The Seven Deadly Sins of Dating

August 17th, 2011 - By Toya Sharee

1.  Infidelity

Whether it’s infidelity of the emotional kind or a full-on sexual involvement, infidelity is one of those things that can easily kill a relationship.  People cheat for a variety of reasons that don’t always include being attracted or interested in someone else and sometimes, depending on the circumstances, there are relationships that can withstand the occasional wandering eye (or lower organs).  Cheating is at times a response to something that is lacking within the relationship, more than it is about greed, convenience or indecision.  But cheating is often more work than it’s worth. If you are unhappy in the relationship you’re in, just leave.  It’s easier said than done most times, but it really is just that simple.

Too often, there are women who stay in relationships where they are repeatedly cheated on and try to convince themselves that all is forgiven, but will use the incident as ammo every time a disagreement occurs.  If you say you’re over it, be over it.  If you can’t get past it, move on to the next.

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  • Bobby

    Lack of support… failure to communicate. __Ouch__Yes, it is very tough to make it in the long haul.

  • MsMia

    I LOVE my black man & I wouldn’t trade him for anything/one! NO, he is not perfect, but that’s ok, because neither am I, but some how…IT WORKS!!! #teamblacklove…#teamreallove…#teamNOBODYIS PERFECT!!!

  • Tempermoves

    Wow, ALL of these are my last ex bf.  And I kicked him to the curb, as any sensible 26 yr old would.  I feel bad for his NOW 18yr old gf he’s been dating for two months off and on, immediately dating her after I booted him, (yeah, she was 17 until the end of last month, and he’ll be 28 in two months) that he now has knocked up, that poor, poor girl. :(  

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100001582873654 Shane Wielding

    First off, a white man is not every black woman’s dream. Secondly, just because you had a bad experience with a white man, it doesn’t mean you need to generalize and say “white men aren’t as noble as they appear.” That’s just stupid. The truth is, there are good an bad men of every color. Let’s get off the race bullsh*t.

  • No_email

    This article is clearly for the first timers out there. Infidelity, abuse, and dishonesty are a deadly sin in dating? What kind of woman isn’t already aware of that? This post is obviously to take up space on a website to ensure they still get a paycheck. I cannot see this enriching anybody’s life. 

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100000595128061 Kbabercrombie Brown

      I’m Glad some one knows !!!

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_U3RVDDDDOUDBE4DV65ADPTP3AQ Michelle

    And sometimes you try and try to communicate and finally just give up.  I’ve been married for 14 years now and often I feel like its a waste of time to even try to get him to listen.  Not going to happen.  This is definately a case of staying married for the sake of the kids.  I tried leaving once, but couldn’t make it on my own and ended up coming back because it was better than living in the minivan with the kids.

  • Sarah Eb2589

    I had one like this. But my relationship was only 3 yrs n I married him. I hated to leave cause he was great with my daughter n kept every promise he made me when we met. Just reading this, I know where we went wrong.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_F5LUCS3JB3VC7UEGL5CMJIZ2SQ Anne Louise

    wow – the lack of support thing, never saw it put into words. Thats why I ended a 13 yr live in relationship last year. Basically, I felt alone and lonely with him laying right next to me. I have a new man, he lives 1200 miles away, we see each other for 7-10 days each month. He calls every day, and emails me everyday. Even though this is a long distant relationship, I feel like he has my back. I feel like I matter. 

  • JOJO TAYLOR

    imma give brothas some good advice!!! DATE WHITE WOMEN AND YOU CAN DO WHATEVER YOU WANT!

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100001582873654 Shane Wielding

      What an ignorant comment to make. That’ll help with race relations. 

      • http://www.facebook.com/donna.robinson.102 Donna Robinson

        Race relaions has nothing to do with the ignorance of 1 ignorant man he is who you should hold responsible and not the entire race!

    • Poetryandsarcasm

       As a white woman, let me assure you that this is total crap. It doesn’t matter who you are, if you pull stupid stunts, you’re on the curb. Just ask my ex.

    • im just me

      that is just stupid. you are obviously in a relationship with a very desperate woman, or not in one at all. damn!

    • http://www.wordflow.webs.com/ Invisible_Jester89

      Thank you, Jojo Taylor, for introducing me to the type of black man I would never want to date as a white woman – someone who thinks they can do “whatever they want” if they date a white woman. You give men in general a bad name, you pig. Go rot in a ditch.

    • http://www.facebook.com/donna.robinson.102 Donna Robinson

      Your an idiot, who obviouslyare too embarresed to admit you have a problem with self esteem, you lack the basic neccesities of common sense as well as the conviction to stand on your on two feet which is why you feel the need to have control.which by the way is clearly evidence of an abuser. My advice to you is to get treatment before you find yourself in some serious trouble and while your at it see if they can help you with your racial problem as well, Because for you to stand there and make the type of claim as above places you in the racist bracket!

  • http://halebobb.com/vote.htm Doc

    To sum up: Treat people the way you want to be treated. If you treat people badly, they will respond in kind.
    If you want a good relationship, be a good friend.
    Does this really take a whole article?