others, the pregnancy and/or delivery are a very traumatic experience. So traumatic, that they refuse to ever do it again. The moment that they met their child for the first time didn’t magically melt away the memories of the pain they experienced prior to their arrival. They vividly remember every ache, every pain, every contraction, and every single solitary moment of nausea. They remember the sensitivity to smell, the difficulty keeping food down, and the Fred Flinstone-esque feet brought on by all the swelling. These experiences create an indelible impression in their minds.
Many women ask questions like: “Why would I purposely put myself through that again?” and honestly, I can’t blame them.
I have two close friends that have vowed to never get pregnant again. I guess the pain of childbearing proved to be much too much. One even went as far as getting her tubes burned. For her, it was THAT serious.
What about you? Was your first pregnancy your last? If so, what was it exactly that made you make that decision? Excessive morning sickness? Intense delivery? Do tell.