There are Good Men Out There?!? How Do I Get One???

September 1, 2011  |  

Do you believe that there are no more good men out there? Or do you hang around with women who constantly express this sentiment? This is not so my darling. Not only are there good men out there, you can attract them to you, with a simple attitude adjustment.

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  • dahh rule

    In many different ways, members of our society continue to weigh in on many social issues, whether it is about prostitution, gay marriage, capital punishment, unfaithfulness in relationships or some other social issue. In this current article, the Issues Desk wishes to look at polygamy – specifically, polygyny or male polygamy – presenting ten reasons why everyone should welcome, support and promote it.

    First of all, almost all men already like having as many female partners as possible. They have that natural penchant to be with scores of women. If we forbid it because of some so-called Bible teaching, we only create problems, including unfaithfulness, because men, generally speaking, will still go out to satisfy that desire to be with many women. Let’s give men the unhindered chance to do what they enjoy doing – keeping many women as his partners.

    Second, polygamy promotes individual rights and freedom. It is obvious that everyone wants to be free to associate, choose, decide and so on, and this applies to the practice of polygamy. The decision to practice polygamy should be left with the individual; it is a personal decision that no person or institution should interfere with. If a man wishes to practice polygamy, or if a woman wants to live in a polygamous marriage, the decision should be left with the person. No one should deprive that individual of this right. To do otherwise is to trample upon the right of the individual to choose what is good for him.

    Third, polygamy helps to prevent or minimize adultery. Since, generally speaking, a man enjoys having multiple sexual relationships, or since a man is more likely to cheat on his wife, if a man is allowed to have as many wives as he wants, he will have no, or less, need to practice extra-marital sex. Having only one wife creates a condition for the temptation to cheat to flourish. Polygamy can help solve this problem.

    Fourth, polygamy is part of some culture. By practicing this form of culture, the people feel proud and dignified. Why should some people feel that their one-man-one-wife culture should be more acceptable, or is better, than a one-man-many-wives culture? Is this not what we call ethnocentrism? It is this ethnocentric tendency that has caused many unique cultural practices to be destroyed completely. We must not allow this to happen to polygamy. We must protect our culture.

    Fifth, polygamy was practiced by great men of both the Bible and the Koran. Abraham had more than one wife. Jacob had more than one wife. David had more than one wife. Solomon had more than one wife. Mohamed had several wives. God did not condemn or punish any of these men for practicing polygamy. In fact, the Koran puts it clearly – a man is allowed to have up to four wives. Those who think that polygamy is wrong because Adam had only one wife don’t understand that Adam had no choice. If God had placed several Eves into the Garden of Eden or somewhere near it, forget it, Adam would have taken them all as wives.

    Sixth, polygamy helps to reduce the number of unmarried women in a society. In other words, it brings hope to the single women among us. If polygamy is enthusiastically welcome and promoted and accepted, the number of married women in our society will be less. We all know what problems most unmarried women face, don’t we? Polygamy can help solve these problems. You see what joy and balance polygamy can bring to a society?

    Seventh, polygamy helps men with leadership ability. Most men and women know that women are one of the most difficult creatures to deal with in this world. So, for a man to control a home of three or four wives with different backgrounds and behavior, for example, is a great leadership responsibility. And if a man can successfully manage this, then he’s most likely to manage great institutions or people. If one can understand and deal with women easily and successfully, then he has great management and leadership skills.

    Eighth, polygamy teaches a man to learn how to be patient. Many of us know that patience is a great virtue. Most of us also know that women do all kinds of things that annoy, infuriate or frustrate men. As mentioned in the previous argument, women, generally speaking, are troublesome creatures. If a man who has two or three wives can learn to keep them in his life for years, in spite of their troublesome nature, then that man has obtained one of the greatest virtues of life. Do we need impatient people in our society, or patient people?

    Ninth, polygamy is good in that it proves that men have a humanitarian spirit in them – they want to help others. We all know that, as experience has shown, it is the man’s responsibility to provide for the home. So, imagine a man who has four wives, each having three children. If this man can willingly, readily and ably provide food, clothing, shelter and other things for the four women and their children, isn’t he helping to sustain humanity? Isn’t he a humanitarian? Do you know what would happen to those women if they had no one to help them? This is the humanitarian side of polygamy, and it is another reason why we should support it and encourage both men and women to welcome and promote it.

