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The Opinions and Ideas Passed On Make You Uncomfortable

I’ll never forget the feeling I had when I sat in church a few weeks ago and heard the pastor pretty much do a 10 to 15 minute rant about why gay marriage was dead wrong and how black people and gay people could never relate. This was just during announcements ya’ll. And he wasn’t even the one doing the word for the day, he just thought in passing, he would read off his iPad and put his two cents in about the recent gay marriage legislation in New York. He made some interesting points, some things I could and couldn’t agree with, but seeing as I know gay people, I wasn’t feeling the tone he was taking or the words coming out of his mouth. I took them with a grain of salt and just wished he would pass the microphone to someone else, and quickly! However, the jubilant shouts of approval from numerous members, mixed with the stone faced and somewhat disturbed looks of others who didn’t agree made for an uncomfortable service I left with mixed feelings about. And it wouldn’t be the last time he let his opinion be known on the topic. You and your pastor definitely don’t have to agree on every single thing–you can still respect him, feel his message and where it’s coming from as a voice in your community, but disagree. But when you feel like people are trying to pass their stringent beliefs on to you when you really don’t want to hear it like that, those hours in church can feel like an eternity.

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