Be More Than a Booty Call: 3 Ways to Avoid Getting Dogged

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August 4, 2011 ‐ By madamenoire

Usually when you meet a man you have a general idea of what you want from him at that particular time. Sometimes he might look like your future husband and other times he might look like a future horizontal hump partner.

If you want to use a man specifically that’s your decision, you’re grown.

But if you want to be more than a cut buddy, a jumpoff, if you will, then take heed to these tips from Your Tango.com.

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  • http://www.braidsbydarlene.com Monique

    hmm. Its a shame this article even needs to be written. If you have to sleep with a man before you know where the two of you stand then write his behind off first. Do unto him before he does unto you. Its always best to be prepared to do the stepping before you let yourself be stepped on. Or keep him in the friend zone for as long as it takes. Usually after a long friendship (platonic about a year) that feeling of wanting him as a mate will fizzle. lol. If he's worth keeping as a boyfriend or potential spouse, there is no need to rush it if its really gonna last.

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  • numero uno

    Booty calls are for single people, once in a relationship, It'd called having sex/ love making! I'm with you, I want you

  • ..L

    * a booty call is a part of life, in between relationships at times one needs a lil good wood…

  • Jimmy Swaggered

    Re-read #9: Don't be offended. Embrace it.

  • Shouldnt2saybut…

    How about this ladies…

    Stop giving up the goods before he proves it… Steve Harvey enacted he Three Month Rule… I saw we go a step further:

    Six Month Rule. If a dude can't hold his own or his interest in six months, he wasn't worth much in the first place. Its time we put men in categories too.

  • weston golson

    Ok this is my view on it ,I’m 43 and fell in love with a 30 yr treated her like a queen ,she coundnt handle it she fell apart she needed to be mistreated she wanted just sex ,a thugs that can’t pay his bills had no job. And i wanted was to love her . So u do the math

    • denise

      weston u r choosing the wrong women! she sounds like a ghetto hoodrat!

    • Sista, Esq.

      Here's the math:

      1 43-y/o misguided dude chose 1 30-y/o hoodrat chick, and this resulted in # months/years wasted, and him now thinking that BIILIONS of (black) women ALL wish to be mistreated.

      This must be special ed math!

  • Anna

    Read the gray box above this message.

  • ATLQT

    Seek help, immediately.

  • Janay

    Tiredofthebs I cosign…please go find these wonderful women you speak of. Like seriously who cares

  • Jimmy Swaggered

    The suggestions in the article are completely worthless. Here's how you can truly avoid being a booty call:

    1. Give absolutely awesome head. Frequently.
    2. Discuss thought provoking concepts (i.e. the gradual move towards the right in modern global politics)
    3. Avoid discussing people (i.e. Chris Brown, the Kardashians, the chick you hate at your job, etc.)
    4. Learn how to shoot pool
    5. Ask questions about the rules of football (i.e. "so wait, what happens after the fourth down again?")
    6. Don't ask gossip related football questions (i.e. "which one's Reggie Bush? I can't believe he left Kim…"
    7. Suggest going to a bar, rather than a club. Say it's because you want him to save money.
    8. Suggest doing something athletic (i.e. ride bikes, shoot some b-ball, etc.)
    9. Re-read suggestion Number 1. Don't be offended. Embrace it.
    10. Be fun. In order for a guy to want you for more than just your ass and titties, you have to be more than just ass and titties.

    • Anna

      2-8 and 9-10 are cool.

      1 and 9 need work.

  • tiredofthebs

    Ignore the “edwards” on all websites. His kind, dislike Black women so much that he can’t stop talkn to or abt us.

    Let him talk to the lovely non-Black women who miraculously, show up when a brother comes into money, or only mess w Black men cuz no one else wants them. N he shld be happy cuz in his blind eyes, no one but Black women are bad. Women of other races, such as Christie Brinkley, Madonna, Kate Hudson, Courtney Kardashian, Kim from Atlanta housewives, could have babies out of wedlock, but still be his queen. Jessica Simpson could wear a weave, and make him sign a prenup on a napkin, be one of Hugh Hefner’s play bunnies, give head on camera, and still be his wife. His kind is desperate, and despise Black women, they c hoodrats, not the ones like Michelle Obama, and MANY of us with degrees, or with just plain common sense holding it down, he never sees the trash of more than one culture of reality shows, I guess every women on rock of love was a lady, overall eff his type their not only mad at us “but the evil white man holdn them down, so u know what eff him. Let them marry them and be played until their money run out.

    At least he’ll get the LstatusL he wants

    • btowne

      Nicely said. Edward is an Idiot.

    • Sista, Esq.

      Giiiirll…you get a STANDING OVATION! Puhhh-lease let the "other" women have trash like ole Edward.

  • Shae’

    With all due respect I disagree highly with your comment Pink; nothing against your friends or even the friends I have that would suggest the same thing but that’s how you know the difference between a WOMAN and a GIRL. I personally know a lot of both Women and Girls, and GIRLS. That think they’re women like playing those games and enjoy being treated badly and dogged by guys (who btw aren’t men if they’re still mistreating or using females)! Let’s keep it real, a woman will not get down or be down for silliness like that and she damn sure won’t compromise who she is and what she believes in for some dude with an immature mindset just to have a companion or warm body next to her at night! No, WOMEN don’t do that… And not everyone who calls themselves a Woman IS ONE.

    • Pink

      Thank you Shae' for not just dismissing my comment as a disrepsectful rant against black women, because it wasnt and I love y'all so much I cant even see myself dating any other women (not that I am against it, but sistas is just what I love). At the same time, it is hard for men AND women to find the needle in the hay stack of good women/men. We have lives to live, and it becomes almost a full time job when you have to constantly protect yourself from the Girls pretending to be Women and at the same time keeping your heartt and mind open for the real women out there. Y'all (good women) are out there but it is hard to find you and the girls out there scew the preception of black women, even for the most optimistic black man.

  • Pink

    This article is a wast of time, women loved to be dogged. I dont like treating women in such a way, as a matter of fact I refuse but……time in time again I have been shown in various ways, that that is what they like. My academic and thug homeboys alike agree!

    • Just Shut Up

      Read the gray box above this message.

    • JustAshley

      You've been choosing the wrong women to date.