    Finally, polygamy, like prostitution, is an age-old normal human practice. Polygamy has been with us for ages. It started long before the Flood of Noah came. Some say that the first man to have ever practiced polygamy was Lemech, a man who married two women. It has been practiced since that time. Let’s not frustrate its continuation.

    To conclude, there are many good reasons why polygamy is a fantastic practice, but because of time and space, only ten reasons have been proffered. Indeed, supporting polygamy is a sensible thing to do because men already like having many partners, it enhances personal freedom, helps to prevent or minimize adultery, is an integral part of some culture, was practiced by great men of Christianity and Islam and other religions, helps to decrease the number of single women in society, helps men with leadership ability, it indicates that men are humanitarian, and it is a normal human practice. Go for it, Liberians!

  • Fenrir_Lokison

    Many women and men make love hard. They give it all these non-essential rules and regulations and a person who chooses not to play the game gets brushed aside, or settle for something better than being alone.

  • Allyce

    I agree nice girls finish last. Men also want the flashy girls without any sense or education. It makes them feel powerful to have someone to control.

  • numero uno

    The only problem is nice girls stay nice girls whereas nice guys after awhie want to mock the bad boy or thug image because being sincere, honest and a good guy is hard for women to accept. ITS HARD FOR BLACK PEOPLE TO ACCEPT IT PERIOD. Ive never been to prison, I have no kids, I love my parents, I'm not wishy washy, So I concur!

  • thatdoesn't worknow

    that's nice but try telling a black man in 2011 you want to build a friendship and hold-off on the sex, the next thing you know PUFFF! he's gone, to be with someone who will give it up faster.

    • alejandro

      thats men in general…not just black men… -___-

  • Detroit Tyrone

    Nice guys or good men finish last. Women want bad boyz. Tell them: you work, never been to jail, pay your bills and have credit, and have a good relationship with Mom and sisters; you are the old L7 and unwanted. Game changes when you say you went to jail, got tats, got fired,say you'll slap a ho, and you got no credit or money; then they all over ya.

    • letsbehonest

      actually nice girls finish AFTER the nice guys. you 'nice guys' or 'good men' finish after the bad boys because you guys are chasing the bad girls. you trample on the nice,feminine chick to get with the bad girl , she breaks your heart and puts you through hell and only after that do you want a relationship with the good girl so that she can 'sooth your ego' (which is code for 'handle your baggage').


      • Fenrir_Lokison

        False. A lot of nice girls want the bad boys too. So, they use the nice girl routine, gets steam rolled over. And then either continue with their self-destructive behavior or think showing themselves as a chewed up wade of gum is going to attract the nice guys and good men. So, the nice guys and good men don't want to pick the one's who display themselves in such manner.

  • Lucille Love

    Yes there are good men, but it's like picking a nice diamond in the ruff… Check out this article, Philly artists love songs that will get you in the mood

  • Kayla

    there are good men out there, but you have to be the right person yourself to attract one

  • Real Talk

    Should read "that shows faint interest" oops!

  • MzCookie

    There is good men cuz I have one one thing I noticed is that some women just can’t handle bein alone they jump. From one guy to the next so quickly then come to realize after they allready gave it up and put in time that he was no good… u gotta go thro some bad ones too get to the good ones and that’s real cuz that’s how I found my pookie

  • Anna

    ****wasted precious time on a BAD ONE…

  • The problem is not wither good man exist. The problem is do you want a good man. Academic successful black men have the lowest rate of having multiple children. If women wanted academically successful men, they would have children with them, but since statically the worse of community have the most children, I m guessing that they dont have much interest in those men.

    One thing my mother thought me, never let a woman define to you what a man is. She doesn't have a clue what she is talking about. She can only tell you what she thinks a man is, if she knew what a man was, she would be with one.

  • Jimmy Swaggered


    Never ever take dating advise from a woman with a receding hairline and a yellow afro.

    • JustAshley


    • Tee

      I second that LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

  • seek2027

    Yes speaking for my self there still good men out there. Unfortunetly there are those brother out there that make us good men look bad with their bs. Also let’s be real the entertainment and media world paint a different picture of what a good man should look like but trust a lot of good honest hard working men are still out in the worl black to

    • LovelyT

      Well where the hell do I look for you guys??? lol All I seem to do is run into and attract all the wrong "types".